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I've recently discovered this blog (maybe ~1 week ago) and I've never done asks so apologies if I somehow mess something up here. I'm a relatively new alter but this has been a conundrum for most of the system since they figured out that they were in fact a system, members of our system will sometimes fuse/integrate (I don't really know the exact terminology) but only for a day or sometimes even just a few hours. It's honestly kind of confusing but mostly the issue is that it's pretty much immediate imposter syndrome for whoever's fused, and it's really not great for our mental health especially given that 3/4 known members of our system have pretty bad anxiety. We're pretty much out of ideas so I figured I might as well ask.

AGH I'm so terribly sorry I didn't see this sooner!!!!

We have actually have had the same phenomenon happen so, rest assured, you aren't experiencing something that "disqualifies" you from being plural (which, to be honest, I don't think that's possible regardless!).

I've said it a lot on here, but brains are really strange! Pretty much anything can happen with them. Sometimes you'll have splits, sometimes fusions, sometimes both at the same time, maybe someone in the system splinters off from another but doesn't consider it a split... or, like you and I have lived through, temporary fusion!

Anything goes with plurality. We're already a pretty brainweird community, and then add in circumstances that led us all to develop completely differently? There's bound to be a vast ocean of possibilities.

You're doing amazing! I hope this helps some, because, truly, you deserve to be comfortable in your own skin ❤️

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Do you know of any ways to become a gateway system? Or, I guess more accurately, to "open" a gateway if I think mine's been closed?

The description you gave sounds right (the inner world being a physical place), but I can never seem to find it.

I unfortunately do not know, as I am not a part of a gateway system :( I'm very very sorry! I wish I knew how to be more help.

If any gateway system is reading this, it'd be much appreciated if you dropped some ideas in the notes or our inbox! Thank you 💙

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You don't support all systems until you support TransPlural systems. - Signed, a plural collective of 4

this is genuinely not even worth a response but i just wanted to say

you mfs never seem to know created systems exist

"i want a system!!!!" ok, go make one. paromancy and daemons are.... right there. among probably a dozen other methods.

aligning yourself with the radqueer movement because you want headmates is the biggest fucking leap to make oh my god. I'm embarrassed on your behalf. jesus.

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hey there! i have a question

is there a word to differentiate alters by how long they've been around?

we only realized we're a system a year ago, but i remember some others as fronting a long time ago, and wanted to differentiate the "been around for like 6 years" and "been around for like a year"

we've been using the term "perennial" for older alters because it seemed to fit well enough, but i was wondering if there's a more "official" term

Hey!! So so sorry it took this long to answer, I hope you can excuse how overdue it is!

I don't know of a specific term myself, but I think "perennial" is a beautiful descriptor! It's possible that another word exists, but I'm not personally aware of it... maybe someone who follows us has an idea?

In any case, thank you for your patience, and, again, our sincerest apologies it was not responded to in a timely manner 🙏🏻

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oops. can you tell I forgot about this entirely 😅 time to actually write the post this time

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could you do a post for wilbur soot factives? he was recently outed as an abuser and our factive of him has been feeling quite shaken up about it

Hey! Unfortunately, I don't think we can do a post for Wilbur Soot factives specifically, but we can definitely make a post for problematic introjects (I could've sworn we did one before, but I can't find it anywhere... oh well, I'm happy to make another one! /gen)

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#reblog #answered

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sorry for the messy ask I sent you like 20 minutes ago. hope your day is going well

No you're perfectly ok!! 💙 That's what I'm here for, anonymous place to let everything out :)

Hope you're doing good too!

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I'm trying to figure myself out because I'm sick of being confused, but I'm not really sure where to start, and I was hoping you or someone else could help. I'll start at the beginning I suppose. As a child I have been told that I had imaginary friends or an imaginary friend until I got bored of it. It's hard to remember of course, but what I remember is that I had a couple of friends, Jade and Marble, girl and boy respectively, that I registered as not existing physically, but still being friends with me until my parents got sick of my talking to myself and even then I remember talking to them afterwards until eventually either they stopped talking to me or I did. Not sure which. Either way, I became less lonely for a time and I didn't have need of them. 10-12 I would guess?

Later, when I was 13-15 I wasn't alone alone in my head again. There were two boys named Taummy and Camiel. Taummy insisted it was spelled with an au because he was a golden boy and pointed to his blonde hair as proof. Camiel named himself, he had blue hair. I would imagine myself on a dock on a lake talking to them. Separate from but near the lake I mentally designed a library of my memories and a room connected to that in which there were couches and one wall was filled with whatever I was seeing through my eyes, ostensibly anyway, and sometimes Taummy would come in and replace me so that I wasn't controlling my body for a while. Taummy was around most of the time, near the lake or in the library, and would come when I called for him if he felt like it. Camiel wasn't around nearly as much, but Taummy said that he was in town if I asked. Eventually Camiel stopped showing back up, and Taummy stopped talking to me of his own volition, and I couldn't find him if I looked for him.

I dismissed both of those things as just... Elaborate daydreams, but recently I've been feeling someone again but if there is anyone there they haven't said anything or responded to my mental questions. I'm confused about this and honestly a little bit scared.

I don't think I have been losing any time, though my memory has never been the best.

thanks for your answer if you decide to respond

Hey there, sorry to hear you're having a rough time right now.

That could possibly be plurality, but it also very well could not be. Unfortunately, I am entirely unable to say in either direction. I can't diagnose, and I certainly can't make you choose what to identify as 😭

Plurality is the most subjective collective experience of a community I've ever seen. Which means like, 1 guy with exactly 3 imaginary friends could be plural, but so is a multi-universal gateway system, and so is DID, and so is a hoarde of sentient objects, it goes on.

Go be yourself, the knowledge will come if it's meant to. Otherwise, don't stress. You got this. 💙

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Heyo I don't know if this is a good place to ask, but. Our partner system has recently had alters born within their system (natalgenic) and we've been struggling to find anything about how other systems raise literal brain babies.

We've both been finding out as much as we can about childcare, but with the kids being born in-sys, there's just. Quite a few things that are different (like ya know, the whole different people controlling the body thing).

If anyone has any resources or advice of any kind, it would be greatly appreciated!!

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This is a tough one, but according to the internet, here's some things I'd recommend. Under a cut for length reasons. Also, the advice about trauma is easy to skip if it doesn't apply to you. I'm not trying to assume anyone's origins, just covering all the variables haha.

Keep in mind that baby headmates can have severe trauma and trauma responses like any other system member. Trauma can happen at any age, any time. Also, what's traumatic to a baby is a much lower threshold than adults for obvious reasons. The body keeps score even if you don't remember the event.

Babies often have basic feelings such as happy, sadness, scared, etc., and they're commonly without speech. (They may or may not understand language on a conception level, but unable to express themselves through it for whatever reason).

You might need help taking care of them properly. I'd strongly suggest supervision during fronting, either internally (co-front) or externally (someone in the outerworld watching them).

I'm not one to promote forcing people to stay away from front since it's really shitty to do that in most cases, but if they genuinely have no way of guaranteeing the system's safety (due to the inherent vulnerability of an infant), it might be best.

If you CAN let them front though, try to set up the area around you in advance. Sensory items, blankets, a pillow fort, toys, somewhere to read or listen to music, maybe even some kid's TV, things like that.

Like you already mentioned, parenting books might be helpful. I'd personally go for things geared around newborns, or whatever age the headmate is.

Babies form for tons of reasons; innerworld pregnancy, being traumalocked, needing to have basic needs met more often, brain just decided "idk man why not", etc. It's in no way required to know (and certainly not worth stressing about), but if you happen to be able to figure out why they formed, you could change your approach to suit whatever helps them grow and heal.

Speaking of growth! They might not be babies forever. I unfortunately do not have a crystal ball, but some alters can age later on. The kids in your system might just be that type of brainmate y'know? So be prepared just in case.

Wow, this is entirely too long, but I've spent too much time on it so it's getting posted anyways 💀 Sorry for all the information, I hope I didn't overload you! Godspeed 🙏🏻

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i can act like my source . as a treat

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mood..... i don't really have a source, but i am a wolf in some regard (it's complicated, so I'll probably write out the details on either @cripp-tid or @canidae-cripptid)

anyways my point being that i am physically incapable of seeing anything dog shaped without being like "HIIIII HI HI i am one of u. u cant quite tell, but trust me im not human". i would probably lose an arm trying to pet a coyote someday

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#answered #funny mail #🖤🤍 anon

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Have ya done one for new headmates/alters? It's rough bein' the new guy. 'Specially when no one's sure exactly why ya split in the first place. ~Angel 🐀🌊

There's almost a guarantee that we've made a post like that before, but I can't find it, so I'll make another at some point. It might be a while though, I have to see how many requests I've forgotten to do for like. 3+ months 💀

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how dare ! asking for a smidgen of positivity? on a positivity blog? inconceivable!

(just kidding, yes I'm going to try to post more, i gotta ease myself into it 😭)

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hey. u know who u are. pls give me a warning AND/OR ask me first before NSFW 18+ asks... like, I'm literally 21 bodily, so it's not that, but it is, shall we say. Very uncomfortable.

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#answered #:|

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when ur friends art causes u to switch and go insane cuz its so good and so You and now u have a headache and are mentally drained 🙏

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Yeah I felt that one 😭😭

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tbh i feel less valid as a system cuz im a kin system . not because anyone else said so but because my system is too close to just Kinning but system enough to not be Kinning and i feel like someone's gonna brush me off for that and say im not a real system

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Not meant to come across as too blunt or rude, but anyone who brushes off your validity based on vague interpretations they've come to hold as fact for basically no reason is not worth being around.

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One more question ✨

Hello how are you?

I have a question and that question is:

is there a term for a headmate that emerged with one origin but due to some factors ended up having more than one origin?

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I'm good, thanks! I hope you are too 💙

Also, there's none that immediately come to mind, unfortunately 😭 I scoured over 100 Pluralpedia pages, and the best I got is calling that particular headmate "multigenic" or something similar. Sorry I couldn't be more help :( I highly encourage you to check out Tumblr and Pluralpedia for yourself, though. Something might pop out at you that I missed somehow! Or, there's always coining a new term :)

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y'all ever have a host who doesn't really like fronting a lot

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YES. (not mad I just relate a lot lol)

Phoenix, prev host, absolutely hated fronting. he eventually basically forced himself to go dormant just to escape the stress. he came back eventually, but times were really hard still, so he fused with Solo and made me (Roan). things are much better now!

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gonna start clearing out the inbox (by answering them! not deleting.)

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