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now that i am a real adult i am starting to realise. media lied to me about the availability of rooftops to go hang out on. every day i wish i could be hanging out on a rooftop somewhere looking cool as fuck

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Wait, so you said that you can learn to trust others by building friendships, but how does one go about doing that? Wouldn't someone I don't know be creeped out or annoyed if I suddenly walked up and started talking to them?

Friendships are built of repeated low-stakes interactions and returned bids for attention with slowly increasing intimacy over time.

It takes a long time to make friends as an adult. People will probably think you're weird if you just walk up and start talking to them as though you are already their friend (people think it's weird when I do this, I try not to do this) but people won't think it's weird if you're someone they've seen a few times who says "hey" and then gradually has more conversations (consisting of more words) with them.

I cheat at forming adult friendships by joining groups where people meet regularly. If you're part of a radio club that meets once a week and you just join up to talk about radios, eventually those will be your radio friends.

If there's a hiking meetup near you and you go regularly, you will eventually have hiking friends.

Deeper friendships are formed with people from those kinds of groups when you do things with them outside of the context of the original interaction; if you go camping with your radio friend, that person is probably more friend than acquaintance. If you go to the movies with a hiking friend who likes the same horror movies as you do, that is deepening the friendship.

In, like 2011 Large Bastard decided he wanted more friends to do stuff with so he started a local radio meetup. These people started as strangers who shared an interest. Now they are people who give each other rides after surgery and help each other move and have started businesses together and have gone on many radio-based camping trips and have worked on each other's cars.

Finding a meetup or starting a meetup is genuinely the cheat-code for making friends.

This is also how making friendships at schools works - you're around a group of people very regularly and eventually you get to know them better and you start figuring out who you get along with and you start spending more time with those people.

If you want to do this in the most fast and dramatic way possible, join a band.

In 2020 I wrote something of a primer on how to turn low-stakes interactions with neighbors and acquaintances into more meaningful relationships; check the notes of this post over the next couple days, I'll dig up the link and share it in a reblog.

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Meet me in the mud.

#this is cool as hell op

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inside you there are two wolves

#heartbreak high #heartbreak high spoilers #i was dying laughing at that scene #the cut was so perfect #and then the way he hit himself in the head with it #heartbreak high s2

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i am begging whoever's in charge to put literally even just one masculine female character in heartbreak high s3. BEGGING.

#heartbreak high #there were no lesbian relationships this season im so mad #still loved it but cmon all that diversity and you cant give me any lesbian relationship drama?? #heartbreak high s2

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#literally me

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me for the past year or so

#love him <3 #heartbreak high #heartbreak high s2 spoilers #not really but

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Hannibal (2013-2015)

Hannigram in the first episode + Hugh Dancy talking about their relationship

Hannibal premiered 11 years ago on April 4, 2013

#gonna refer to this show as a romcom from now on #nbc hannibal

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Jodie GBBO core

#rly need to watch this oh my god

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no i take it for granted at this point but it genuinely is so nice that 13 was the way that she was. just the exact same non binary freak as before. i remember in 2017 even seeing queer people on here being like ‘aw omg she’s gonna do xyz traditionally feminine thing for the first time!!!1!’ no she’s not she’s going to eat soil. genuinely quite impressive that chibnall/the beeb got that right

#yes exactly a female doctor does not mean a feminine doctor! #the doctor will forever be a total weirdo freak regardless of form #dw

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Here’s a sneak peek into our merch pack… These gorgeous pins were designed for us by @allwalshedout on Twitter!

#omg look at them!! #dw

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OMG the backstory behind the whole boop thing is amazing.

#oh wow!!

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hello tumblr

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#blessed boop day to all who celebrate

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(I will boop everyone who reblogs this post, for the record 💖)

#affectionate mischief #boopboopboop

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Bathtime 💖

#this is fucking awesome #it's so Them #hannigram #nbc hannibal