#I gave this toxic person a second chance because technically I had a friendship breakup with them once before.

[tempesthreads]

I'm so tired and need to work but I just want to say how...relieving the process has been for me this few weeks or so of letting go of toxic people, making new friends, and reaching out and reconnecting with old friends. After being in a particularly shitty 'friendship' (it honestly felt more parasitical than anything sometimes), it was so weird to meet people who respect my boundaries and listened to what I had to say, rather than just use me to satisfy their own wants or needs. I'm still working on making sure I set and keep those boundaries up, but yeah. I'm glad I'm making progress.

#tempest talks #Mutuals i love you so much. #You know who you are. I love you so so so much. Thank you for bearing with me. #very long vent in tags: #I gave this toxic person a second chance because technically I had a friendship breakup with them once before. #But ultimately realized how unhappy I was talking to them #And how fundamentally different our ideologies were. #It's not to say people with different opinions can't be friends with each other. #But this person checked off so many of my personal 'red flags' and I just ignored them #because I felt bad about breaking up a relationship they seemed happy in #but spoiler alert: I was not happy in that relationship at all and it almost definitely wasn't healthy. #Ending that relationship was probably the best thing I could've done for myself. #And I'm so so so proud of myself for actually standing up for myself for once and getting myself out of a situation that made me unhappy. #Like this person is blocked from my blogs but if they're somehow reading this: #No I don't have regrets about ending our relationship. You have a lot of stuff you need to work through #and you really need to ask yourself how you view 'friends' and how you treat them. #Because from the perspective of one of your ex-friends: you are self-centered and do not give a flying fuck about your 'friends" #Correction: You do give a few fucks. But you're still self-centered and fail to listen to them when they set boundaries. #And you expect them to comfort you in a crisis when you offer the bare minimum back when they need help. #You also display a very concerning amount of ignorance when it comes to current events and history that is very important to acknowledge. #And yet for some reason you think you know better about the politics and injustices in my country than *me* a person living there? #All because you asked your parent? Who is also not from my country or living here??? #You have a lot of privilege due to the way you were born. And you don't acknowledge it. #Anyway please stay off my blog thanks. #Yes this is loaded with salt #but I wish you the best with whatever you're up to now. #and I hope you learn and grow to be a better friend and human being in general.