#Katryns sub adventures

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My FWB and I have been getting into Role Playing, and he wanted to play doctor.

Not my thing usually, but I'll give it a try. We are working out the details and testing the waters while I wait in the airport and I'm dying. 🤣

Him: Well, is it going to be Dr. (His last name) or Dr. (My last name)?

Me: Def you because this is your fantasy lol

Him: Okay, well Ms. (My last name) I'm going to have to get up close and examine you intimately, so you will need to take off your clothes.

Me: Okay, as long as that's standard procedure.

Him: Trust me, it is.

Me: Well, I don't have insurance...however will I pay you for the exam?

Him: Um. Well...that's not good.

Me:

Him:

Me: Ok. Nevermind, start over, not having insurance is too real.

Him: Too real. The health care in this country is NOT sexy.

Me: SO NOT SEXY.

#hes such a gem #this scenario might be a bust lmao #katryns sub adventures #role playing #tmi

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Massive TMI below the cut. I'm not kidding. Lol We're gonna talk about anal and embarrassing things during great sex.

So, the new FWB proved I could orgasm from anal. Three times, in fact.

He's funny. He's handsome. He's 6'5. Stupid Midwestern Charlie Hunnam looking mother fucker. He's charming as fuck. AS FUCK. He cursed when we stumbled into his bedroom because he had forgotten his son had crawled in bed for cartoons with him that morning and left a whole herd of stuffed dinosaurs. So, he is kissing my brains out and biting my neck and chucking stegosauruses aross the room while I laugh hysterically. CHARMING.

We got high and fooled around for over two hours. It was so much fun.

He put binder clips on my nipples. Took his belt to my ass cheeks and thighs. Fucked my throat in multiple positions, including on my stomach while he fingered my ass and made me cum. And then the grand finale was fucking my ass. Fuck it was so good. I did not expect it to be that good.

Also, blow jobs are hard when you're high because your mouth is so dry and you can't make spit. Deep throating is NOT as easy as it looks in porn, which I pointed out, and he died laughing at my revelation.

I was embarrassed because I was on my period and wearing a pad. He bent me over the bed, and I stood back up, and he asked what was wrong, so I explained. He smiled and said, "You are literally about to let me put my dick in your ass, I do not give a fuck how you choose to menstrate but if it makes you feel better...I give you my word I won't look."

Fuck, he's cute.

#katryns sub adventures #one of the requirements of great sex is being able to laugh and not being taken out of the moment #fingers crossed by all that this one sticks because I could get used to this

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My FWB made me come so hard I burst into overstimulation tears.

Plus, he used his belt to tie my wrists to the bed frame, and it was so hot I wanted to die.

He's so good in bed it's stupid.

#katryns sub adventures

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Sex is so fucking bizarre and gross sometimes.

I literally threw up on my fwb's dick and then, like 30 mins later after clean up and cuddles, he has me by the hair while we are watching each other masterbate but he's looking a my face...when I ask 'what?' His response?...."Nothing. I'm just admiring you."

This smooth jerk. Smdh.

He also literally made me squirt so hard there was a puddle in my kitchen. It was RIDICULOUS. Every time I tell him he can't make me cum that hard again, he makes it his personal mission to beat his own record.

It had been like a month since we had seen each other with the holidays and we were both very pent up and going at it like crazy. That was fun as fuck.

#he also used a lot of ice cubes on me tonight and a blindfold which was SUPER fun #katryns sub adventures

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I hope this isn’t crossing a line to ask but I was reading about your sub adventures and idk maybe I’m being close minded but how exactly did you and your wife get to that point? Like she’s truly not jealous or anything? Like is that relationship going to be strictly sex or are you both open to more? Idk that whole world to me is just so foreign and I’d love to know what it’s like.

Not crossing a line at all.

This got long as fuck so putting a read more.

So, here's the thing. You have to have a rock solid relationship with your "primary," aka the partner who was there first and will continue to be first and foremost. Neither of us finds jealousy attractive, and it just isn't something that has ever played a part in our relationship because...we talk? I know that seems over simplified, but it's true. I never have to guess where I stand or what she is thinking because if I don't know, I'll ask, and vice versa.

Trust plays a HUGE role. There can't be any secrets. Period. Full stop. I literally tell Kat everything. She knows who I'm talking to because I tell her. I WANT to tell her. She's the love of my life. I could easily toss her my phone and tell her to look up something, and if she so desired, she could read every single message I've ever sent to the men I meet. She doesn't need to because she trusts me, but the option is there.

We've had people tell us, "Oh, I could never do that because I would be too jealous." And to me, that is a red flag? Jealousy implies lack of trust, and yeah, if you're gonna be jealous, then you can't do this. Plain and simple. We run into this issue a LOOOOOOT on Fet with hetero couples. Their core relationship is struggling, so instead of getting uncomfortable and digging to the root of the problem, they open their marriage, thinking that will fix everything..IN WHAT WORLD DOES THAT MAKE SENSE. idk don't ask me, man. But that has been the most consistent and frustrating part about all of this. I wind up playing marriage counselor because they will say to me what they feel they can't say to each other, and I'm like, how is this my job? I just want to be fucked/choked a little. Im not your therapist. And finding a Unicorn won't fix your marriage, Deborah/Kyle. That can't possibly fall to me. 😅

As far as that person's role in our lives, they have to bring something to the table. They have to benefit us in some way. What men on Fet seem to not understand is that if we wanted to just fuck someone, we could. But we are looking for a bit more than that. We're not saying we are looking for a husband or someone to move in, but we don't really do one night stands, especially with me looking for a full time Dom, there has to be trust and a connection.

Example: one of the most consistent men we've been talking to is very up front with the fact that he just wants to be FWB, however, he knows we are PEOPLE and he is adamant about making sure that the 'FRIENDS' is kept in the fwb equation. He will sext me and get downright filthy, but there are also times when he sends me pictures of his kid at baseball practice or his trip to the botanical gardens and always asks about my day. (He literally stopped talking about eating me out to show me the pumpkins he was growing on his family farm yesterday. 🤣 he is the definition of golden retriever)

We have always been open to the idea of polyamory and view love as it's not a piece of a pie that people take chunks out of, and then it's gone and all used up. Instead, love is always about addition, and if we were to find a third, it's just MORE LOVE. Love is not a finite resource.

I once had a guy on Fet ask me, "If you love your wife so much, then why are you looking for a third? What's missing in your relationship?" And I told him that first off, that's rude as hell, but I gave him an answer. What's missing? Nothing. Literally nothing. We could pack this shit up tomorrow and close our Fetlife accounts, and be 100% happy the way we are. It's not about something missing, it's about the fact that the two of us have more to GIVE.

At the end of the day, we look at this situation with the knowledge that we are so fucking incredibly lucky. Because no matter what happens, we have each other. Our relationship with our third could go down in flames, and yet, I'll still have the love of my life standing beside me, sleeping next to me, navigating the world. And when you have a fail safe like that, it's really easy to put yourself out there and be brutally honest. I'm able to tell the people I meet on Fet, 'Hey, this is me. Here are my flaws, here are my desires, you cool or not?' It is so efficient 😅 I'm too old to play games and know what love is and should feel like, we're a package deal and if they can't hang, then thank you for playing but next contestant.

I hope that helps a bit? The bottom line is that it's not easy because if it were, then everyone would do it.

#Katryns sub adventures #asks #polyamory #polyamourous

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APPARENTLY IM NOT GOING TO SHUT UP ABOUT THIS, I WISH I WAS ASHAMED OR SORRY--

Adding a read more for TMI/BDSM dynamics again

The guy who I talked about in my last post is exceeding all of my fucking expectations.

Not everything we talk about is even sexual. He's started taking control of little unimportant aspects of my day, one of them being he gets to choose pretty/sexy outfits for me to wear to work. (Lipstick, dresses, jewelry, panties, the whole 9 yards.) I like this way more than I realized because its one less thing I have to worry about as an overworked virgo with a martyr complex and a big ol' perfectionist streak.

He's being super fucking attentive, I never have to ask, he's just ON IT and always three steps ahead etc etc. Anyway, I have to go to a gala event tomorrow for charity. It is being put on by my old job and I have to go as a representative of my new job. I gave him a bunch of options and he picked everything out, dress, heels, stockings, garters, everything.

For obvious reasons, I'm so fucking nervous. I'm dreading it. Everyone who wronged me back in Jan/Feb will be there (and for those who dont know it was a whole thing involving our dog who bit me during a seizure, put me in the ER, and our personal vet approved her euth and a vet who I had turned into HR demanded she be tested for rabies.)

He asked me why I was nervous. I told him it was a long story and he said "I have time."

I told him everything about the end of my time at the shelter, our sweet dog, the vet who I turned into HR and then the veterinary board, everything. He asked for pictures of my leg in the hospital and one now that it is healed because I told him I was torn between loving the scar because I miss her so much and being self conscious about how it looked because it is huge, but I sent him the pictures.

Then all of a sudden in the middle of our conversation he calls me and says, "I'm changing your outfit for tomorrow. No stockings or garters."

I said, "What why??"

He said, "If anyone that did you wrong is there I want them to see how hot you look, how incredible you are doing without them, how amazing you are. I want them to see your scar/leg and know you haven't fucking forgotten what they did...and neither will I."

LIKE EXCUSE ME??? WHAT KINDLE UNLIMITED SMUT BOOK DID YOU PULL THAT OUT OF?? But he doesn't have time to read a lot so I know that's just HIM.

THATS THE HOTTEST FUCKING SHIT I HAVE EVER HEARD. WHO SAYS THAT??? WHOMST comes up with that shit right on the spot?? He INSTANTLY called after I typed everything out so that's just how he thinks????

I need to touch grass. I need to just walk around the block and box breathe.

#katryns sub adventures #hoooooooolllllllyyyyyyy fucking shiiiiiiiiiiiitttttttt #THE BAR HAS BEEN RAISED AND IT IS THROUGH THE ROOF???? #I think I need to start keeping a journal because I want to remember all the stuff he says #its gonna wind up in my fics if I ever find time to write again. jfc

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What would you describe as “your type” when it comes to men?

Oh boy.

So, my wife and I got really high one night and we're discussing hot animated characters (both men and women because we are bi and refuse to choose) and found out that 90% of the animated men I'm attracted to were animals??? And I think that says a lot about my general perception of men. 🤣🤣🤣

However, I do have a "type" and it's two sides of the same coin I feel. Because it involves things my psyche "lacks"/has deemed "rare" and Ive had a lot of men be very intimidated by my intelligence and my drive. Which is a huge fucking turn off for me and the fastest way to get me to say, thank you, next.

Side A. If we are talking fictional men (mainly), I like em tall, dark, and handsome, and they have to have a god complex. They want to fight god, and nothing will stop them. Hubris? Never met her. Wit is a must. They need to be able to go toe to toe with me and keep up.

Side B. Since dating men again on Fet, I find that I'm an absolute sucker for a blue-collar man. We're talking jeans and steel toed boots every day. Tired from working their ass off but can still dom me after their 9-5 is done. Taller than me is a plus. Beard/facial hair required. Still prefer darker hair usually, but that doesn't really matter. However, this can get tricky because if you live in the midwest, then they can get real dicey real fast.

I have ZERO problem asking a man who they voted for in 2016 and allowing that answer to dictate if there is a second date.

#katryns sub adventures #asks

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You know you've found a fuck buddy you can vibe with where after you blow each other's backs out reverse cowgirl style, you cuddle and get high and he shows you this string of videos he found about a religious cult.

#katryns sub adventures #i was so high #but all my squats are paying off #thats for damn sure

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I paid for this, btw. ✌️😅

#katryns sub adventures #d/s #d/s dynamic #im not a brat by any means but I am very sarcastic and have a quick wit

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I hope I’m not asking anything too personal or over the line, but I’m just getting into the d/s life and don’t even know where to start, how did you find your dom? How did you get into this lifestyle?

Nothing is too personal, babe. I'm literally using Tumblr as my journal right now for this journey I'm on. If there is a question that I prefer not to answer, I'll say that. Now, that being said, my DMs are always open and my responses will be more tailored to what you want to know if we talk directly but if you're not comfortable I understand.

This got away from me so putting a read more.

I have only been actively looking for a Dom on fet for about 2 months. So, I'm not an expert by any means and I can only speak for myself.

My main advice can be broken into two parts:

1. Do your research so you know what you want (obviously you haven't tried everything but I'm not talking about individual kinks here, I'm talking overall) For me, I wanted a Dom with experience that was willing to be patient and go slow with me since I am very inexperienced. I wanted someone who was okay with waiting to fuck me because I wanted to get to know them/be comfortable first. I wanted someone who would include my wife in everything and make her feel welcome and wanted/respect our marriage.

(Obviously, there is implied stuff, like must not be a predator, must be clean, would prefer if he were taller than me, can't be a trump supporter etc etc. I live in the midwest, that last one is important lmao)

2. Do not compromise

When I first joined Fet I was overwhelmed with messages. As someone who has not been outwardly sexual until now it felt wonderful to have so much attention and there was a thrill in telling total strangers that you wanted someone to grab you by the hair and face fuck you. So fun and dirty, right? I quickly realized, do not respond to every message. Be picky. Be selective. If there isn't a vibe or you aren't excited to talk to someone YOU DONT HAVE TO. They can go get their rocks off somewhere else.

A cute guy messaged me last night. Said he had Dom experience but wanted to disclose he was married, no big deal so am I, buuuuuut she doesn't know he's on Fet. Sorry, pal. Next.

One guy said he was a Dom but his biggest fantasy was being tied up and used by two women. Uh...I don't...are you lying about one of these things? Also I don't want to do that for you. Next.

I have had someone ask me to piss on them while wearing stilettos. No thank you, please read my bio, I'm a sub. Next.

One guy started off great but quickly didn't respect my boundaries in the messages and scared me so badly I sobbed to my wife because it made me feel like I had done something wrong, or I deserved his words because I was a slutty submissive who doesn't know whats good for her and wants to be used--I essentially slut shamed myself. I blocked him, he made a second account....I deactivated my page for 3 days after that. But I calmed down and came back because like hell was that nobody going to ruin this for me.

This ask has gone on way too long but we have gone on some really shitty meet and greet coffee dates. Brush them off and move on. No harm, no foul. There are already four more lined up behind them, babe.

The guy who is currently UC as my dominant kinda fell in my lap. It is a very serendipitous story if yall wanna know sometime.

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#katryns sub adventures #i love all you babes and im making these posts for me but also for you because I know how badly i want to talk about it and share knowledge #and experiences so I can not be the only one #my ask and Dms are open loves

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Things that happened Wednesday that I was shocked with how much I enjoyed:

Y'all know the drill with the read more. Don't click it unless you wanna get TMI.

Being face fucked

Being face fucked in public

Being slapped (not once but twice. The second one I asked for on purpose)

Having my Dom dote on me, clean me up, fix my hair/dress, and tell me how pretty I am after he came on my face and sent a picture to my wife.

I had to safeword for the first time and after I relaxed and we started kissing again I touched his cock and was surprised because he wasn't hard anymore, to which he responded, "of course I'm not, I thought I really hurt you."

If that's not the cutest shit you've ever heard idk what is.

He has the ability to scare the shit out of me in a good way, but to his core, he is a pleasure Dom.

#katryns sub adventures #he does this thing where he grabs my hair and turns my head to the side so he can choke me and give me that fuzzy feeling without pain #its wild #his dirty talk is on a complete different level #he just DOESNT stop #also the orders...get up/get on your knees/get your hand off my cock/ask me first/dont look behind you face forward #it was...whew boy #d/s dynamic #d/s

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My wife and I had some of the best sex of our lives tonight.

#katryns sub adventures

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When your coworker who goes to bed at 6pm, texts you at midnight and you ask why the hell she's up...turns out you were both doing the exact same thing. 🤣

#my knees are still shaking #we role played and it was super fun #he also yanked me down so hard on his face i thought he was going to break his own nose on my pelvis #the man likes to eat not lick....EAT. holy shit fucks #katryns sub adventures

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YO.

Putting a read more because it's TMI and involves bdsm dynamics.

When you're texting someone you're vetting as your dom, and he says the most wonderful filthy shit and it makes you blush so you tell him you're blushing and he asks for a picture of you blushing and you send it to him flipping off the camera and you just get back a text that says:

"You didn't think that through, did you, princess?"

#i literally texted back 'WELL NOW I DID' #and he just said 'too late' #I DONT LIKE THIS #jk i fucking love it #katryns sub adventures #seriously what fanfic did this fucker fall out of????

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When you're still thinking about the or*asm your fwb gave you last night and if you didn't have to get up at 5am you'd be calling him for another one.

#the man is getting very good at making it happen #very very good #like he just bullseyes in and knows exactly what to do #i hate being too turned on to sleep #its a problem #katryns sub adventures #hes so much fun

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Get you a FWB that:

Spends 30 minutes asking about your day and scrubbing his fingernails and hands at the sink because he's a landscaper and they were dirty and he "wasn't allowing them anywhere near your pretty p*ssy until they were spotless"

Stops you mid BJ because he was playing with your nipples and you made a comment about being cold so he went and got the space heater

During the most mortifying sexual experience of your life, makes sure you are 100% reassured that "it's okay, you're still hot AF, sex is messy and weird and he still wants to fuck you because you're fun as hell, and please don't cry, I do not care about what just happened but I will die if you cry."

Proceeds to eat you out to distract you from your embarrassment and get you back in the mood.

Tells you you have the 🐱 that men dream of and all girls claim to have. And when you tell him stop lying, he says with a serious face that you've never seen on him before, "I'm not." And you believe him. And tell him if he keeps up with compliments like that, I may start an only fans.

Asks that if you do start an only fans that he gets to hold the camera and be your hype man. Because times are tough and life is short so you do you baby.

He's an absolute goober.

#katryns sub adventures #hes just a genuinely good dude #theres no romance there but hes just got the good vibes