#LyftedThoughtsSeries

[chefneverserious]

(LYFTED) Thoughts Series | Shower Thoughts

All my life I have allowed myself to be ruled by others. Mentally, emotionally, physically, sexually.

It is why the fearless spirit of love and connection, that at times barely flickers, is merely a glimmer of what it once was.

I should clarify that this is not my daily existence. I have had moments of victory. Of pulling myself up by the "bootstraps of my vagina." I have lead and helped others in these precious moments.

But that is when I attract the filth and grime and vacuum that wants to suck up my air. Snuff me out. Harness me. Lovers. Friends. Family.

Never all. But there have been. For the ones I choose, I sure do pick them.

They tore away at me. Used me. Made me feel inadequate or stupid until I finally believed it.

I am a work in progress. I am attempting to reclaim the lost parts of me. The undiscovered parts of me.

This is a reclamation of self/identity, existence and movement through art, healing, creation/creativity and action.

07.12.2020

#LTS #LyftedThoughtsSeries #(lyfted) thoughts series #(l)t series #high society #cannabistherapy #reclamation

[chefneverserious]

(Lyfted) Thoughts Series: Sex Drive isn’t male vs female

My partner who I haven’t seen in over a week and half came over. He lost it during foreplay in the shower. All he could do was apologize. This isn’t the first time I have encountered these situations. A young me use to think it was my fault - what did I do to lose the mood? Am I not attractive enough? Not sexy enough? Truth be told, those thoughts do pop up when it happens. 

But now I am at a place where I understand - I have a high sex drive. I am not abnormal for it. My partners, male or female - may not match that. There is nothing wrong with me. I can take a deep breath, place my frustrations of ‘not getting nookie tonight’ honestly and let them know “it we’ll be okay.” That I don’t judge them or shame them because of it. 

...And then go rub one out after they fall asleep or go back home.

“...And men aren’t the only ones who are disconnected from the complex system underlying their desire. Many women, even those with raging libidos, don’t often look beyond the superficial aspects of their desire. When Glickman works with a couple struggling to manage mismatched libidos, he presents them with a straightforward—yet surprisingly illuminating—question: “What is it that you’re trying to get out of sex?”

We spend so much time thinking of sex as an inherently desirable experience—something where more is self-evidently better—that few of us truly think about what, exactly, we’re getting out of it. Pleasure and orgasmic release is an essential part of the experience, to be sure, but it’s also readily available through masturbation. For many of us, the pursuit of sex is about something deeper: a desire to feel close to a partner, a validation of our desirability, a distraction from stress.”

Read the full article here.

#sex drive #limbido #(lyfted) thoughts series #lyftedthoughtsseries #letstalkaboutsex

[chefneverserious]

(Lyfted) Thoughts Series : Twat Twits from the past

Trains of thought I forgot to follow. But looking to pick back up...

March 2017 Talk about the last 5 or so min of ep 1 of Weedequette. The parents talking with their 17 yr old about weed...the look in the girl's eye as the stoned ass mom is talking. I believe in weed use. But I wonder if some of these parents didn't just want to get high anyways and this gave them the excuse

April 13 2017: When side boo (my music player) starts a new song...

Is it Toes by The Animals or Can't Tell Me Nothing by Kanye West??

Wouldn't matter because it was that type of mood. You would have vibed either way

4.23.2017 : I need to start talking out loud again. I am missing great convos with myself and such clarity on how these decisions and thoughts represent me. Whenever I have trouble explaining myself...talking out loud helped.

If you are ever high with me and I get quiet. Ask me what I am thinking. And make sure we are recording.

4.24.2017 "Chicago got me on my knees"

Chicago lit up in neon and in a phallic shape. 3 versions of "me" on my knees being fucked (over) by Chicago.

Orally. Anally. Vaginally.

Inspired by the Lyrics...LA got me on my knees

2.8.2019

Occam's razor (also Ockham's razor or Ocham's razor (Latin: novacula Occami); further known as the law of parsimony (Latin: lex parsimoniae) is the problem-solving principle that essentially states that simpler solutions are more likely to be correct than complex ones. When presented with competing hypotheses to solve a problem, one should select the solution with the fewest assumptions.

2.8.2019

Nyx is the Greek goddess (or personification) of the night. A shadowy figure, Nyx stood at or near the beginning of creation and mothered other personifieddeities such as Hypnos (Sleep) and Thanatos(Death), with Erebus (Darkness). 

#(lyfted) thoughts series #(l)t series #music #high society #lyfted and gyfted #lyfted thoughts series #lyftedthoughtsseries #whats in your head

[chefneverserious]

The thoughts that apparently plagued me one cold #february night. #lyftedthoughtsseries #dickenomics #supplyanddemand #dasinglelife #latenightmindmunchies #phonecleaning #ltseries

#lyftedthoughtsseries #ltseries #supplyanddemand #dickenomics #february #latenightmindmunchies #dasinglelife #phonecleaning

[chefneverserious]

(Lyfted) Thoughts Series: spheres of Life

As I finish off a quick 1 am "Let's be real" msg on okc or Tinder or one of those random dating apps. I reflect upon something key to the difference between my work sphere and the other spheres of my life (social, home, relationships, hobbies). I have had years and varied experience to be at 30 and say...I know what I want. I know what I feel when it comes to how I interact with everything except for my career. I lack the specific experience and confidence to know how to assert myself at the same level I do in other facets in life. I need to stop caring about coming off as the aggressive/angry black woman. Because being reserved has done nothing for me at work. So now I need to bring the decisive bad botch out to play at work.

#lyftedthoughtsseries #(L)Tseries #beastmode

[chefneverserious]

(Lyfted) Thoughts Series:

When the phone - not - phone you have been using as a music player finally dies, so you go back to that old janky ipod you kept from h.s.. Only to fall back in love with songs you haven’t heard in ages.

#lyftedthoughtsseries

#(lyfted) Thoughts Series #(L)Tseries #I am music #old loves #falling in love all over again #Common #Jill Scott #J. Dilla #?uestlove #James Poyser #music