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hiddengiggles · 4 months

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Please remember to cater to your basic human needs before engaging in kink!

That means:

Drink water. This is for safety sure, but orgasms are way better when you’ve got the raw materials for it. Same with just wetness/precum, better hydrated than dry.

Have a snack. Your body may go through a lot and you blood sugar being low is dangerous. You don’t need a full meal, but consider a little fruit if you’re keeping it light, and try to have something nearby for afterwards to rebalance your blood sugar.

Check in with your mental state. D/s can be a wonderful way to soften the sharp edges in your mind, but if you’re already feeling off, consider more gentle activity. Adding the risk of drop (subdrop or Domdrop) can make your wonky day into a shitty week. Not worth it, care for your longterm wellbeing above momentary fun.

Plan for rest. You need to give yourself time to recover after engaging! I don’t care if you cum or not, if you’re going to do a scene or session or whatever, plan out time for aftercare and, if you’re a person who needs it, maybe a nap/time to drift. Do not play right up until you have to be somewhere, your endorphin drop will fuck you up.

This probably isn’t an all inclusive list but a good little checklist so you can do fun stuff with a little more care for your health, happiness, and safety.

You may have things to add to this list as you get to know yourself more. For some, their meditation may be a factor. Others may need to plan for a specific ritual to prepare themselves so they feel good. Affirmations might be important to get ready for a scene and still feel good about it. Additional checklist items can be tailored to you/your dynamics/your partners, but the above apply to everyone.

So remember: hydrate, eat, mental check in, rest.

#tips and tricks #ssc #rack #safe sane consensual #kink safety #risk aware consensual kink #not quite sfw #my writing

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midnight-roses-candy · 9 months

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I will always reject SSC (safe, sane, consensual) as a framework (in favor of RACK) on two grounds:

Nothing is ever 100% safe. Lots of things worth doing carry risk, and it’s better to know those risks and know how to minimize them and decide which are worth taking.

I dislike the ableism inherent to the framing of “sane.” The idea of sanity has always been an ableist one used to deny rights and freedoms to people.

In lieu, I endorse the framework of RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink), which I think removes the ableism and adds explicit discussion of risk awareness rather than the idea that some things are “safe” and others “unsafe.”

#lesbian nsft #kink safety #rack #ssc #risk aware consensual kink #safe sane consensual

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alittlemxchievous · 4 months

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Hello, I have a girlfriend of sorts that's into hypnosis and she wants me to hypnotize her, you got any suggestions? I'm kinda using your hypnosis audio as a baseline and then working it into more specific kinks and scenes she likes

My first suggestion. Slow down. You need to do research to understand what is happening. @pruning-the-minds-garden has some excellent posts explaining the fundamentals of how trance works and the risks involved. Don't just jump into hypno as the hypnotist without making yourself aware of some of the dangers. As someone who has been deeply impacted by a hypnotist that didn't know what they were doing, do your research and remember that hypnosis is a RACK kink. It's BDSM for your psyche. Give it the time and respect it deserves and it will be a wonderful tool.

#kae answers #educational kink with kae #RACK kink #risk aware consensual kink #educational kink

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bruisedloverr · 11 months

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With how sensitive I am right, it surely would be a shame if someone was caressing my naked body with the tip of a recently sharpened knife, and stopping on my outer labia and inner thighs to tease these zones some more, hearing the dumb noises I make. Who could even think about it.

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puppytopper · 21 days

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hands up if you would let me beat you with a flogger, let me bruise you and make you bleed, cutting crossing lines into your skin, and then fuck you while i play with the marks and make you cry out pain while you come

#wolf howls #s@do #rack #risk aware consensual kink #!!#ofc #i would treat your wounds after

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hauntedselves · 1 year

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[with the caveat that a paraphilia is a disorder only if it involves nonconsent and/or distresses the person]

i’m obviously not qualified to make these decisions, but if i were on the DSM or ICD taskforce I’d suggest completely restructuring the paraphilia section.

currently the section looks like this:

DSM-5-TR:

pedophilia

voyeurism

exhibitionism

frotteurism

masochism

sadism

fetishism (body parts or inanimate objects)

transvestism (crossdressing)

other specified & unspecified paraphilic disorders

ICD-11:

exhibitionism

voyeurism

pedophilia

sadism

frotteurism

other paraphilia involving nonconsent

other paraphilia involving consent or solitary activities that causes distress or risk of harm/death

unspecified paraphilic disorder

as (almost) always i like the ICD set up more.

i think that so many different diagnoses are unnecessary. i would have only 4:

paraphilic disorder involving nonconsent (covers pedophilia, exhibitionism, voyeurism, coercive sadism & frotteurism in the above sections)

paraphilic disorders that cause distress involving consent or solitary activities (e.g. someone who’s distressed at their masochism, or someone who’s distressed at their crossdressing)*

other specified & unspecified paraphilic disorders

and that’s it! clinicians could specify (e.g. the diagnosis could be “paraphilic disorder involving nonconsent, specifically: exhibitionism”).

i don’t think listing out paraphilias is a good thing, especially because so many paraphilias exist. the DSM says that they list those specific 8 paraphilic disorders because “they are relatively common, in relation to other paraphilic disorders, and some of them entail actions for their satisfaction that, because of their noxiousness or potential harm to others, are classed as criminal offenses”. which, fair enough, but all of these can be collapsed into the 4 diagnoses i suggest. and even the other specified diagnosis is probably redundant in my suggestion.

the other way they could do it is by separating the diagnoses into disordered activities & targets. so for example, “paraphilic disorders involving nonconsent” could be separated into nonconsensual behaviours (e.g. exhibitionism) vs targets (individuals who can’t or don’t consent) (e.g. pedophilia). the DSM sorta does this, they say:

“The first group of disorders is based on anomalous activity preferences. These disorders are subdivided into courtship disorders, which resemble distorted components of human courtship behavior (voyeuristic disorder, exhibitionistic disorder, and frotteuristic disorder), and algolagnic disorders, which involve pain and suffering (sexual masochism disorder and sexual sadism disorder). The second group of disorders is based on anomalous target preferences. These disorders include one directed at other humans (pedophilic disorder) and two directed elsewhere (fetishistic disorder and transvestic disorder).”

but again i think that’s overcomplicating things. reducing 8-10 diagnoses into 4, that include a specifier of what the paraphilia is, seems a lot more easy to manage.

* (i don’t think risky sexual behaviour warrants a disorder, especially since the BDSM community teaches practitioners to manage them as safely as possible)

#risk aware consensual kink (RACK) exists as an inclusive alternative to the Safe Sane & Consensual motto #so i don't think that something like asphyxophilia (the ICD example) warrants a disorder just because its risky #dogpost #paraphilias #paraphilic disorder #dsm #icd #psych critical

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ao3feeddestiel · 6 months

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Day 24: Bratty Sub Anal/Oral Training Caging Destiel Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK)

read it on AO3 at https://ift.tt/cBkHlwG by spn-fanfic-reblog-writes (Lmrb19) Kinktober 2023 prompt Words: 486, Chapters: 1/1, Language: English Series: Part 19 of Kinktober 2023 Fandoms: Supernatural (TV 2005) Rating: Explicit Warnings: No Archive Warnings Apply Categories: M/M Characters: Castiel (Supernatural), Dean Winchester Relationships: Castiel/Dean Winchester Additional Tags: Castiel/Dean Winchester BDSM, RACK - Freeform, Risk Aware Consensual Kink, Bratty Dean Winchester, Top Castiel/Bottom Dean Winchester, Dom Castiel/Sub Dean Winchester, Cock Cages, Anal Play, Oral Fixation, Punishment, Dean Winchester is Not Heterosexual, Praise Kink read it on AO3 at https://ift.tt/cBkHlwG

#IFTTT #Day 24: Bratty Sub #Anal/Oral Training #Caging #Destiel #Risk Aware Consensual Kink (RACK)#spn-fanfic-reblog-writes (Lmrb19)

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sprout-fics · 9 months

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I keep thinking about the way people write Ghost as a Dom.

There’s a tendency in the x reader part of this fandom to write CoD men as very dominant, kinky, rough, degrading kind of personas. I like the idea of a dominant character about as much as the next smut writer, but I’ve noticed a tendency for folks to really lean into this, and make characters (mostly Ghost) almost malicious in his sex acts. It sits wrong with me because Simon is a victim of some pretty horrific sexual assault in his original comics, and also someone we see who has compassion and tries extremely hard to distance himself from his traumatic past.

However, I also feel like there is a way for Ghost to be involved in dominancy and kink without it being completely antithetical to his character. This is my personal interpretation, trying to closely keep in mind Simon’s past, and you are free to disagree with it. However I think the idea of Simon finding kink/dominancy as a way of reclaiming his sexuality after his trauma is deeply fascinating, and worth exploring.

(TW: Discussions of consent violation and sexual trauma)

Ghost experienced sexual assault in his comics tied to the original series, for those of you who may not know. I’ll spare the details, as I’ve been over this several times before. Like many sexual assault survivors, he has nightmares from his time being tortured. It’s pretty easy to conclude from this that Simon has a complicated relationship with sex. I adore soft Simon, I think the pieces of Simon getting emotional during very tender sex are some of my favorites. I also think there’s layers to character interpretation.

It’s not uncommon for survivors of trauma, sexual or otherwise, to try and use kink as an emotional and physical outlet to work through severe emotions. Kink offers a safe, controlled context for sexual trauma survivors to reclaim sexual confidence and comfort. While sexual trauma like assault is a non-consensual seizure of power and dominance, power exchange in a safe, kinky setting can be a consensual, healthy practice to reframe sexual trauma. Kink centers and emphasizes communication and consent which are vital tenets of any healthy sex. (Source)

For Simon, what happened to him was a complete lack of control which led to physical, emotional, and psychological harm. So, for me, it makes complete sense he would approach kink/BDSM practices through the lens of dominance, where the exchange is focused on retaining control rather than the surrender of control. Personally, I think Simon would be very very hard pressed to ever be a sub, and would only consider it with someone who he trusts with not just his life, but his mental well-being, which for him is a very challenging task.

The idea of Simon being involved in kink related dominancy (Side note, there’s is a difference between someone saying they like to be dominant in bed vs identifying as a ‘Dom’, which I see many many writers make the mistake of) can, to me, be seen as a safe way to explore sex following the events in the comics. Responsible Doms hold consent sacred, and know that partners invest a significant amount of trust in them to keep them safe during kink related activities, sexual or otherwise. It isn’t uncommon for BDSM dynamics to form ‘contracts’ that outline things that are completely off the table. Safewords are an absolute must, and must be respected at all times.

Note: Dominancy =/= Rough, degrading, hair pulling sex. Dominancy can be deeply psychological, in learning your partner’s mannerisms, wants, desires, and most importantly their triggers.

There’s often very definitively laid out boundaries between partners, and it goes both ways. Ex: you may not like being called degrading names. For Simon (In my personal opinion) I think this involves a refusal to bottom, being restrained, and other things that may invoke triggers related to his trauma. A lot of concepts revolving around BDSM ( (SSC) Safe, Sane, Consensual / (RACK) Risk-Aware Sexual Kink) emphasize and hold accountability for both partners to communicate clearly with each other and respect these clearly set boundaries while being aware of the acts they are involved in.

I think this sense of rules, consent, guidelines, contracts, and boundaries of how to participate in kink is fairly relieving for Simon. It provides a clear framework of how to approach his partners and ensure both their safety and his own. I feel like Simon is very hesitant about the idea of dominance, because he often fears perpetuating behaviors his abusers committed against him. So this covenant of etiquette towards partners provides a much needed structure for him to work in. If he’s a man of routine (which personally, I like to think so. He’s in the military, which tends to do that to you) and it is deeply relieving for him, because it acts almost like a boundary that prevents him from abusing his partners. So Simon doing research into BDSM/Kink etiquette is totally feasible in my mind, especially when we take into a concept of him using largely agreed upon guidelines and suggestions to allow him space to reclaim his sexuality without it turning into a victim to abuser scenario. (There’s also room to be explored regarding Ghost and protocol based BDSM dynamics within this same vein, but that’s a different essay)

(Another side note: It is easy for abusers to take advantage of victims by concealing themself behind being a Dom. However, this is why concepts such as contracts, SSC, and RACK exist, to help mitigate instances of this. If you are interested in these types of dynamics, please please do some responsible research to know how to spot people like this)

There’s a lot of nuance to this idea. However, I have seen some AMAZING fics explore this concept of Simon being a responsible Dom while also keeping in mind he is a deeply complicated person with a complex history. Simon’s sexual assault does not define his character, but it is an important facet to it considering that the trauma of his torture formed him into the character we are introduced to- a man who burned his past but continues to carry it with him in the form of a mask designed to separate himself from others.

Here’s some fic recs that explore or touch on this topic, thanks for reading:

Surviving You - WhisperedWords12: SoapGhost BDSM AU that provides a great understanding of consensual dynamics, contracts, consent, subdrop/domdrop, and touches on how irresponsible dominant partners can leave lasting, scarring impressions on their partners

Exfilitration - Vedettare: Similar concept in that Ghost assists Soap through subdrop, and realizes he may be poorly handling the way he engages in his and Soap’s dynamic, which he tries to rectify (Ongoing)

Mine and Yours - Artemis_Neardos: Again, SoapGhost, simultaneously explores Ghost as a Dom as well as his relationship with his trauma, and does a very good job doing so. Bonus: Dom/Sub AleRudy. This series involves under negotiated kink at the beginning, which improves later. Mind the tags

Disclaimer: I am not an expert in this area. I am relaying things I have learned. I encourage you, if you are interested, to do your own research and read critically the things that are available to you. Never engage with partners who do not respect your consent

#simon ghost riley #simon 'ghost' riley #call of duty modern warfare #cod mw2 #cod mw2022

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