#all the effort ive sunk into my own friendships will also go poof! one day v soon

[patrice-bergerons]

I haven't seen the Ghosts finale and I don't think I ever will but that the one line I keep seeing repeated in posts by people who liked it is "they are their own family now" chills me to the bone. For one, it was established long ago that Allison can see ghosts wherever she goes, so good luck to them finding a place that is completely ghost free in the UK, but more importantly, this idea that your nuclear family suddenly becomes the only people you can rely on and the only people who really matter the moment you have kids, and that everyone around you is expected to understand, and further, to positively encourage this, is horrifying to me. Like speak of allonormativity and prioritisation of cishet nuclear family structures over ALL else. (I know they *visit* Button House and that's really not the same thing.)

#bbc ghosts #i feel like as a child free individual who is not that interested in dating #all the effort ive sunk into my own friendships will also go poof! one day v soon #and it already has in some instances #when people get married and settle down and have kids #and you are suddenly relegated to 2nd tier status #and further you are expected to understand and uphold this #and idk i wasnt expecting a show that is all abt found family to go down that round #but i was REALLY not expecting the fandom rxn to it #including from people i otherwise respect on my dash #oof