#also can be applied to those who forced kit Connor to come out

[theamazingannie]

I’ve literally had multiple people ask me straight to my face if I was bisexual because they suspected I was and even tho I knew in all three of those situations that the person I was talking to was safe (either queer themself or an ally), it was really scary to be forced in that moment to come out without my consent, or feel forced to lie about it in order to protect myself, regardless of whether I needed to or not. I can’t imagine being a world famous celebrity and having fan pages dedicated to my alleged sexuality, analyzing every behavior I did and whether or not it was queer, calling all of my relationships PR relationships or beards because they are so convinced I am a homosexual. Either erasing my bisexuality to call me a lesbian or forcefully outing me. People who don’t even know me. It’s scary and honestly creepy enough having someone who knows you personally do it, but someone who’s never even met you? And doing it in front of the whole world? I would never feel safe enough to come out, not just because of the risk of homophobic attacks, but because the people who claim to support me are the ones that made me do it

#taylor swift #Gaylors are the worst and nothing will convince me otherwise #also can be applied to those who forced kit Connor to come out #and the people who harrass Shawn Mendes and call him gay #most of not all of the people doing this are queer themselves #how can you be queer and take that autonomy away from your peers? #and this is all implying that the rumors are true #not to mention the harassment of if it’s not and you’re calling a straight person gay simply because you feel like they are #like this is actually horrifying to watch #and i imagine most of these people are young #who grew up in a world that didn’t entirely accept them #but who had it so much easier than older generations did #or people like me who grew up in church towns with Republican parents #no matter how accepting the world gets you do NOT get to take that choice away from someone else #you don’t know what their life is like #you don’t know the horrors of having your secrets splashed on the news front page #tabloids are bad enough but to have tour own fans propel this? #i feel like she doesn’t see all this or if she does it doesn’t affect her cuz she’s not actually queer #cuz I know as a queer woman I would never be okay with this #ESPECIALLY if I was not out #god i hate them so much #and the way they turn around and call US homophobic? #Im not the one forcefully outing someone and fighting with people online swearing that someone they don’t know is gay #despite them saying themself that they are not part of the community #how about let’s trust her and let her figure shit out herself? #no speculation is okay and we really as a whole need to stop it #but this has so much added layers that this in particular needs to be addressed