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#and mdr gets there and tries helping her .. he is so nice here. and kind ...
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aughhhh, he is literally so babygirl to me ..
#posts#😔 i luv him ...#was going thru some screenshots last night and immediately sat down and drew this asdfdgds#he looks so baby here ...#and this scene its so touching to me somehow#its when hsrm and him have just founded the village#and theyre planning and talking abt how they will further proceed. and hsrm has all these good news abt how more and more clans#will be joining them#and mdr is. he is sooo ... he is so happy and so content here. and so nice ..#there is also this scene where he helps this girl who they see running around and then fall on her face lol#and mdr gets there and tries helping her .. he is so nice here. and kind ...#there's such a warmth between them u know. mdr seems so warm and so peaceful and content#its the only time during the WHOLE story where u see him like this#bc hsrm and him they are close here ... and he gets this warm feeling from him#and he's full of hope and all asdfgdss#i also think its so cute how they talk to each other here like hsrm suggests the thing w the carving mdr's face in the stone hills#and mdr is like. ummm are u sure lmao like he's so Embarrassed#asfsfdfds#its so cute#and then hsrm is like 'well we'd need to make some adjustments tho cuz ur face looks kind of brutal' asfsfdfds#and he Winks at him as he says it! aughh. its like literally they are flirting here#also mdr going 'well at least im not Moping around all the time like u do. my face is still better than urs' asddfdfds#its so aughhh u can just feel the affection between them ... it makes my heart ache#madara#hsmd
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deladane · 6 years
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Day 16: Friday, March 16 ~ Sea Day #4
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Day 16: Friday, March 16 ~ Sea Day #4
I am so sorry to say that I forgot to take photos of today’s daily schedule.  On all of my previous cruises, I brought home all of the daily schedule papers so if I forgot to take any photos, or if I realized one of the photos was blurry and needed a re-do, I could flip through the pile of papers and get what I needed. This time, we were very tight on space and weight in our bags so I decided to leave all the papers behind. I thought I had taken all the photos I needed, and I almost never refer back to the originals once I get home, so why bother schlepping all of that extra weight?  Well, it looks like I did accidentally miss taking photos of the schedule for today, so I apologize for that.  
After going to sleep so early last night, I was awake at 7:15am today.  I couldn’t fall back asleep and I didn’t want to wake up DH, so I quickly got dressed, grabbed my camera, and left the cabin to walk around the ship taking lots of photos of the public spaces while they were still vacant.  I already posted all of these photos at the start of the review, so I won’t repost them here.  About an hour later, I arrived at the Solarium.  I was getting hungry so I stopped by the Aqua Spa Café for a light breakfast.  They have a bunch of options set out on individual plates, and the options remained the same for the whole cruise.
Dry cereal canisters
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Fresh fruit and turkey wraps with tomato, kale, and cinnamon sweet potato spread
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Avocado bruschetta on multi grain toast with mashed avocado, tomato, chive, and grated eggs; a whole wheat bagel with peanut butter, apple, bananas, and blueberries
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Zucchini muffins, banana nut muffins, and 3 types of fruit and nut bars (apricot/coconut/walnut/honey, pumpkin seed/chia seed/raisin, and dates/almonds/figs/apricot/honey)
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I picked out a muffin and an apricot and nut bar, and I ordered one of the juices from the menu.  This was the Purple Rain, made with blackberry, blueberry, pear, apple, and acai.  Everything was light and tasty, and it was a nice change from the breakfast I ordered from room service on all of the port days.
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After my light breakfast, I continued walking around the ship, snapping more photos.  At 8:45, I went back to the elevators outside of the buffet, planning to head down to the cabin and see if DH was awake yet.  When the elevator doors opened, guess who stepped out… DH!  We had perfect timing!  I asked how he knew where to find me and he had a funny story to tell me… When he first went to look for me, he went to the MDR to see if I was eating breakfast there.  Cervine was standing at the hostess stand and she told DH she had seen me stop by at 8am when the MDR first opened so I could take some photos, and then I left. Glad to see she was keeping track of me and that she let DH know I had been there!  That’s when DH decided to go up to the buffet because he was planning to wait for me up there, assuming that I would need to eat breakfast eventually. When I ran into him, I told him that I had already eaten a light breakfast at the Aqua Spa Café.  He thought that sounded good so we went back down there so he could get something to eat.  Of course I couldn’t let him eat by himself, so I took another mini-muffin and fruit and nut bar.  I also ordered a pina kale juice, made with pineapple, kale, cucumber, and I skipped the ginger.
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After breakfast #2, we went back to the cabin and relaxed on the balcony for a few hours, just gazing out at the endless ocean and watching the waves pass by.  At noon, it was time for our next feeding so we went down to the buffet for lunch.  The theme was Falafel and Kebabs, and they had a station set up with several kinds of each.
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I tried 2 kinds of falafel but didn’t care for them. The lamb kebab with tzatziki sauce and hummus was quite tasty, as was the pasta and pizza of the day.
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We took some dessert to go and brought it downstairs to eat by the pool.  I love red velvet cake, but this was very dry and I didn’t like it at all.  They made a huge apple pie in one of the paella pans, and that was delicious!  I was tempted to go back upstairs to get more but restrained myself.
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There is a section of upright chairs and couches when you first enter the pool area on the starboard side.  Whenever we had trouble finding a vacant lounge chair, we could usually find a place to sit over here.  It was close enough to all of the action in the pool and with the DJ and activities team, but still far enough away that we could have our own little quiet corner.
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We pulled 2 of the chairs to the side and relaxed there until it was time for pool volleyball.  DH really wanted to play pool volleyball, but he was disappointed to learn it is only offered this one time through the whole 2 week cruise. They have a tournament where several teams compete and the winning team goes on to then compete against a team of ship officers.  Flory was hosting the event and when he asked for volunteers to play, DH ran right over to him.  They had enough people to form 3 teams, so Flory divided the players up and DH’s team was playing in the first round.  They had a few minutes to practice, and then started the game.
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DH’s team won this round, so they got out and the losing team played against the third team.  I think the third team won that round, so DH’s team got back in the pool and they played each other to determine who goes on to play against the officers.  DH’s team was really strong and they won the tournament!  They had a few minutes to rest, then Flory introduced the officers and it was time for the final round.  
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DH serving the ball
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The teams were pretty evenly matched so the score kept going back and forth for who was in the lead, but in the end, the officers pulled away with a victory.  To be fair, they probably have more practice considering they get to play pool volleyball on every cruise, whereas the people on DH’s team likely haven’t had as much experience.  In the name of good sportsmanship, everyone walked away with a medal and Flory lead the crowd in a rousing rendition of “We Are The Champions”
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Volleyball ended with just enough time for DH to get dried off before we had to go up to the Sky Lounge for music trivia.  At this point in the cruise, our teammates were counting on us showing up to help with the more current songs, so we couldn’t let them down!  There was no real theme today, just a bunch of random songs, but our team did really well. We scored 24 out of 30 points, but of course another team scored 29 points and beat us.  We were okay with that though because we were proud of our team’s performance.
After trivia, I wanted to go watch the hot glass show because this was the last one on our cruise, and DH went back to the cabin to change out of his bathing suit.  When I arrived, Tom was working on a vase with a pretty twisting pattern on the outside.
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It is so impressive how these guys work together so seamlessly.  This was Tom’s project, but Jeremy jumped right in there to do the blowing work. They worked together as a team with an almost unspoken knowledge of what needed to be done.
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When they pull out the giant gloves, you know the project is nearly finished.
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Right around then, DH showed up with a little treat. We get drinks like this at one of our favorite restaurants at home in San Jose, so he was super excited to find it on the ship.  This was the Margarita Coronita from the new menu at the Sunset Bar, and DH drew a lot of attention as he carried it over to the hot glass area, with everyone wanting to know what that was and where he got it lol
(yes, he is still wearing the medal he won from the pool volleyball tournament haha)
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At the end of the show, the gaffers raffled off 4 of the pieces they made during the cruise.  Since the next cruise would be the last one with the Corning Museum on the Eclipse, they wanted to clean out some of the older projects.  I really hoped we could win one of these because they were all so beautiful, but unfortunately, we were not that lucky. The man sitting right next to me did win, so I was close, but not close enough!  This would have made an incredible souvenir to bring home from the cruise.
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There is a funny story about that larger piece on the far right side.  That is a giant bowl with an irregular shape.  Tom gave a disclaimer when he picked that piece to be part of the raffle. They usually give out some bubble wrap to protect the pieces for transport home, but he warned us that the larger piece would not survive airline travel.  He said he normally puts a piece that large into a crate for special shipping, and that if we were flying home after the cruise, we could not have that piece.  He said that if the first 3 tickets he pulls belong to people who are flying home, they must pick the 3 vases, and then he would do another raffle for only the people traveling by car to try to win that large piece.  As it turned out, the very first ticket he picked belonged to a lady who lives in Florida, would be driving home from the cruise, and who really wanted that big piece! It was fate for her to get it!  I would love to see how she put that on display in her home because it was really quite large and heavy!
Tonight was our last Elegant Chic night, so after the raffle ended, we went back to the cabin to get ready.  
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After a quick photo shoot outside the entrance to Blu, we went to the World Class Bar for a few pre-dinner drinks.  DH had the Zacapa Old Fashioned and I had the Celebrity No. Ten.  I love how it worked out that they are on the same page of the menu for easy photographing hehe
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I don’t think I posted this yet, but this is the wine and cocktails menu from the MDR.  It was the same menu for the whole cruise.
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 Tonight’s dinner menu
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Creamy Salmon Rillette
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Elderflower Blush cocktail
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Broiled Lobster Tail (I requested 2 lobsters but only 1 portion of the side dishes)
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Creamy Wild Mushroom Risotto
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Dessert Menu
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We skipped dessert tonight because we wanted to hear Back Before Sunset playing in the Grand Foyer.  They always put on a lively set that is worth checking out.
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On most cruises, they do one of the big production shows on formal nights.  Eddy said that he likes to save that for the last night of the cruise to end on a high note, so tonight’s show was more subdued.  It featured the 6 core singers from the shows, each singing a Broadway showtune of their choosing, backed by the Eclipse Orchestra.  As I’ve already mentioned, we are big fans of Broadway shows, so we were looking forward to this performance.  They all have wonderful voices so it was great to see them show it off!  They sang songs from Motown, Les Mis, Cabaret, Guys and Dolls, Jersey Boys, and a few others.
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The ladies sang a “Single Girl’s Medley” where each sang one of these songs:  On My Own from Les Mis, Maybe This Time from Cabaret, and I Don’t Know How to Love Him from Jesus Christ Superstar.
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Then the men all sang Bring Him Home from Les Mis.
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After the show ended, they had another event called the Liar’s Club.  This is a game hosted by one of the women from the activities team, and the contestants are Eddy, Captain Leo, and the comedian from last night’s show, Dan Wilson. They pick a word that most people have never heard of, but it is really a real word, and the 3 contestants try to convince the audience of what the definition is.  After all 3 have had a chance to say what they think the word means, the audience votes by applause as to who we think said the correct definition, and then they reveal who really got it right.  They used 4 different words, and the contestants did everything from just stating “oh, I know that word, the definition is ****”, to telling a big long-winded story to explain the meaning of the word.  Some of their replies were funnier than others, but it was a clever game and we learned a few new words in the process!
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Does anyone know what zopissa means??
The show ended around 11pm, and we went back to the cabin to rest up for our last full day of the cruise.
Step Tracker Daily Total:  9302 steps; 3.761 miles; 18 flights of stairs
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Lynn was surprisingly close to on time today, so she invited me and offered me a perrier strawberry sparkling water. I said sure and I asked her how Florida was. She said it was too cold for her liking and she laughed and said that every year that they go she complains and says we are never going back here for spring break because they went to Destin and it wasn’t really hot out. She said she doesn’t love the beach when it’s cold. I said she actually looked Tanner and she laughed and was like well that might be windburn then but I did lay out on the last day so maybe I slightly got some color on them. I said I will be going to Florida today and she said that’s right for the conference. She asked how I’m feeling about that. I said anxious and I will be staying with my parents. She asked why and I explained that they moved their vacation to match when I will be there and that they said they would pay for the hotels which would save me a couple hundred dollars so it felt like there wasn’t really a good reason not to. She asked my husband thinks and I said he was kind of like well good luck. I explained how we actually had a really good talk this weekend about both of our parents and that I think we have both grown in the fact that we don’t really defend our parents behavior is anymore. We more openly talk about what things they do that are toxic and unhealthy. Lynn said she agreed and it had sounded like we had grown in that area. I said he had gotten on my nerves yesterday because I had hugged him and told him that I was getting nervous at these conferences and he was kind of like you’ll be fine and then started doing annoying things like drumming on my back or pulling on my bra strap to snap it. I also told her about my husband learning French and I was surprised she said that was really cute. She explained how it sounded like the main anxiety around the conference was related to my parents and thought I should consider taking some time away from them. I said I think what gets me the most anxiety about the conference is just all of the downtime where I will have to be around other people and try to network and be around them at breakfast. Lynn and I basically ended up laughing as she talked about how she hates having to talk to people at conferences, and we both agreed that there are always so many weird people and she was like I never really make friends at these things and she said that she made a friend ones and they actually did exchange phone numbers but she lives all the way in Louisiana so I never really talk or anything, but outside of that she doesn’t really make any effort to talk to people and at the last conference she went to, she said that she sat down next to somebody and they had actually gotten up and moved and she was like what the heck whatever you don’t want to sit next to me because I’m from Tennessee? Whatever don’t care. She said the lady was from New Jersey and had gotten up and literally change seats and she was like whatever rude. She said at the other conference that she was that there was this lady who had acted super desperate and most like anyone want to go to lunch anyone want to go to lunch and Lynn felt bad for her and agreed to get lunch with her and she was like I mean she was nice but I would have much rather just gone and eaten by myself LOL. Lynn said she always skip the networking things like over breakfast and was like I mean I value my sleep, therefore I’m always just like dang it I missed the networking oh well. I explained that I really don’t need to bother with networking at this type of a conference because realistically it’s a bunch of treatment centers trying to encourage me to send people to their treatment centers. The one treatment center that’s near me I already know about and everything else is fairly far away. The ones that are closer I already know and the likelihood of my people wanting to go across the country isn’t super high, especially just because I networked with someone. I was like my big fear is just that I don’t want to be like that lady that you just described even though I know that I would never ask a bunch people to lunch and Lynn was like exactly you would never be like that so you’re already contradicting yourself and I was like well no I would definitely never ask a group of people to lunch, but I don’t want to be that one loser by themselves Who everyone feels bad for. Lynn was like first of all no one is going to feel bad for you they probably wouldn’t even notice and second of all from the past to conferences you’ve been to you you made a close friend at both of them so realistically probably will make a friend and if not, that’s probably the normal and maybe you need to lower your expectations. Lynn said that it helps her to lower her expectations and go in assuming that she is not trying to make long-term friends with anybody and realistically she thinks I’m picking up on all of the anxious energy of the room where everyone is feeling somewhat uncomfortable and not knowing people. She said anytime there’s a local conference she always makes her friend there with her because she doesn’t want to have to deal with talking to people she doesn’t now. I laughed because I relate and I always want friends to go to things like this with me too. She pointed out that if I were to leave at any point no one is really going to think anything of it, they might assume that I’m going to meet my husband for lunch or something like that and I was like well the hard thing is it’s an all day conference and since I’m working on it I will kind of be expected to be there for the breakfast and the lunches and I’ll have to sit at the tables and she was kind of just like well then fake it. She was like you’re good at that, just fake a few conversations here and there. I agreed and said that I would do that. She said that she really liked my vest and I said thank you. She mentioned parental attachment and now I can’t really even remember why but she said to how kids are attached to their parents even when they aren’t good parent and I was like yeah like Harlows monkeys and she was like I don’t know what that is and I was like wait really and she was like ask any social worker any of these psychological studies they never know any of it and I was like OK but I’m not a psychologist and I knew it LOL and she was like well what is it and I explained it and why I think it’s really helpful for helping people to understand why it’s normal that they feel attached to their parents even when they aren’t healthy, and she was like yeah that actually is really helpful and she asked me for the name of it again and I said I will send it to you so you can read up on it. She said OK great. We talked a little bit more about conferences in general and our training in MDR and I said that it honestly pisses me off when there is required readings and people don’t actually read. She said oh yeah me too and I was like like if you don’t read fine I don’t care but don’t raise your hand and ask a stupid question that you would know the answer to if you had done the assigned reading. She said she can see why that definitely drives me nuts and she said it annoys her too and I was like did you do the reading for the training and she laughed and said yes but she’s a book skimmer so she didn’t necessarily read it cover to cover like I did.
She ask if I have any insight this week about some of the stuff that we have been working on and I said not necessarily other then I’ve just been noticing that I am legitimately a workaholic and it’s something that I’ve always kind of joked about but I realize the other day when my coworker pointed it out with me working on Sunday just how often I really am working and how last night I got home at 8:30 and I had worked a 12 hour day with no breaks and honestly this conversation did not go like I had anticipated it would. Basically Lynn said that in my age group a lot of people are working a lot and it sounds like my working so much is a part of my perfectionism, and I tried explaining that it doesn’t feel like perfectionism because I don’t think of any point of working as being perfect or this correct standard and I’ve never had workaholism modeled for me it just really feels like this feeling of I should be working and I don’t deserve a break and she pretty much said that with perfectionism like am I willing to make those behavioral changes and like commit to taking a day off or something and then I started tearing up and crying and was like no it just feels like I can’t like literally thinking about the idea of cutting back my work makes my heart Grace and makes me feel completely out of control. She pointed out that sometimes you have to change the behaviors to change the feelings and that working a lot and perfectionism for me seem to be this sort of obsessive-compulsive part of my personality and she thinks that I need to change the behaviors and then deal with the feelings and I was like honestly I feel like it’s damned if you do damned if you don’t because if I work all the time then I feel terrible and I’m not taking care of myself but if I cut back then I feel guilty and anxious and awful, and I would rather feel the awful anxious that comes with overworking myself to death because at least it’s predictable and brings in money. I explained how I never buy myself things and recently I’ve gotten a little better about it but in general I always save my money and the idea of fun really makes me anxious and I don’t know how to have fun and I straight up asked her how do I stop feeling like I don’t deserve to have fun and she pretty much just stuck to her response and feeling like I need to just change what I am doing and actually make myself take breaks or you know not work on Sundays or not work for part of Sunday or do something like that. She said at some point like I need to decide that I want to change my perfectionism otherwise it won’t change. I was like I want to change the perfection of them but it just feels like I can’t like I don’t want to stay this busy. She pointed out that things may change once I have kids and have I thought about that and I was like well yeah I’ve thought about it and I think I always thought you know once I have kids I will slow down and it will be easy but lately I’ve realized even just the thought of cutting back and gives me so much anxiety so I don’t know. She said things may change once I actually have the kids and it will be easier, or that I may just be a workaholic and will hire a nanny to live in my house and take care of the kids and she explained how she has a friend who’s a very successful lawyer who did that and had the nanny with the kids and she was able to continue being a workaholic and she just really thrived in being a workaholic and I was like OK but I’m not thriving I’m actually kind of miserable and don’t want to stay this way. I told her that I’m working somewhere between 25 and 30 hours a week in private practice on top of an already full-time job and I know that a lot of people work a lot but 70 hours is excessive and I realize that. She asked me how my husband feels about it and I was like he’s not OK with it and wants me to cut back. Which she was like but you’re not willing to do that right? And I was like I mean I want to but no like so she was like well what would you tell a perfectionist client and I was like I don’t know I guess deal with where the perfectionism is coming from and try to get them to make small changes so I guess somebody like me who is really roll conscientious using that to my advantage in getting them to make promises. She was like so if I tell you something you’ll be like OK I’m gonna do it because I told Lyn I would and I was like yeah exactly and she was like OK so if I say no more working on Sunday and I was like now that just gave me a bunch of anxiety because that would mean that I would need to work on Friday night or Saturday and what if I don’t want to work on Saturday and I want to change it up and do it on Sunday or what if I had something to do or that just feels too limiting and I was like so I wouldn’t commit to that promise and she was like so basically you are only going to except certain promises and I was like yeah because if I commit to something then I’m going to follow through with that and I won’t break that promise. So I won’t commit to something that I don’t want to actually agreed to doing because I value honesty and keeping my word. She asked where I’m at with the target that we have been working on and I was like which target and she started flipping through and pointing out that she has perfectionism written on multiple pages and was like with your grandma and I was like I don’t think that was what we are working on at this point and she was like well maybe we need to determine the target so what about all of this actually bothers you and then I started tearing up again and I was like I mean I just want to feel OK as I am which I think was kind of what we are working on and she was like yeah and I was like I just want to feel like I’m good enough and don’t have to feel like I’m proving my worth because I’m not good enough and I was like and I think part of why I work so much is because I’m always striving to achieve this imaginary goal of being good enough and it feels like it never matters how many achievements I have, it never feels like enough. She was like well what is it that you do you want and I was like I mean intellectually like I do know that my accomplishments are good enough but I don’t mean with what I’m doing I mean with how I feel about myself I want to feel like I’m going enough as a person and don’t need accomplishments to prove that.
She was like well maybe we need to change up our approach and so she was like have we done any motivational future templates with EMDR and I was like no and she was like OK well what would be different if you were feeling good enough and I was like I don’t know I just want to feel OK with mediocrity and she was like well what is mediocrity to you and I was like honestly working normal hours like a normal person and I don’t know basic things like actually scheduling myself a lunch break and actually coming home at a decent enough hours that I can actually cook dinner instead of getting home at 9 o'clock at night and feeling like there’s no time so I end up eating shit or coming home at a decent enough hour to actually go to the gym and not for necessarily weight-loss reasons which is because I know it’s healthy and I know my thyroid is off and my vitamin D is low and I still don’t feel great and I’m not taking care of myself and I’m always exhausted and so I guess it’s more of like practical things like I would like to feel like my schedule allows for me to actually take care of myself and not feel like I have to work every Friday night late like maybe I could actually schedule time to hang out with friends without feeling guilty. She was like what would happen if you took a day off and then I started tearing up again and I was like I don’t know I just can’t. She was like well maybe we would just kind of target and picture or you doing something like reading up for fun book or, which she reminded me that I still have her back and I was like I’m going to read it and finish it on the airplane tonight and I’ll bring it back next week and she was like OK thanks I’m going to read through it again, or she was like taking a walk or doing something and then we target that but then there has to be that piece where we deal with the resistance and you actually make The changes with your behavior and I was like I mean in theory that sounds great it’s just really hard to do because even my thinking about that I’m like oh well I could take a walk but then I don’t deserve to skip working for the sake of walking because I could always walk at a different time and I just feel like I don’t deserve that free time. She pointed out that some people are just perfectionist and that’s their personality type and basically the take away message was that if I want to change things I need to actually change things and it’s all on me I need to just do it. I explained that I understand but like honestly I feel like shit working so much and I don’t want to continue being this way I just don’t know how to change it. Honestly it all just felt super minimizing and out like this was something as simple as just work or don’t work and she was like well with the EMD are we just keep coming back to this kind of stuck point where we hit a wall with perfectionism so maybe we need to attack it from a different angle. She was like you can get mad at me and hate me for it and I was like Lynn I don’t hate you and I’m not mad at you I’m sorry like I don’t mean to be difficult it just really feels like I can’t implement that kind of changed and she was like I know that there’s a trade off with being a perfectionist and one of the trade-offs is that you are very successful while being a workaholic.
I told her that I just don’t want to be 40 years old and look back at my life and feel like all I ever did was bust my ass working and never really lived and never spend time is connecting with people and building friendships. I explained that I already feel like I’m old even though I know everyone says that I’m not but the days pass so quickly and I feel like I’m not really living. She pointed out that she knows letting go of the perfectionism is really hard and asked if I had read any books on it and I was like no and she was like well there’s a ton of books on it because it is really hard to let go of and I can tell it’s hard for you and brings up a lot because you were tearing up several times just thinking about it and I was like yeah thanks for reminding me and she was like well it’s true. I was like I know I just wish I could change how I feel. Lynn asked when I am flying out and I said tonight. She said that her advice to me is to take some time to be alone. My heart started racing and she was like and you can tell yourself that Lynn said to do that so get mad at me instead of yourself, but it’s OK to take some time after the conference to go do something. I’m sure she could tell that the idea of doing that made me uncomfortable because I know my parents would be pissed even if I did lion say the conference was going late, and she was like if your parents were reasonable people you wouldn’t have to lie. But they’re not reasonable therefore you have to lie. She was like there’s really good shopping there so if you like shopping go shopping. She told me to go to some outlets and get flip-flops and I was like OK maybe. Or she said to go to Disney World and I was like lamb isn’t that super expensive and she was like well yeah but a lot of times if you are at a conference they will do half price tickets for the late afternoon or evening if you show proof that you are at a conference so you might pay 40 bucks but hey you get to go to Disney World. I said that I haven’t been since I was a kid and my husband hasn’t been at all but I’m sure he will want to go when Star Wars world is done. She got super super excited which surprised me like giddy like a little kid saying how she can’t wait for Star Wars to open and that she brought up going as soon as it open but her son didn’t want her to go without him because he really wants to go and she was kind of like I don’t really care you’ll be 20 I’m going to go when it opens LOL. She said she didn’t go to Disney World until after she had kids and they still go because they all love it herself and her has been included. She said Disney World is only fun as a kid if you have fun parents and I just kind of laughed because I knew what she meant. I told her about how my parents basically already have things planned for me, like with my aunt and uncle coming over and my other uncle on my mom’s best friend from high school and how I had gotten upset the other night because my mom wrote love you sweetie to my aunt and how awkward and anxious that makes me because she’s never done that to me or called me sweetie and just the thought of her doing that makes me feel uncomfortable because it would be so weird and foreign and Lynn was basically like now would be a great time to practice some of what you were learning about boundaries. I was like yeah maybe we will see how it goes. She said she really thinks I should take some time for myself before going to be with them. She took out her book and said that we scheduled for next week already so let’s schedule for the following week, and then I paid. She asked when we want kids and I said idk and it depends on my husband and she was like oh that's right it took my husband longer to be ready too. I said maybe when we have a house we will be ready and said how my husband sent pictures of baby Halloween costumes so who knows. She wished me luck at the conference and said she would be thinking of me and sending positive vibes. And I said I appreciated that and I headed out.
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