#and that's not the creator's fault ofc it's just bad luck but i feel like every new project takes its cues from mc and it's like. really? | Explore Tumblr Posts and Blogs

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hiii!! i love ur gifs so much it’s unreal, i also love all the gifs gif makers make and how you guys rb each other it’s so cute, how’d u make so many friends so easily here on tumblr? because the time i tried here we talked for 2 days and that was it :(

Wait oh my god this is so kind and precious :( Thank you so so much sweetheart, it means the world to me!! You have no idea how happy I am that you enjoy my content. First of all sunshine please know that you're amazing and you're absolutely worth all the love and attention ❤️ Next thing, thank you so much for trusting me enough to ask that, I appreciate it. But I totally understand you and i know what you mean right here... Honestly it's a topic that I struggle with myself as well, I just recently came back online from a long absence and feeling of being alienated still lingers, especially now that there's so many new people around and new content creators and you know, how to get back on track we may ask? 🤧

When I first got into the fandom on tumblr I was honestly kinda stupid BUT fearless 😂 at the beginning it went much easier and better than it does now for some reason, in my case it was usually just being quite energetic and open, I'm also usually overly friendly and I tend to get carried away... ( you give me a topic to talk and I write ESSAYS in dms which may annoy some people, I definetely think I'm the most annoying person on earth KSJSKSK so just be yourself <3 ) and this might have been working its magic too. Honestly my way to get friends was literally making my blog look kinda cute and then follow the people I stumbled upon that caught my eye or seemed nice, but the main thing was that I messaged each one of my mutuals at the beginning, just to say 'hi thank you for following me back' and to get to know each other 😂 In real life it would NEVER come across my mind like, I'm super shy, EXTRA SUPER ULTIMATELY shy, you wouldn't even notice if I was standing in front of you LMAO but online I felt super safe and no one was judging me, also almost everyone is just as friendly and energetic so I tried my luck with everyone, just like you now I just really really wanted to make friends. Next thing I did was that I applied for some networks here on tumblr, at that time almost all of them had Kakao Chat group chats avaliable, so I always applied to be added to one, I found a lot of friends there too. But if you're feeling brave enough to message people first, don't worry about it and instead try to show more of your personality on your blog, talk more, post more. believe me, people who will want to befriend you will appear in a blink of an eye. However, the most important thing is to just be yourslef and don't push the conversation that you feel like doesn't really want to happen. And 2 days long chats are also important, don't get discouraged by that!! Some people here just don't look for friends, you know, not eveyone is talkative, not eveyone will be always straight away at ease with people they don't know well. Sometimes the time just needs to do its works. Or maybe, you both are not vibing on the same frequency, and there's nothing bad about it! They'll just talk to you for a bit and that's gonna be enough and it's alright! After that you guys will still probably interact and have fun on dash like usual, exchanging dms isn't always a necessity to have a nice time with a mutual 🤭 But then, you go and try with someone else, it's totally normal. Don't try to force conversation and don't worry too much about the outcome, just like in real life, when you feel like you don't have anything to add you just don't , right? And that's where you also shouldn't thinking it's your fault, that maybe you're not good or funny enough to keep up the convo, i assure you that's almost never the case! Sometimes talking just doesn't work out and it's not necessarily anyone's fault :) So please don't think too much about this!

Just like in real life you either click with some people or not, if not - you move forward, if yes - you see if it's gonna work out. I can only imagine what you might be thinking but I know from my own experience that I was (and honestly still am sometimes) comparing using to other people, I often think that I'm not enough and it's just easy to bury yourslef within your own imagined problems. Please try your best to not repeat those same mistakes i did, because there always will be at least one person you'll grow a great friendship with and you shouldn't ever doubt yourslef! If you want to interact with someone but feel intimidated - don't, just do it, i swear everyone you'll meet here is kind and friendly, so comennt on that post no matter if it's serious or funny, send that ask, compliment them under their post, there's lots, lots of ways to start a friendship 🥰

I also know you might worry about making a good first impression but... really don't worry about it, always be yourslef and people will love you from the very beginning. Don't be pressured into feeling that you have to have a companion here, we're all here on the same boat with the same exact thing connecting all of us - which is ofc bts - if you want to enjoy it with your mutuals - you will find them without a doubt, but if you're having a hard time making better friendships out of mutual follow , we're still all together on the same boat, sharing the same interest and experience and that's also very appealing and definitely is just as fun 🤭

Good luck angel I'm sure everything will work out for you ❤️❤️❤️

#this is long but oh well. please stay positive sunshine there'll always be someone you'll click with just right ❤️#answered #anonymous

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