#because. you know. as noted before: big fandom - lots of queer & neurodivergent people here.

[quietwingsinthesky]

thinking about how dean’s character gets simplified in fandom, or more specifically, the very black and white lens that gets applied to him. because integral to dean, from my point of view, is that he is both a victim of abuse and a perpetrator of it. that these two things do not cancel each other out or outweigh each other to the point that only one matters. he’s both, you cannot separate him from the fact that he’s both.

but very often, people do. dean is either a victim. or he’s an abuser. it’s like it’s hard for people to hold both those facts in their heads at once. dean went through incredible amount of trauma as a child and an adult, is routinely faced with violence, has resorted to alcohol abuse to cope with it. he’s also a violent person, someone who retreats into tactics of emotional abuse and control when he feels threatened, who hurts the people around him constantly and the people who are closest to him (ie Sam, Cas, later Jack) get the brunt of that abuse. these are just facts. they’re things that happened on the screen and cannot be denied.

and it’s. idk it’s weird to me (not unexpected, because he’s hardly the only character to ever get this treatment) that dean of all people is the one portrayed in such an either/or way when one of the defining moments of the show for him is that during his stint in Hell, he was tortured and then became a torturer to escape that, to feel like he had some control again, and he relished in it. it’s baked into who he is.

#dean as a victim of abuse who goes on to continue those behaviors is still important to me surprise surprise #i didnt want to put this in the main post but also. from observation. when people start projecting onto him This Gets Worse #because. you know. as noted before: big fandom - lots of queer & neurodivergent people here. #tend to be targetted by abuse. statistically. #and mix that with a character you can project heavily upon. one you can project queer/neurodivergent hcs on even. #then like! understandably stressful to reckon with him being canonically kind of shitty sometimes! no one wants to consider their own #potential for shittiness - not even through a character they just heavily relate to! #(note: opposite happens as well. people project onto sam -> see dean hurt sam -> block out the idea that dean could be just as much victim #as he is abuser. its just. easier like that.) #anyway. none of this is like. a crime. just an observation. really we get all our biases from the society we live in — a society obsessed #with perfect victims and evil unredeemable abusers. #all that stuff leaks into fandom takes whether we want it to or not #dean winchester #spn

[lunarlilygarden]

Intro Post

Hello! The name's Ash and this is a blog I specifically use for sharing my doodles online. My biggest interest is Cookie Run (both Ovenbreak and Kingdom) but especially the elemental legendaries (they hold a special place in my heart).

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#dreamy rambles: Anything involving text or random rambles

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List of fav characters and ships 💖

BYF, DNI, Boundaries, and Discomfort Ships

BYF:

- I rarely post here so don't expect me to be that active! (I usually just lurk)

- I am very awkward at socializing so I may sound weird

- Please use tone indicators as I have a hard time knowing when someone is joking or not

- I have fav characters and fav ships and if any of them makes you uncomfortable, feel free to mute the tags or leave (also do not say it to my face about how you hate my faves/ships like why do I need to know that???)

- I am heavily uncomfortable with cookie eating jokes or jokes about belittling the cookies solely because they're cookies due to past experiences, so do not do that here

- English isn't my first language and I have trouble with typing and words so I may sound odd at times

- I don't really agree with popular headcanons most of the time (mostly family headcanons) so please be aware I may not share the same headcanons as whatever popular hcs there are in the fandom

- I do oc content sometimes so do please be aware of that

- I may not be aware on who I'm interacting with so if I interact with someone problematic, do tell me!

- I block people who make me uncomfortable or post content about stuff that make me uncomfortable so keep that in mind

- I mispeak and misread a lot due to my inability to speak and read properly so apologies for any errors

- Read my DNI list and my Discomfort Ships list before following

Boundaries:

- Please respect my privacy. If I don't want to tell anything about me or what I have, then please respect it.

- Do not be weird when interacting with me (especially if you're an adult)

- Don't spam me. I don't appreciate constantly getting spammed messages/asks

- Do not argue or cause a fight in my posts

- Do not tell me what to add or what should be better in my posts (unless I ask for it like suggestions for drawing ideas but if it's a stupid meme and you go "erm, it would be better if it's [character]" then go away)

- Do not act like we're friends if I don't know you at all

DNI:

- Basic DNI criteria

- People who think multishipping is cheating

- Vivziepop stans

- People who infantilize queer and neurodivergent people

- People who sexualize/fetishize mental illness, trauma, LGBTQ+, and neurodivergent people

- Proshippers

- Zoophiles

- Dream stans

- If you ship real people with each other (you are just weird)

- AU Sanses shippers (also no exceptions)

- The Coffin of Andy and Leyley fans (if I see anyone with a pfp of one of these fuckers, you are getting blocked on sight)

(Will add more if I forget something)

Discomfort Ships:

(Note: Not every ship listed here is problematic and you can interact if you are a shipper of any of these but please do not mention these ships in this blog)

🌹: Pretty meh

🥀: Do not mention it at all

- Pastryvelvet (🥀)

- Darkmilk (🥀)

- Windlotus (🥀)

- Treewind (🥀) (I see them as family so that's a big no)

- Windherb (🌹)

- Fireknight (🌹)

- Espresseleine (🌹)

- Teaclair (🥀)

- Almondlatte (🥀)

- Croisstime (🥀)

- Starpearl (🌹/🥀)

- Licofait (🥀)

- Blacaviar/pearlcaviar/caviarpearl or whatever the ship name is (🥀)

- Licopome (🥀)

- Oystercaviar (🌹)

- Capchat (🌹)

- Affocara (🥀)

- Affocacao (🥀)

- Abysseel (🥀)

(There is a big chance that you may get block if you post heavy about the ships with wilted roses since they are discomforts)

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