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#but I don’t identify with being demiromantic bc I hardly ever have crushes.
moonjade
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I love being aro-spec but I can’t shake the feeling that I’m “faking it” :/
#text
#personal
#being aromantic and having a crush feels illegal and like i’m gonna be shot
#(i don’t have a crush rn tho. i haven’t had one for years)
#and I’m not entirely sure i don’t experience romantic attraction. but i could go my entire life without dating someone ever again
#I’m pretty sure the girl in high school that i had a crush on was an actual crush. or at least it was something other than platonic
#attraction. it was an online friendship but damn I really liked her (and i’m almost certain it was romantic)
#but my ex? eh… maybe at first but the feeling gradually died off. after a month or so
#but with the girl… the feelings grew stronger?
#a small part of me wants to try going on dates but i also don’t want to lead the person on
#and admitting these things really makes me feel like i can’t identify as aromantic
#like yes i know it’s a spectrum and there are so many different identities and ways under which romantic attraction occurs
#but like. for me personally it feels like i can’t be aro AND have a crush lol
#I already feel somewhat ostracized from the aro community anyways bc sometimes i want a romantic relationship
#but most times I don’t. and the idea sounds awful. but every once in a while i yearn for a gf
#but there’s no one I’m even really attracted to. I find people really pretty but it ends there most of the time.
#I feel like I really have to get to know someone first before there’d even be a chance of me liking them
#but I don’t identify with being demiromantic bc I hardly ever have crushes.
#which is why greyromantic works better but i know demi would ‘make more sense’ since i have to get to know people really well
#and the more i get to know them… the more i can tell if i like them or not (both romantically/platonically)
#except for romantic attraction. that just feels like a huge ‘?????????????’ to me
#like i am unable to distinguish strong feelings for someone. idk if it’s platonic or romantic or something else or both
#ugh I need a therapist lmao
#also to the anon who said i’m not aromantic and that I’m insecure: sounds like you’re projecting lmao
#I make one vent post and suddenly you know more abt my romantic identity than I do 🙄
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