#coming from someone with npd (defensive i suppose but ykno. i see both sides)

[murochico]

narcissists (over and covert alike) are wild in the way they catch someone have the slightest inkling of a crush on them and they'll lovebomb then withdraw and then feed little scraps into crumbs of attention for weeks and months and Years and these people will just. Stick. they won't lose the crush. and they don't even know it's happening??? to them, they just have this really charming friend that somehow happens to hit all their buttons in a way that keeps them coming back for more, and they don't see the very subtle manipulation that is happening. even if someone were to point it out to them, they won't ever realise it. it's insidious and it's honestly one of the most disgusting things someone can do to a person. and so many of them are just. out there. some don't even KNOW they're narcissists and don't know they're doing it. but as soon as the attention is withheld for even a second, they'll throw a bone. just to make sure the attention is still being drip fed to them on a daily basis. and it works.

#i say 'crush' but this applies to fully platonic relationships as well #and thinly veiled wannabe cults of personality #it's just. wild wild i tell you #coming from someone with npd (defensive i suppose but ykno. i see both sides) #so before you say 'NOT ALL NPD ARE EVIL' yes i know. i am a non evil #i would like to think i am in recovery and manage it kinda well #anyway yea #textony #people watching gone wild