#i cut out everything related to 1d in 2016 for like 4-5 years because it was making me feel so awful and it was entirely worth it

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#harry fan anon #finally here! hello! #yeah i get that :/ it's rough trying to enjoy your fandom experience only to have outside forces make it unbearable sometimes #especially with this kind of discourse which is so... draining and ugly and often personal feeling for a lot of people #and even when you actively try to avoid the discourse- it is still so pervasive that you end up seeing it anyway #don't be embarrassed at all- this fandom IS draining and it totally makes sense if you need to take a step back #it is unfortunate that it has to be this way since fandom is supposed to be fun and shouldn't be like this but 100% understand needing to #step back for your own sake #because a fandom is never worth your peace of mind and your happiness #i cut out everything related to 1d in 2016 for like 4-5 years because it was making me feel so awful and it was entirely worth it #gave me perspective and helped me find the joy in it again when i came back #obviously you don't have to go on a multi year break like i did lol even just a couple weeks can make a huge difference #it makes you remember what's important and realize the parts of fandom you can live without #my main recommendation for stepping back is to pour that extra energy into another hobby or interest you've been neglecting #or pick up something new #as soon as you have something else to focus on you'll find it easier to detach emotionally #when so much of your mind is wrapped up in one thing without any distractions it is much easier to invest to much of yourself into that one #thing at the detriment of your peace of mind #the little lovely corner of fandom you carved out for yourself will be here when you get back! #and never feel embarrassed for feeling things deeply- it's a lovely quality! just remember to take care of yourself #asks #anonymous