#i understand if its an actual disability thing and ur being realistic about ur abilities

[dandyshucks]

just wanted to say that i think the sketches you post r really cool and you have the kind of grasp of human anatomy i could only have in my dreams

WAUGH THANK YOU SO MUCH ???

THIS IS SO KIND !!! i really appreciate this !! so much !!

i do want to say though that YOU TOO can grasp human anatomy the amount I do - I honestly feel like half the time my drawings only come out lookin nice due to luck LOL I feel like I've got no clue what I'm doing most of the time FDSJKL

more helpful answer though is that it's just a lot of time and practice (DON'T SHY AWAY AT THE WORD PRACTICE, BEAR WITH ME HERE) and most importantly finding things you enjoy drawing !!! for me it's been a lot of fictional characters over the years (both OCs and pre-existing media characters) - if you find smth you love drawing then ur going to want to draw a lot of it, which is how you improve !!

if i can make one recommendation, i'd say go watch wrestling - it has improved my art a noticeable amount in a short time !! you can find AEW clips on youtube for free (and livestreams for free though less legally lmao) and you can find so many action shots around the internet to use as reference. it's super helpful for learning anatomy and how the human body MOVES !! ALSO learn to draw fat bodies, i swear to god that's taught me way more way faster than drawing skinny bodies ever did - once you learn about body fat placement, you're off to the races :]

draw things you enjoy!! stretch your skills!! i could give more advice but you didn't actually ask for any so i'll clamber down off my soapbox now, but !!! please trust me that you can learn !! i have often felt discouraged about my art but lately i've been seeing how much is possible when you just try things !!

#i can give specific advice on HOW to practice bc everyone always just says ''go practice to get good :)'' and never actually tells u HOW to #and i find that extraordinarily unhelpful #and like. i have spent so long trying to do things ''the proper way'' or whatever but its THE BORING WAY. #art is supposed to be enjoyable imo and who tf wants to just sit there and copy poses for no reason other than vague ''just practice'' #SORRY FOR GIVING ADVICE UNASKED FOR DSJKL i just get sad when i hear ppl say stuff that amounts to ''i could never do xyz'' #i understand if its an actual disability thing and ur being realistic about ur abilities #but i think with art... its all possible 99% of the time #u just have to find a way to make it work for you #i am very passionate about art esp when it comes to drawing fsdkjl #ANYWAYS ANON I AM GIVING YOU A FLOWER OR COOL ROCK OR SMTH thank u so much i never thought i'd get an ask like this omg #was really really cool to wake up and see this :'] !!!! #asked and answered #dandy.cmd

[abandonthefort]

deanna omg stop being such a goddamn jerk

for christ’s sakes you’re a fucking counselor for one, second you’ve been on the other end of this type of thing SEVERAL OTHER TIMES BEFORE (including literally ongoing in this EP with a crewman who has lost her husband, gee deanna how can you tell her she’ll get by, you’ve never lost A HUSBAND before)

but oh no “you don’t know what it’s like! how can you know what it’s like to lose something you never had??!!” 

actually more like trek writers stop being asslamps about disability bc of how u abled people think that someone/u would react to suddenly becoming disabled. day 1 is not storming into your doctors and/or good friend’s house (or in deanna’s case doctor’s/good friend’s) office and yelling about how nobody could understand you and that things will never be all right, okay? that ain’t realistic.

like. yeah, disability can really suck. dealing with ur body suddenly changing up the rules of the game for no apparent reason other than its whims REALLY does suck (esp when u don’t know why something is happening and what could change next--if that’s what deanna’s freak out was about bc “oh hey a bunch of my brain cells just DIED for NO APPARENT REASON and you don’t know WHY BEVERLY??!! WHAT IF THIS CELL DEATH CONTINUES.  WHAT IF IT GOES TO LIKE SAY MY MEDULLA AND THE NEXT THING I LOSE IS MY ABILITY TO BREATHE WITHOUT CONSCIOUS THOUGHT.  DO I NEED CONSTANT SUPERVISION SO IF THAT HAPPENS WHEN SAY I’M SLEEPING I DON’T JUST DIE?????” like oh yeah totes magoats that’s a reaction i believe and feel esp bc my bod loves its inconclusive results too and i’ve wanted to have (or have had...v sorry to that cardiology PA that was at the receiving end of that sort of fear-induced rant) that reaction to doctors before bc yo losing that sense of control over ur body & the rules of ur existence is goddamn terrifying).  

but like....yeah, when something changes suddenly in the health to the point of being disabled and the cause is nebulous, it’s mostly a heavy dose of denial that hits and the belief that this is JUST temporary so it’s fine. and hey even when it’s clear it’s...not temporary, it’s more like “i can do Everything Just Like Before Nothing Has Changed” denial that happens. bc yeah, things have changed and u can still do a lot of stuff (maybe even all of the same stuff, depending on the dealio with disability), but it’s not exactly the same as before--maybe now you need a mobility aid, maybe now you need to take more rests, maybe you need a larger font size or screen reader, maybe you need to go to restaurants outside of peak business hours so you can talk/listen without interference from background noise, maybe you can only Do The Thing when it’s below 70 degrees out.  (and yes, maybe you can’t do that thing anymore; that is less relevant to the analogy the writers were trying to make here by having an empathic counselor losing her empathic powers bc...like, in-universe there are psychologists and ship’s counselors who don’t have empathic or telepathic powers and they still do their job perfectly fine; just losing something someone relies heavily on to aid in their job of counseling would make someone need to re-learn how to do that job without that bc they couldn’t do their job in the same exact way as always).  

“i can’t live like this” freakouts do happen. but. not a ton*. bc. look. ur there. living “like this”. ur doing it right as ur having that thought. and you grow and adapt. sometimes there is frustration and rage and grief (esp on bad days), i’m not saying there’s not. it’s just....so much less DRAMATIC than abled people think it is (coming from a former abled person) *excluding severe chronic pain in my experience bc yeah...been there, done that, could not have continued living like that for very long bc i would’ve taken steps to Make It Stop bc it was like “death. unfortunate. still better than living all my waking moments (which is ALL MY MOMENTS bc i’m in TOO MUCH PAIN TO SLEEP) in what i’d imagine the cruciatus curse wishes it felt as terrible as tho.”; fortunately the body’s pain tantrum calmed itself down not too long after that but...yeah. real bad chronic pain is a soul-sucking monster that tortures you and after enough of it, literally anything looks better than that and in some of those really bad days i finally felt like i understood (also envied) what was going on in my poor cat’s head when he self-amputated his own tail due to nerve pain bc biting off that body part would Make It Stop and Making It Stop was the only way to go on bc frankly if it wasn’t my abdomen that was the problem like that sounded like a perfectly reasonable solution to the problem, but alas you can’t exactly amputate an abdomen, and definitely not with just human teeth at ur disposal, so like even counting Trouble’s phantom limb syndrome that continued until his death seems like he got the better end of things there

#hol watches tng #s4ep10 #personal #suicide cw // #self harm cw i guess?? #also references to that time my cat bit off his tail #since i'm giving some cw already i'll just throw that one in bc that is a Graphic Story if u know the whole thing