#if u have experiences w misogyny that just says u must be being more intentional abt what ur doing lol

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Feeling deeply uncomfortable rn with how trans men act like they're entitled to be lesbians by virtue of "the afab experience" or whatever and use the most transmisogynistic rhetoric imaginable to justify themselves but the second you even try to point out these transmisogynistic premises they claim it's "terfy" to criticize them and call you a stupid bitch for not being "queer and complex" enough to be/fuck a man

yeppppp and it's funny because like im not saying trans men have no experience of what misogyny feels like or anything so I feel like it really shows that misogyny is not just some failure of empathy where how women want to/should be treated is just so mystical and subtle that cis guys can't help it, but very much like a (often double edged) sword that they will choose to pick up if it benefits them!! not only are the "female socialisation" implications of the whole thing super transmisogynistic, they're also basically excusing cis men from culpability and making misogyny into a biological trait 😭

like I think there's something to be said for the structural function of misogyny and the fact that hearing 'women are worth less' is different if you dont identify as the object of that claim EVEN IF the person saying it thinks you do. to me its inherently misogynistic when they reduce what women's and lesbian's experiences are like and assuming the parts you identify with are the extent of it rather than the very tip of the iceberg. and the weaponisation of terms designed to talk about women's oppression like saying its "terfy" to point our their transmisogyny or claiming that lesbians having any boundaries around men is bioessentialism and so on. like its redefining the parameters of conversation around men at every stage.

like it's interesting that a lot of their defenses are like. well I had [xyz experience with misogyny] and people call me a dyke sometimes!!! but what the hell does that matter when ur just resorting to. I mean sometimes almost word for word mra talking points. it's ultimately not even relevant when you're purposefully choosing misogyny as a tool to get what you want & then deploying it against lesbians and trans women i.e women who wont be able to like assert social dominance on the basis of you being trans.

#ask #anon #sorry I realise I always address my posts to the ppl pissing me off in second person idk why. #but obviously I don't mean YOU anon #like i actually don't gaf about your personal feelings about misogyny when you clearly know full well #how exacrly to use it to get what you want as soon as it suits you #if u have experiences w misogyny that just says u must be being more intentional abt what ur doing lol