#ive seen so many guilt trippy posts faulting people for being unhappy or needing to step away already

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Before this episode starts and all shit hits the fan one way or another let me just say that it is absolutely ok to be upset about how things play out!

This fandom is generally a very postive very happy space and that's great! Unfortunately, a lot of that comes from this parasocial bond a good chunk of us have with the cast where we feel we have to love and support everything they do, and that's no more of a healthy attitude than this fan vs. Creator mindset that's so present in most fandoms

We owe them basic human respect and kindness. We can't make demands of them to play their game a certain way. They are under no obligation to make their story fit what fans want from it

(All of this holds true for any kind of creator for the record)

But on the flipside we don't have to be happy about every choice tbey make either! What we don't owe them is our eternal loyalty and constant praise. If where the story goes doesn't spark joy for you you can walk away! Temporarily, for the rest of the campaign, or for good, and it is not a betrayal nor a moral failing to do so

No, not even if there's a precedent for it. Yes, we all know characters can die in dnd but if Laudna being permadead is a dealbreaker for you than that's ok. You're not wrong for being upset and you weren't wrong for watching the show despite that risk. Same goes for if her being ressurected ruins the emotional impact or the stakes for you. This too is part of dnd and of cr, you're still allowed not to like it and decide not to follow the story any further

As special as CR is to so many of us, it is at the end of the day just a show, and you're allowed to have whatever feelings you have about it, regardless if they align with those the cast or other fans

#im sorry this hot way long but it's been swimming around in my head for a while now #ive seen so many guilt trippy posts faulting people for being unhappy or needing to step away already #even pushy replies on posts from people that didnt stick around after molly died #and thats messed up #by far the most damaging thing i did to myself as a new fan was not allowing myself to ever be unhappy with the show #and once that hit a breaking point when i genuinely couldnt force myself to be happy about how things were going #it p much ruined the whole campaign for me #to this day i havent been able to love it the way i do the other 2 and i dont think i ever will #and i suspect this is the case for many of the people that ended up hating the show alltogether #and idk man i just dont want to see that happen to others #so you know feel your feeling #be sad or angry if you are #just tag negativity and dont harrass people #and dont let anyone tell you were wrong for caring #critical role #cr3