#my dudes.... the second a convo or life situation tangential to me veers into relationship or sex territory

[mejomonster]

Sometimes I think ah yes being demi doesn't affect my life much more than like desolately few crushes and having to adapt asking people out/casually dating to me picking people not knowing if I'll actually like them for a few months so needing pre-crush standards on how to pick who's worth trying to date

Then I do something and I'm like oh god yeah forgot. Forgot. Dang yeah this affects so much

#rant #im demiromantic demisexual and uh #my dudes.... the second a convo or life situation tangential to me veers into relationship or sex territory #i realize wowza i do not think like the majority of people #every time love at first sight or first month comes up or sex within a few dates comes up #or fucking KISSING on first dates???? #or that im supposed to take anyone seriouslg when they say they love someone after a month??? how does Anyone take that seriously?? #but they DO. or how my definition of love is SO colored by my experience being demi #so when people describr LONG TERM attachment love in marriage as if it needs to be defined separate #from sjort term 'love' thats chemicals and honeymoon phase and will eventually wane and #can cloud your rational judgement? im like???? to me of course love alwaysssss means a long term care for another person #and interest in who tjey are??? wtf you mean people say love and mean it and mean that short term honeymoon phase feeling?? #what do you mean the chemicals kick in BEFORE u can rationally contemplate if a partner is compatible??? #what do you mean u had sex so now ur illogically attached to someone in compatible? #like yeah ive vaguely felt the honeymoon phase. after knowing someone 5 years before dating. so i was illogical #and everything avout tjem seemed Perfect in rose tinted vision. but only after solid years of being able to objectively view them #it hits me in other dating but like 3-6 months in. which gives me at least some time to go #WAIT my dumbass didnt check them for red flags in the first months! i should be wary and not assume theyre perfect rn just cause im feeling #biased. and its so easy to move on from casual dating for me cause i just dont get attached that early in knowing someone... #and my god man. hearing ppl talk about anything dating im like. why dont... yall just say what you mean andcsay what you feel???? why is it #all these layers and obfuscations???? why is it viewed as weird when i say hey i dont kiss right away??? why is it all such a #layered game? #i do not get it.