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sttoru · 7 months

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Girly idk how I wasn't following you still, tumblr isn't stupid, I'm sorry that you are feeling on the outskirts of the fandom as well. You are a wonderful person and writer, and I'm glad you’ve been growing as you have been. You deserve so much more love!! 💕

It does make me feel like there is something wrong with me or like in off putting when i see several big blogs talking to each other, boosting each other. But then I drop in, just say hi to be friendly, only to be ignored. When they are literally responding to various anons or other people.

It seems like they want to talk to everyone else but me. Which has me feeling like I'm in the wrong, I'm bothersome and unwanted in the fandom space. They don't have to talk to me, but my feelings are still gonna be hurt at being shunned by 90% of the blogs I try to interact with.

It does kill my motivation since I don't want to be seen as someone who just posts. I want to be seen as a friend and someone to talk to.

I understand that some people get along better than others. But damn so many people are having this problem it seems like. It's boiling down to popular blogs like other popular blogs, boost other popular blogs and they stay the main people in the fandom eyes whole everyone sits quietly in the side just wanting to be partly including

Feel free to rant right back if need be. Cause I get needing to get this shit off your chest, cause I sure as hell needed to

hiii feyyy !!! dwww, it’s all good :> thank u sm for ur nice words aaaaaaa u r as well, one of the writers on here that i respect 4 their hard work !

gonna vent a bit haha need to get some things off my chest too like u said;

i get ur first point!! it sucks rlly. especially when you are the first one reaching out (which takes a lot of courage, especially for someone socially awkward like me lol) and then it hurts DOUBLE because you get ignored. i get ittttt rlly. for me, i always try to reply ppl even if im a bit late because im either thinking of a proper response or am distracted or busy , but i never intentionally ignore anyone interacting with me. i know some ppl on here do bcs they don’t feel entitled to respond to comments or anons or whatev, which is like ? ok. but if it’s someone just being friendly and complimenting you / your work … it’s not hard to reply w a form of gratitude . some rlly think they’re celebrities on here and it needs to stop

and it’s understandable and totally valid to feel like you’re being shunned and unwanted by people you just want to befriend , only for them to ignore you / not interact with you but with everyone else :/ it sucks and ppl don’t seem to realise that it could hurt other’s feelings. i hope you know that you’re not unwanted tho! those people are just… idk, a bit weird (ofc im only talking abt people who INTENTIONALLY ignore others)

findjng a friend on tumblr with the same interest is like a chore. you either click instantly or you think you do, only for it to be fore 2 interactions max and then you go back to ignoring each other basically on dash

AND YOUR LAST POINTS!! so true. its that the more popular blogs just stick together and help each other out when ??? there are smaller blogs of writers / artists just sittng in the sidelines like ‘ok so what do i have to do to gain traction if the people with a bit of bigger platforms are totally ignoring me & my works’

it’s actually tiring. ofc, me having 3k followers — i am suuuuper grateful, not complaining much, but i also know how it feels. my notifications are super dry except for mainly likes, my dms are like a desert, inbox is 98% only of anons who drop requests and then leave without leaving anything else. no one to talk to, except for people who leave a comment every once in a while :/

like u may think bcs i have decent following i actually gain more interactions? not rlly. only likes & sometimes reblogs w tags. that’s all really, i don’t really have anyone on here who i consider a close online friend (as much as this sounds sad & cringy LMAOO) but its tiring to see everyone be so close to each other on dash while im on the side like ‘how nice it must be to get that much interaction’

& im sure there are people who r gonna say ‘just interact with them’ I DO and i either get left on read or they respond dryly / or i don’t get the same energy back. bcs sometimes im reluctant to reach out first because it always ends up w me taking the initiative & i end up looking desperate to get an interaction with a mutual LOL

anyways thinking abt this tumblr writing community makes my head ache bcs of all the things ive seen and experienced on here (also on my prev account which i had for 2 years)

#𝐋𝐄𝐓𝐓𝐄𝐑𝐒.#ANYWAYS……. this was a long vent #thank u fey xoxo #i can rant abt this for hours on end on a vc i think #and go in depth #tis crazy

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thepracticeco · 5 years

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w h o d o y o u t h i n k y o u a r e ? It’s not who you are that’s holding you back. It’s who you think you’re not. Not good enough Not worthy enough Not smart enough Not real enough Not rich enough Not *insert-limiting-belief-of-choice* enough. What does Maya Angelou, Albert Einstein, Neil Gaiman, Tom Hanks, Ariana Huffington, Tina Fey, and perhaps you, all have in common? A voice inside that said they weren’t good enough, and that one day, they’d be found out as a fraud and an imposter. Imposter Syndrome is a pattern of behaviour where people doubt their accomplishments and have a persistent, often internalized fear of being exposed as a fraud. All those famous humans listed above, that we might otherwise assume are/were untouched by common fears, all struggled with imposter syndrome. Maya Angelou: “I have written 11 books but each time I think ‘Uh-oh, they’re going to find out now. I’ve run a game on everybody, and they’re going to find me out.” Sheryl Sandberg: “Every time I was called on in class, I was sure that I was about to embarrass myself. Every time I took a test, I was sure that it had gone badly. And every time I didn’t embarrass myself -or even excelled- I believed that I had fooled everyone yet again.” Meryl Streep: “You think: ‘Why would anyone want to see me again in a movie? And I don’t know how to act anyway, so why am I doing this?” Albert Einstein: “The exaggerated esteem in which my lifework is held makes me very ill at ease. I feel compelled to think of myself as an involuntary swindler.” Imposter Syndrome has us thinking: Who am I to do this, put this work into the world? Who am I that I would assume I have anything significant to offer? Who am I that anyone would/should listen to me? It also says this: Who am I that the highest king would welcome me? All Glory To God. It wasn’t me, it was God in me. All thanks to Jesus. Jesus did it, not me. It’s about God. Less of me, more of Jesus. Imposter.syndrome.all.the.way. You are not more holy or closer to God if you abdicate your part and your responsibility in the life you live, the things you achieve, the mark you make, the being and light and love that you are. In some ways, I think people of faith may struggle with Imposter Syndrome more than most because for many of us, we’ve been taught not to trust ourselves because the core of who we are is broken and sinful and in desperate need of someone else doing all the work to make us worthy. Who do you think you are? Because that changes everything. Sometimes you are not who you think you are, and you are always 100% who you think you are. Life has a way of making us live up to our own expectations. Which is why imposter syndrome can be so damaging, heartbreaking and confusing. If you think you are bad, I can tell you that you are not. But at the same time, thinking you’re bad will perpetuate a cycle of living that is beneath you. The good news is, good can come of it. In the end, imposter syndrome can teach you how to stand on your own two feet without needing the praise of others, or a mantelpiece full of awards or trophies to remind you how significant and valid and worthy you are, or even a God who needs to constantly rescue you from yourself (because God is after all, so much more than that). The gift of imposter syndrome is that you end up figuring that out for yourself. All the love, Liz. (Insta: @lizzy.milani) 😘 xoxo

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