#that are either helpless quivering victims or disgusting manipulative monsters

[ask-missmargiezelle]

//...So that birthday letter huh! Are we gonna talk about how it sounds like a misogynist’s wet dream of what an abuse survivor sounds like? I didn’t think it was possible to do such a terrible job — but Netease is as always here to disappoint <3

#identity v #margaretha zelle idv #wow i am actually disgusted by this. #netease woke up and chose violently fetishizing abuse victims huh! #in case anyone is not aware showing women who are abuse survivors as helpless desparate victims who need a Big Strong Man to ~Swoop in~ #is Really Really Shitty!!! And You Should Not Do It!!! #especially when the ‘big strong man’ in question is INCREDIBLY VIOLENT #AS IN. KILLED HUNDREDS OF INNOCENT PEOPLE FOR PERSONAL REVENGE VIOLENT #im just...tired. im really tired. #some people look at abuse victims and see us as one dimensional blank slates #that are either helpless quivering victims or disgusting manipulative monsters #or somehow both at once #we dont get to be our own people. we’re seen as charity cases or demons #to some people we exist only to serve others by boosting their egos and making them feel like heroes #or else as scapegoats. because subconsciously people look at us and decide that if a man hurt us he must have been in the right #our trauma isnt allowed to be ugly #all it can be is pretty mascara teartracks and delicate sobs and scars that can be covered so they dont detract from our sex appeal #and scars left by trauma arent like that. #we dont get to be furious or angry or hate our abusers. we dont get to be depressed and cynical #all were allowed to be is a delicate damsel in distress who can be magically cured by a big strong prince coming to her rescue #so...here we are. again. i’m hurt #and i’m angry because i deserved better. every person and ESPECIALLY every woman who’s survived abuse deserved better. #this little blog might not be much but this and every blog i make will always be a safe place for survivors #margaretha is more than a pretty face orba helpless victim or a soulless seductress or a damsel in distress. #which is to say every woman who has survived abuse is more than those things #and i know im talking about one character here. but this is a microcosm of the massive problem with how women who survive abuse are shown #if you have any questions i am genuinely happy to answer them to the best of my ability. this is not an attack on any individual. #abuse tw #behind the curtain: mod speaks 💕 #ooc