#they call nbs homophobic for being lesbians but then imply we dont exist

[toastandnoodles]

I saw this one person who reblogged a post from my gay yearning account shitting on nonbinary lesbians so I just like. Did the reasonable thing and blocked them, bc I've been there done that, ya know? Like buddy I once was an exclus myself I don't want that kind of energy on my dash or in my notes.

I scrolled through their account for a bit and fuckin uh??? One of their posts was like "You shouldn't block me just because I disagree with you, I like seeing the perspectives of people I disagree with, and blocking me keeps me from seeing your response" blah blah blah and like. That's cool, I understand not wanting your social spaces to be a complete echo chamber.

But also I don't owe you a debate on my existence. I don't owe you the time of day for you to call me invalid and argue on my own identity. My identity is not up for debate just because you're relatively anonymous online and it's really ignorant to think you have any sort of right to peoples' spaces like that.

I engage in discourses all the time in real life, with my friends, family, and college classes. Even my girlfriend and I have playful debates. I go online as a source of comfort and as a way to connect to other people like me. If I don't want you in my space, I'm just gonna block you. I don't owe you anything, especially not access to the space I use to wind down from the day. Fuck off with that presumptuous shit.

#also they kept shitting on nonbinary people that dont present androgynously so #they call nbs homophobic for being lesbians but then imply we dont exist #pick one or the other buddy #we cant be homophobic if we arent real