#this has nothing to do with you being neurodivergent i think you're just self centered lol

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procastinating at work but here's my philosophy for today: it's okay to hate a behavior in someone else but also understand that this behavior does not make them a bad person. like i HATE when i'm venting or talking about a serious problem i have and then the person i'm talking to starts trying to relate by talking about a similar experience they've had. like absolutely hate it. make me feel like the focus is being taken off me and it genuinely is in some ways, regardless of your intent. yeah, i understand that's your way of trying to comfort me -- but that's not the way i need or want to be comforted, and that's what matters in a situation where i'm coming to you to be helped.

and that's okay! like. no one is in the wrong here unless i have explicitly asked you to support me in a different way and you're intentionally refusing, or if i lash out at you when i could just disengage. it just means you're not a person i should go to for help when talking about my problems. we can still be friends, you and i can probably support each other in different ways, but we're just incompatible in this regard. and that's like....okay. it's okay to be incompatible with people.

#i need to stop going on instagram sooooo many hot takes on there piss me the fuck off #ok going on a rant here but like. #soooo many 'neurodivergent' posters on there are like 'neurotypicals suck bc they dont realize im being comforting when i talk abt myself #when they're upset!!!' and its like my friend i can understand your plight but like #1. this is an easily changable behavior #that tbh does not require much change on your part aside from just like. not talking. #2. the so-called neurotypicals in ur life are allowed to have boundaries and accomodations to their needs and ur currently not doing that #3. not every neurodivergent person does that. and some also hate it like the so called neurotypicals. #4. why are you prioritizing your emotions when a loved one comes to you for help or comfort. are u just a dick. #this has nothing to do with you being neurodivergent i think you're just self centered lol #like genuinely if you do this you are not a bad person. it's not a bad thing. i thinnk im just mad at the people who insist #that it's the only way they can ever try to comfort someone and they act like asking them to change this behavior is ableist #and if they genuinely can't change this behavior then fine!! like they i wont go to you with my problems #and that's also fine #but yeah anyways these tags are so different from the message of the post lol but anyways just needed to rant

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The post about npd stigmatization from calling people narcissistic instead of self-centered

1) thanks I've done that a couple times so I won't now

2) What tf is with people randomly bringing up pedophilia? Personality disorders have literally nothing to do with that sexual predator shit. I had a hard time reading that guy's responses bc I could not see the connection either. Like it was put plainly they were talking about stigma and npd(and to an extent other personality disorders)....so where did they get pedophilia?? Like it was literally this: The Post: Say self centered, stigmatizing npd is bad

Me: Makes sense The Guy: pEdOpHiLiA Me: ??????????

1) fantastic.

2)

Ableists are wild. That's what happens when you stigmatize personality disorders so extensively. You propagandize ppl with cluster B disorders as evil and people will eventually believe it. And equate them to the worst shit they can think of.

That's what happens when you strip people of their humanity and start to see them as nothing except manufactured stigma.

And I know y'all are sick of me saying but that's white supremacy at work. Dehumanizing people you see as Lesser is step 1 to convincing yourselves you'd be better off without them. Step 1 to justifying how you treat them. But also step 1 to convincing yourselves you're innately better than them.

Reality is we are people like anyone else, capable of making our choice to be a shitty person just like everyone else has the same choice.

But we don't often get the luxury of being seen that way. And often have to fight our way out of that awful light.

Contrast this against the crusades neurotypicals will fight to justify wanting a racist mass murderer and warmonger into the most important job in the country. Or how they justify platforming someone actively causing harm to the trans community like JKR.

They don't have to fight for people to see them as people despite how obviously Awful their actions are. Simply by way of being neurotypicals they're seen as better. And will even have the audacity to still ask "but my choices don't make me a bad person, right?"

Because by demonizing mental illness they've saved themselves from having to be accountable for any of their own actions and choices. Because by their logic your choices aren't what makes you, your physiology does.

And that logic is just eugenics with extra steps. It's essentialism. It's the same logic TERFS and racists use. Because see if you aren't neurodivergent which is #Bad then you must be Good if you aren't that, right? Absolved of your shit actions without ever having to atone for them. So you get to say whatever the fuck you want about us and pretend to be right. Like equating people with NPD to pedophiles for no fucking reason.

#ableism #npd #cluster b #asked #answered #yeah im bitter