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#this is specifically about how i had gay people tell me theyd never date a bisexual because they ALWAYS cheat or leave them for het couples
sooptea · 6 months
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I still think about the fact that I got a lot of harassment for IDing as bisexual when I was younger. I feel like it's either not really an issue anymore or I have just miraculously avoided seeing any biphobia the last few years.
Like yeah, there probably are people who hate bi people, it wouldn't surprise me, and it wouldn't surprise me if the only reason why I don't see it anymore is just because I'm in the United States and our queer conversation at the moment is more focused on gender identity than sexual identity.
Idk maybe it's why I think it's fucking stupid people rag on binary trans and nonbinary trans people. Like in 60 years transphobia is gonna be seen as old and stupid. What have we learned the last 10, 60, 1000+ years? Nothing.
People are gonna rehash the same bullshit excuse every time just a different enemy
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thelaudown · 3 years
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hyouka poly slowburn so its like: (post-anime)
satoshi and mayaka are dating all through highschool and houtarou and eru are maybe a little more invested than friends would normally be, and step in when they have problems to a degree that regular people would call a boundary issue.
houtarou and mayaka still give each other shit at every opportunity, but theyre much more outwardly friendly than before, and if she ever argues w satoshi houtarou is the first to say that theres no way its her fault. maybe one time it is and he confronts her abt it in a way that forces her to take him seriously. its the respect and codependency for me. 
mayaka and satoshi have functioning eyes and houtarous feelings for eru are completely obvious to them. unfortunately shes a little harder to read, so they never really get further than being very close friends and committing to being together for the foreseeable future, as far as this road will take them - its the same dynamic for the entire friend group, but satoshi starts seriously considering a proposal in third year. 
he and mayaka will be seperated through college - she wants to go to art school, he thinks he might like to be a teacher (specifically of like, textiles or language) and he thinks long distance is too much to ask of her. after a serious conversation she agrees and they take a break through college, but they are tentatively engaged, will be keeping in touch, and want to pick things back up once theyre both in the same location again. 
mayaka and eru flat in college, bringing up mayakas long buried feelings for her, and theyve always been so touchy, and she has a feeling that erus guilty about something? but she doesnt want to get her hopes up. she gets really frustrated and confides in the only person who knows both satoshi and mayaka and isnt involved - HOUTAROU, who attends a less prestigious college than eru but is taking similar business courses (he hasnt forgotten) and is commuting from home. 
hes closer to them than satoshi, but theres still a little distance and they dont meet as often as theyd like, partially bc he doesnt often make the effort - the energy he does have is expended on his classes, bc he has a motivation to do well - if he does, maybe eru will consider him without him even putting himself out there. anyway she still calls him on the phone all the time tho. 
he doesnt really have any advice when mayaka speaks to him, but hes quick to reassure her that satoshi wouldnt be bothered by her feelings - "because its eru". functioning adults refer to each other by their first names. it was a super embarassing transition period but theyre used to it now. 
so mayaka takes the leap and eru admits that while shes never really been one to dwell on romantic feelings, she reciprocates but is concerned abt satoshi - she loves him too, after all, and he and mayaka were/are/will be a great couple. she ends up confessing this to houtarou, filled w apologies and assurances that he neednt worry abt her personal matters, but he doesnt mind listening. anyway it stings (in a sad way, not a bitter one) that she apparently has interest in both mayaka and satoshi but not him, but he REALLY cant blame her. he tells her that he doesnt know how to advise her and she thanks him for listening, and then he does probably the most meddlesome thing hes ever done and calls satoshi and tells him everything. 
satoshi is really cool abt it, and hits him w "lol if theyre dating what if i just take you out to lunch. fairs fair. what do you mean you dont know about my massive crush on you, mr observer didnt pick it up? oh wow okay youre really stupid when it comes to yourself. ill pick you up on friday" and then satoshi calls mayaka and gives her his blessing and assures that he loves them both and wishes them the best and wow they REALLY need to catch up soon. hell bring houtarou and they can compare date notes! and he hangs up. 
satoshi is still kind of a petty guy and he probably only confessed to houtarou bc he was taken off guard, but hes not being inauthentic by any means. this is the new improved satoshi 2.0, who is becoming more comfortable w there being things he doesnt like abt himself and working on them and getting his feelings out constructively, rather than pushing them down and refusing to put himself in situations that might turn out badly. he gets his hopes up again, and is happier for it even when hes let down. 
eru is shocked to hear abt houtarou and satoshi. mayaka isnt. they talk abt it, interspersed w making out, and are shocked to realise that they like both of them - mayaka is ESPECIALLY taken off guard, both by her own feelings and erus, which shed never noticed before. she almost tells eru abt houtarous 3+ years of pining, but stops herself lest things get messy. shes starting to get an idea, but needs to tread lightly. besides, its not like houtarou wld ever like her. theyre barely even friends. it doesnt all add up as evenly as shed like. 
for houtarous part, hes genuinely in wtf mode irt satoshis feelings for him, and hes been in eru chitanda hell for so long that he never considered anything else, but now that he IS.... satoshi isnt so bad. he was always really cute w mayaka, when he wasnt being annoying for fun and profit. sure. okay. so they do some gay double dating through college, but the cross couple pining dont stop. satoshi is absolutely still obsessed w mayaka, but houtarou doesnt mind bc he cant take his eyes off eru whenever they meet up either. 
she still calls him on the phone all the time, and when schoolwork picks up he often finds himself calling her w thoughts or questions. they do some more thought exercises, but they dont need to argue as an excuse, and she barely has to badger him anymore. one day he looks at himself and sees a functioning adult who spends a moderate amount of energy on things that arent necessarily necessary, and wants to sigh, but. hes happy. 
college ends and they all find themselves back in kamiyama - satoshi is student teaching at their old middle school, eru is hard at work for her family, mayaka is working while she works on her manga debut, and houtarou is working while he figures out what he actually wants. 
its clear to all of them that mayaka and satoshi need to have a talk, so they do, and they come up with... poly. its unconventional, but they really are happy, and they really do love each other, and mayaka would love to start wearing her ring again (satoshi never took his off, and she pretended not to notice but she had the biggest lady boner over it). 
so now sometimes eru and houtarou are hanging out while their boyfriend and girlfriend are out on dates being engaged, making up for lost time and considering the practicality of marriage while they both have sidepieces, and houtarou and eru are pining BAD, but neither notices the other and he asks how her business is going and maybe kind of offers his assistance platonically. 
so now THATS happening, and satoshi and mayaka get to talking one day abt how those two should date, shld we do smth? and if they did then the only pieces missing are mayaka/houtarou and satoshi/eru which is a beautiful dream but wld never happen, what do you mean he/she wld love to date you, wait really, oh my god, what, are we doing this, 
and houtarou who has been working himself up to confessing for the past SEVEN YEARS, never gets to bc satoshi and mayaka interrupt while theyre at work and do it for him 
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b00bstone · 7 years
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half the ask the blogger questions please u can pick which ones
so i think this is half
2. If you could have dinner with any 3 living or dead people, who would they be and why?
my moms dad. because he was apparently bi. and my mom doesnt talk about him a lot so im curious. 2. van gogh. i feel like we would get along. we are both depressed and wanna die. and like to paint. altho hes wayyyy better than i could ever hope to be. and 3. celestine. i really fucking miss her. 
3. What makes you laugh?
not a lot tbh. my sense of humour doesnt make a lot of sense but thomas sanders usually does. 
9. What do you like to do on the weekends?
sleep and cry. 
13. Tell me one surprising fact about you.
i like exercising. i dont do it because i never have energy but when i do (as long as its something fun like biking or hiking or swimming) then i really enjoy it. 
the rest is under a readmore  because this post is long af and it gets kinda depressing... (i hope i did it right)
15. What were you like as a child?
not much different than i am now. annoying and selfish. 
16. What are some things on your bucket list?
i wanna go to space (which is crazy for someone whose two main fears are heights and the dark)
i wanna kiss someone really cute and have that feeling that all those poems and songs and books and movies talk about. the magical one. 
i wanna get married. like the white dress and the reception and everything. 
i wanna go to pride parade.
i wanna go to a gay bar
i wanna be so in love with someone that it makes everyone else simultaneously jealous and hopeful. like of course someone that loves me back too. 
i wanna live somewhere like seattle. 
i wanna go see a broadway musical in person. 
i wanna go to a concert
i wanna have REALLY  great sex. 
i wanna travel the world. 
and ill end it there or it could go on for years. then this post would get REALLY long. 
23. If you could give your younger self one piece of advice, what would it be and why?
its ur life. do with it whatever the fuck u want. and if people object then flip the bird at them and say fuck u i only get one of these and ill live it how i please. because maybe if younger me had heard that id be braver and actually be able to find in me the courage to leave this house behind and carve out my own little hole in this world. 
24. If you were stuck on a deserted island and could only bring one thing, what would it be?
a plane fully stocked with fuel and a pilot. the pilot comes with the plane and the fuel so it all counts as one thing.
29. What would you do if you won a million dollars?
buy myself a house far away from everything and everyone and move all my fav people there and their fav people and just chill there for a while. 
30. If you could have one superpower, what would it be?
the ability to get a rough idea of the future. like good or bad. u know. 
32. What actor or actress would star as you in a movie about your life?
Imelda Staunton
34. If you could trade lives with anyone else for one day, who would you trade with?
trump. one day is all id need. 
39. Are you a picky eater?
yes. i hate meat. i always have. and as a little kid i didnt even know how animals were treated. i just hate the taste. adn i hate cooked veggies. raw veggies are ok but cooked ones are gross. and spinach is gross. and there are a ton of other stuff i could list 
41. What beverage do you consume most often?
energy drinks. i had like 5 today. 
42. What is the first thing you wash in the shower?
hair. 
44. How are you feeling right now?
sad.
48. Do you love yourself?
fuck no. 
49. When was the last time you cried and why?
like 5 seconds ago. because im depressed and hate myself. 
53. Have you ever flown in an airplane?
yeah. i was terrified of it as a little kid. 
55. Are your parents or guardians strict?
well the only people i know whose parents are worse than mine on the strictness scale i recently realized have abusive parents so id say yes. they are rather strict. 
57. Have you ever been in love?
yeah. requited love? nah.
58. Do you bite into your ice cream or just lick it?
the only time it is acceptable to bite ice cream is if it is in sandwich form. 
59. Did the one person who hurt you most in your life ever apologize?
no i still havent apologized to myself yet. 
60. What are some of your turn-ons?
confidence. but like humble confidence. vulnerability. being into me. 
61. What are some of your turn-offs?
cockiness. being an asshole. not being into me. 
63. What are you thinking about right now?
my turn ons and offs and how much i hate myself.
65. Do you ever illegally download entertainment such as music, movies, etc.?
… ok so if ur from the FBI i need u to look away. ok now that the FBI isnt reading this. yeah i illegally stream movies and tv shows. not so much music tho. ok FBI u can continue reading now. 
66. What is your zodiac sign?
cancer
67. Do you believe in karma or predestiny?
i dont know. i mean it makes sense. karma that is. predestiny is kinda depressing but i was raised in a very christian enviroment and the bible is confusing on that. so i dont really believe in it because then like my reason for living outside of people and my dog is almost completely gone.
68. Is there anything you want to say to anyone right now?
to my romantic soulmate: if ur out tehre come find me bitch. im lonely and want someone to kiss. 
70. What is your stance on abortion?
i think its not my decision to make for other people. i dont think i would eget one personally but if someone else wants to then thats their choice and they should be allowed to make it. 
71. Do you believe in ghosts?
yeah. it just seems plausible. 
75. What do you daydream about?
having friends. and a bf/gf. being happy and seeing my friends and boyfriend or girlfriend all the time. not living here. i also fantasize about killing myself sometimes. or just dying in general. but its mostly about having friends and a significant other.
76. Where do you want to live after retirement?
i dunno. maybe switch between hawaii and alaska. or just hawaii with occassional trips to alaska.
77. What would you change your first name to?
joseph. 
78. If you believe in a God or Higher Power, what one question would you want to ask Him or Her?
WHAT THE FUCK?!?!?!?! theyd get what i mean. 
82. What do you worry about most?
being alone forever and everyone hating me as much as i hate me
83. When was the last time you tried something new and what was it?
last weekend. it was food. 
84. Who do you compare yourself to?
lots of people, one person specifically whose name we will not use tho is blub. im not gonna give away any info on this person. but i kinda hate them for no reason. theyre a nice person that i barely know but i hate them and theyre so much better than me. which is part of why i hate them. 
86. What five words would you use to describe your personality?
annoying. needy. selfish. weird. ew. 
89. If not now, then when?
good question. when someone wants to date me. 
90. Is it possible to lie without saying a word?
yeah 
91. What activities make you lose track of time?
talking to friends. crying. sleeping. 
93. What is your biggest regret?
not dying earlier? 
95. Are you a messy person or a clean person?
messy messy messy. 
97. How tall are you?
like 5.5 o5 5.6
98. What is your guilty pleasure?
eating a ton of cheetos. and also using bathbombs and facemasks. 
99. Do you prefer sweet or salty?
lately salty more. but my fav is cheesy.
100. What is your favorite social media website?
tumblr is a hellsite but probably tumblr. 
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