#u can overshare with me anytime and i wont be like that and im dead serious.

[mogai-sunflowers]

Am I the only one who really hated the year where the "nobody asked thing" happened a ton? It was used against me a lot whenever I overshared and as an autistic person I have trouble regulating that so I just stopped talking at all.

YEAH IT'S SO RUDE AND FOR NO FUCKING REASON??????????????? one time someone said that exact thing to me and i had a panic attack and felt so horrible but now looking back on it....... yes! yes you DID ask!!! because you made a public post with an opinion and gave absolutely no instruction as to who you wanted to respond! this is on YOU! /nay anon

#🌌written in the stars ; asks🌌 #im so sorry anon thats really sucky #u can overshare with me anytime and i wont be like that and im dead serious. #the way internet leftism practically requires you to be perfect is so fucking annoying #people act like if you aren't a part of a certain group that youre an asshole if you ever engage in convos about said group. #which is fucking RIDICULOUS!! #like for context #this person made a post sharing an opinion on unlearning racism. and i added my opinion because i too #am a person who has had to unlearn racism. what a shocker. #so i added on agreeing with their point and adding a little of my own insight. #and they responded saying they didnt ask for my white opinion and i needed to shut up #and its like. i understand and respect if you dont want white people interacting with your posts. but you DIDNT SAY THAT! #and sense you didnt i assumed that it was okay to add my opinion because THATS HOW HUMAN CONVERSATIONS WORK!!!! #it was perfectly normal for me to engage in a discussion on racism. i wasn't speaking on an issue i have no say in #i was simply talking about the importance of unlearning racism and doing the work because i have experience with that and its true. #this is true for all nuances and group dynamics im just talking about this rn #please dont get me wrong im not trying to undermine the importance of centering poc #and im not in any way trying to say that white people are always qualified to talk about racism or that we should always share our opinions #OR that poc are obligated to be nice to white people when they're disrespectful to them. #but my point is here that i was entirely within my lane #entirely respectful #but because i misinterpreted a social situation that was not at all clear i was suddenly the bad guy #and its infuriating because this has happened so many times. im not a bad person for getting shit wrong and its done so much and i mean SO #FUCKING #MUCH #harm to my mental health to think of myself as a failure because of my mistakes #it's just. ugh. stop