#you have to engage with the trans people who arent put together and picture perfect and rough and tired and just people and not an aesthetic

[ratboy]

cis ppl get so mad at t4t relationships bc they couldn't fathom wanting to date a clocky trans person. they want someone who fits neatly into Woman or Man and that's the end of it. but that isn't what being trans is about for a lot of us. it's about the fuzzy edges and not existing within either and also both categories. it's about learning to love that ambiguity and embracing it and finding other trans people who embrace it within themselves and you rather than try and smooth out all the wrinkles and edges.

#im just really tired of hating my own body and feeling like everyone wants to be an ally but no one wants to put in the work #like if you want to date a trans person youre gonna have to learn to love stubble on people not just transfems but also transmascs #and even fuckin intersex ppl who may or may not consider themselves trans #you cant just hang that chevron flag and go to pride every year and call it a night #you have to engage with the trans people who arent put together and picture perfect and rough and tired and just people and not an aesthetic #idk man im just #being a 20smth trans is hard bc i feel like im a kid and a teenager and a young adult and an old man at the same time #im trying to just do what makes me happy and its hard bc i cant help but compare myself to all these young hot trans ppl who are also my age #and also like put on so much effort to how they look and they all look so pretty and attractive i just fucking cant be fucked #and i feel less than bc of that like thats my problem is that im not putting enough effort in and if i just looked prettier or tried harder #id make friends easier but like #i just cant be fucked #caws #vent post