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[whatisgoingoninmyhead]

im sorry i had to do it that line is just so damn *chef's kiss* ARO

#aromantic #aroace posts

[whatisgoingoninmyhead]

“can you people just let friends be friends!!” i shout into the mic. the crowd boos and throws tomatoes at me. “why, are you homophobic?” they accuse. i shoot everyone dead with my aromantic beam.

#aroace posts #aromantic

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being aroace must be so nice cuz like you don’t have to deal with romance. you must have so much more free time to dedicate to like. fostering healthy friendships and stuff. idk it seems like it would be easier to live like that

#aroace posts #reading cute fanfics again has got me feeling this lol. even if its meant to be romantic i just like the dynamic #and even better if the author intended it to be shown as a strong friendship

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#polls

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Having severe self-worth issues and being aroace is so funny because on one side I'm always doubting myself but then again I'm not driven by romance nor sexual attraction so I just feel like crap until someone tells me something about their love/sexual life and suddenly I've got a god complex

#aroace posts

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International Asexuality Day!!

Today, the 6th of April, is international asexuality day.

It’s only the 3rd year of celebration, as the day was recognised in 2021!!

It’s worldwide effort to recognize the asexuality community and promote understanding of the asexual spectrum, including all umbrella identities!!

#aroace posts #international asexuality day #asexual

[whatisgoingoninmyhead]

i wish aroace headcanons were able to become popular sometimes. i wish aroace headcanons didn’t have to be prefaced with “but aroace people can be in relationships too!!” just so they can exist without discourse. i wish aroace characters were allowed to be written as sex and/or romance-repulsed without people trying to retcon it. i wish aroace headcanons weren’t overshadowed by people who don’t care about erasing us. i wish aroace characters could exist without being shipped with other characters in an allonormative way under the excuse that aroace people can be in allonormative relationships too. i wish aroace characters and headcanons could exist and be loved just as much as allo characters and headcanons. i wish people took canon aroace characters seriously. i wish people realised that it’s okay for a character to not have sex or be in a relationship. i wish people would let aroace people claim their own characters. i wish aroace people could participate in fandom spaces without feeling like our voices are being constantly erased.

i wish aroace characters could exist.

#aroace posts

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aroaces: hey guys could u not keep shipping this cannon aroace character please

allos: BUT AROACE PEOPLE CAN DATE

aroaces: well yes but our relationships work differently and very few people are acknowledging the nuances of our identity-

allos: B-BUT THEY CAN DATE

aroaces: you’re not listening are you

#aroace posts

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where are all my people (closeted aroace girls whose parents think they are a lesbian bc they lack interest in men)?

#me and my “you know I'll support you if you're gay” mum #don't know if that support extends to not getting married and giving her grandkids though so i say nothing #aroace posts

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the MORE aphobia i see in fandoms, the more annoyingly in-your-face aroace i'm going to get. i aint gonna sit back and let aroace get erased, aphobia is literally just repackaged homophobia.

#aroace posts

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im sadly not the type of aroace that throws around dirty jokes and flirts.

im the type that wants to disappear the moment my friends jokingly flirt with me because of how “uncomfortable” i get.

i in fact do not find most dirty jokes funny just disgusting.

and it has nothing to do with me being “ImMaTuRre”.

#aroace posts #real

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the heartache of being aroace is so crushing. i was born to love fiercely and all encompassing. i want to cook for you. i want to take you on picnics. i want to take care of you when you’re sick. i want to sit in silence with you. i want to share my life with you.

but no, i don’t want to kiss you. i don’t want to have sex. i don’t even really like holding hands. i’m sorry. i know its not enough. i’m sorry i’m not more.

please let me love you anyways.

#aroace posts

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"aros and aces can still love and have sex!" yeah but do you really mean that? can you accept the fact that some aroaces don’t want sex and dont do romance? or do you just want to use that as an excuse when you want two people to date despite one or both of them being actively repulsed by romance, or when you want two people to have sex despite one or both of them being actively sex repulsed? are you only saying that for your own benefit?

#aroace posts

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Make more Sex repulsed characters. Make more Romance repulsed characters. Make more loveless aro characters. Make more Non-Partnering characters.

and most of all: don't make these identities flaws. Don't "fix" them by the end of the story. Don't make them obstacles for the characters to overcome. let them be fully complex people without treating their repulsion, lovelessness, or non-partnering identities as a flaw that needs to be fixed. Let these characters exist in a genuine and positive way that is not looked down upon or shamed.

#aroace posts

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Not all aroaces are shy and awkward! I am tho.

#aroace posts

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Lately I've read one defense of casual/systemic/accidental aphobia too many and I let it get to my head.

Just because people "don't mean to hurt you", that doesn't mean they don't hurt you. That shouldn't justify hurtful dismissal. Especially after you make it clear over and over again that you don't wanna be dismissed and that it hurts.

I'm all for giving people time to get educated and open their mind to things but... Yeah typically that ain't that.

Bleh.

PS: The saddest part is that despite deciding "we should be past that" the fight ain't over for anybody anyway really. But yeah, the "they just want you to be happy" excuse helps nowhere, is my point.

#aroace posts

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Aspec representation is important because kids are still told in health class that everyone feels attraction

Aspec representation is important because somewhere in the world there’s a 12 year old crying because they feel broken

Aspec representation is important because I still get told “that’s not real” when I come out

Aspec representation is important because people still think the A in LGBTQIA+ stands for ally

Aspec representation is important because everyone deserves to see someone like them on screen

Aspec representation is important because people still think that asexual and aromantic are the same thing

Aspec representation is important

#aroace posts #representation