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Sick to death of the narratives that people have to forgive their abusive parents, especially the ones painting it as leverage for the healing we need - telling us that in order to ever be happy we have to forgive the person who never once apologised or changed their behaviour. See the thing is, to some people, forgiveness is just permission to do it again. One more time before it has consequences. One more strike, insult, or attempt to control. And another thing is, you can’t confuse justified anger with rumination.

There’s just something incredibly cruel about telling people who have already spent a life time wrecked by undeserved guilt, thinking we’re responsible for the abusers behaviour, thinking that any action to protect ourselves is a terrible betrayal against our parent and their needs, that what we have to do to get our needs met is to give up on our needs, our right to fair treatment, or to our emotions about what happened. It’s like telling us all over again that it’s our fault that violence left wounds and we’re the ones causing a problem by being angry at the person who hurt us... even though getting angry because someone hurt you is a healthy, normal reaction! 

I say fuck forgiveness, and fight rumination instead. If you want to or need to forgive, then that’s that. But finding a way to stop repeatedly thinking about the abuse in unhelpful ways is not the same as ‘forgiving’ the abuser. Those are two different things and I need people to shut the hell up already if they can’t keep the two apart. 

#tw: child abuse #child abuse #childhood trauma #abusive parents #popping in out of nowhere and popping right out again #sorry fandom but im overwhelmed and quite frankly an emotional wreck atm so ill keep taking my time away from social media and writing #im spending most of my time in school or in bed or spending time with friends and it's keeping me as mentally well as i can be rn #PTSD is a bitch and a half and i dont want it - bah!

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Apologies for disappearing; life has simply been too much. Won’t come back in another little while but I’m okay and not gone forever <3

#personal

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If neurotypicals are so good at picking up hints, why do they never seem to notice you leaning away when they try to touch you?

#endless frustration

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Sweet angel baby, my beautiful cinnamon bun, did everything wrong, many many problems, too fucked for this world, i love you beyond words <3

#i rewatched arcane again

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there is no “trans debate.” you either believe in the rights of all people to personal freedom, bodily autonomy, privacy, and self-identification, or you’re just a bad person.

#exactly this #it's so glaringly obvious it's beyond irritating when people blow up their transphobic issues to epic proportions #like CHILL it's really quite simple what the fuck #lgbtq+ stuff

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Got to hand it to the Imperial system that their names for units of measurements sound a lot better in stories than the metric units and maybe that’s how they have survived for this long

#metrics are so convenient but in english they just sound a lot less beautiful and poetic than the imperial units #i think thoughts

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we're all just sluts with mental illnesses and tummy problems

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the group chat when i ask whos available to hang out next week

#honestly with my friends this is not too far off #video

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Kisame Week 2022: Day 3- Dog Samehada & by the Sea.

#ASJDLSSD #lost it #comic

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Bite

#arcane #caitvi

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#art #spitblossoms

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as the ocean kisses the shoreline. | Sai/Itachi

Summary: A canon-adjacent AU in which only some bad things happened. Sai and Itachi bonding through shared love and dedication on the seaside. Pre-relationship flirting ensues.

Pairing: Sai/Uchiha Itachi

Rating: Gen

Word Count: 2926

Author’s note: this fic is the result of a discord server gift exchange for my dear friend @painttoolyamanaka​ . i hope you enjoy this bit of nonsense i threw out into the world just for you x

the timeline of this is somewhere between “uhhh” and “hmm” territory. early blank period is my best guess listen I never know what I’m doing just enjoy some boys bein sweet on each other

Ao3

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The first thing Sai notices about Itachi is the way he looks when he loves. The sunlight adds colour to his black hair, roots shining a warm and dark brown. The tear troughs that run down his cheeks seem less severe, the wind fanning his hair out behind him and the smallest tease of a smile curving the corner of his mouth.

Keep reading

#to read #omfg thats such an interesting ship tho #itasai #naruto fanfiction

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do kids these days know about glomping?

#let it fade away in obscurity and let its memory be nothing more than fuel for the cosplay is not consent movement

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Be careful princess  🌸

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#if this isnt fic inspo idk what is #how to build a sex room

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Anyone: "I guess I have a lot to learn and explore."

Melanie Rose: "Have you ever tried a sex swing?"

#how to build a sex room #she is me getting hype to talk condoms and pleasure boosters rofl --- too much fun!

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I just finished watching 'How to Build a Sex Room' on Netflix and ... it is probably one of the most sex positive shows I've seen. The soundtrack is completely awesome and every song they play use is a bop. Also, the designer, Melanie Rose is lovely and so accepting.

And she and her contractor are a fucking kick when they're together - and for as much as they joke, her contractor is just as open and accepting as she is. And the people that are featured on this show are such an amazing cross-section of America.

More vanilla couples, people on their second wedding, gay couples, lesbian couples, nonbinary, polycules, a single woman finding her way after 22 years of marriage, a couple where the man was raised super conservative so is far newer to kink than his wife, highschool sweethearts who have been together 17 years where the woman tops ...

This 8 episode 'design series' actually does an amazing job of showing that kink comes in all shapes, sizes and flavours.

I highly reccommend it.

#YES! #Still watching it and I'm THRILLED to see such genuine sex positivity -- it's wonderful and a great example to set for a wide audience! #focusing on psychological - emotional - and physical pleasure with openness and acceptance #shaming absolutely noone nor raising one way of sexuality or sexual practice over another #it's fab - so so fab #how to build a sex room