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I don't think anyone is interested in me, LOL, but sure, ask.

bring back tumblr ask culture let me. bother you with questions and statements

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One time payment.

You obviously need to restrain yourself and not just immediately spend it, but if you manage to at least somewhat reasonably invest that money it is the better option.

If you manage to spread that money across an investment portfolio that generates an average 5% interest per year in your first year you get a return of 500,000$. Divide that by 365 days in a year and you get ~1,370$ per day. So do not touch it for a year and from the second year onwards you have more daily money than the first option, even if you completely spend your year one gains. AND you still have 10,000,000$ in the bank that creates 500,000$ for the next year.

Can't wait a year to have that sweet sweet daily money? Even if you take out 365,000$ immediately (to pay yourself 1000$ /day for a year) and "only" invest the rest of the money at 5% you will still have 10,116,750$ ( (10,000,000-365,000)x1.05 ) in your accounts at the end of your year, so more than you started the year with.

If you DON'T spend all the year one gains it will be even more, and increase more rapidly in the years to come thanks to compound interest.

If you spend none of the money and re-invest all returns after the 27 year "break even" mark for the daily income, you will not have broken even, you will have 37,334,563$ (assuming the 5% return on investment average from above)

The 1000$/day group may have invested some of the surplus too, of course, but they will not have profited from compound interest nearly as much as the upfront payment group (provided somewhat sensible investment)

Explain your reasoning plzzz

#why am I doing math at almost 11pm?

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Love the posture of the lynx in the last picture

Stray cat breaks into Lynx’s enclosure at zoo

(Source)

#look #am smol #like my fren

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#roughly every other day #more often if days with high physical activity or heat don't align with the 'schedule' #maybe less often if depression hits

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I think in addition to 'not everything is about you' is the lack of perspective taking that is going on and recognizing that not everyone has the same choices you have.

"You should cut your vegetables yourself, pre-cut is expensive and bad for the environment" is a fair point when the alternatives are cutting vegetables and buying pre-cut vegetables.

But to e.g. a chronically ill person those are not the alternatives. The actual choice are pre-cut vegetables or no vegetables. Or maybe cutting vegetables and then lacking the energy to take a shower, to look after your child, to actually eat the damn vegetable you just cut.

The choice isn't cooking a healthy meal or getting a liquid meal. The "options" are getting a liquid meal or not eating.

“ew thick water gross and weird” ITS NOT FUCKING FOR YOU!!!!! “ew why buy pre-cut vegetables when you can cut your own” ITS NOT FUCKING FOR YOU!!!!!! “I don’t need a device to help me put my socks on I’m not lazy” ITS NOT FUCKING FOR YOU !!!!!!!!! “Why drink liquid meals when you can cook them” ITS!!!!! NOT!!!!!! FOR!!!!!! YOU!!!!!!!!

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Okay, but the treatise on the hardware store ecosystem is leaving out the keystone species of the Covert Kinkster. I know they try very hard to not get noticed while roaming the aisles for things to modify and use as BDSM gear, but they've been there at least as long as the Lesbians. There are several known cases of hybridization between the two!

*releases pack of dads into home depot* go……be free

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no multi option, agonize and choose, no results option, pick one to find out or scroll onward

#bed #my currently cold feet may have skewed my decision

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The "I don't have autism -> I have some autism symtoms but they're from other disorders -> I might be autistic but I won't self diagnose -> I might be autistic but the symtoms don't really go that far back in my life -> I keep finding more symtoms that link my behavior with autism -> oh my god so many things I do are autism symtoms -> jesus christ these go back as far as i remember" pipeline is real and it happened to me

#puts fingers in ears #LALALALA I cannot hear you

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do me a solid and just reblog this saying what time it is where you are and what you’re thinking about in the tags.

#09:06 am #thinking about what I want to do today #do I go to the flea market with a friend? #because yay shiny things #but urgh so many humans

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because sometimes there are invisible tests and invisible rules and you're just supposed to ... know the rule. someone you thought of as a friend asks you for book recommendations, so you give her a list of like 30 books, each with a brief blurb and why you like it. later, you find out she screenshotted the list and send it out to a group chat with the note: what an absolute freak can you believe this. you saw the responses: emojis where people are rolling over laughing. too much and obsessive and actually kind of creepy in the comments. you thought you'd been doing the right thing. she'd asked, right? an invisible rule: this is what happens when you get too excited.

you aren't supposed to laugh at your own jokes, so you don't, but then you're too serious. you're not supposed to be too loud, but then people say you're too quiet. you aren't supposed to get passionate about things, but then you're shy, boring. you aren't supposed to talk too much, but then people are mad when you're not good at replying.

you fold yourself into a prettier paper crane. since you never know what is "selfish" and what is "charity," you give yourself over, fully. you'd rather be empty and over-generous - you'd rather eat your own boundaries than have even one person believe that you're mean. since you don't know what the thing is that will make them hate you, you simply scrub yourself clean of any form of roughness. if you are perfect and smiling and funny, they can love you. if you are always there for them and never admit what's happening and never mention your past and never make them uncomfortable - you can make up for it. you can earn it.

don't fuck up. they're all testing you, always. they're tolerating you. whatever secret club happened, over a summer somewhere - during some activity you didn't get to attend - everyone else just... figured it out. like they got some kind of award or examination that allowed them to know how-to-be-normal. how to fit. and for the rest of your life, you've been playing catch-up. you've been trying to prove that - haha! you get it! that the joke they're telling, the people they are, the manual they got- yeah, you've totally read it.

if you can just divide yourself in two - the lovable one, and the one that is you - you can do this. you can walk the line. they can laugh and accept you. if you are always-balanced, never burdensome, a delight to have in class, champagne and glittering and never gawky or florescent or god-forbid cringe: you can get away with it.

you stare at your therapist, whom you can make jokes with, and who laughs at your jokes, because you are so fucking good at people-pleasing. you smile at her, and she asks you how you're doing, and you automatically say i'm good, thanks, how are you? while the answer swims somewhere in your little lizard brain:

how long have you been doing this now? mastering the art of your body and mind like you're piloting a puppet. has it worked? what do you mean that all you feel is... just exhausted. pick yourself up, the tightrope has no net. after all, you're cheating, somehow, but nobody seems to know you actually flunked the test. it's working!

aren't you happy yet?

#oof

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Ever since I have gotten on here I have been wondering why I didn't get on here much earlier.

Because YES to all of the above.

Having tumblr is fun cause it’s really just “I’m mentally ill, sleep deprived, and hyperfixating on something and I’m gonna make it everyone else’s problem.”

Then I’ll post shit that’s gets notes and I’m like “oh, good to know other people are in the same boat. Dear god are these people okay? Therapy should really be easier to access”

#look #it me #tumblr

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Anyway if you see this you have to reblog and tag with a delight from ur day -- even the littlest thing counts

#got a nice reply on an online conversation I thought to have ended before it started #at work I got to close a ticket that had been open annoyingly long

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3 flying foxes, one of which is a pup and a broken train station clock. Well, I'd love co-parenting the lil flying fox (I'd have to get vaccinated first tho), but beyond that not much relationship potential tbh...

You’re married to your phone background/lockscreen how fucked are you

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YES

I had an interview with a local paper this week about this rock snake I started on the longest street of a nearby city (where I work) because it's bringing people so much joy:

I said something during the interview that the interviewer seemed really shocked by, so in case it's important for anyone else to hear: When asked about the rock snake and some scavenger hunts that I've hosted for adults, I said -

"We don't stop enjoying the things we liked as kids; they just stop being offered to us. And when you're a kid, fun things like art projects and scavenger hunts are always brought to you, so you're not taught to make a habit of seeking them out as and adult."

She said "Wow yeah... life is so stressful... and you don't think to... wow."

So if anyone else needs direct permission to be a whimsical adult child today, I hereby grant it to everyone. ❤️

#stop trying to force yourself to 'be an adult' #life already does that to you way too much #just take the dopamine whenever you can get it

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THIS!

#no spoons to come up with useful tags #which feels appropriate

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Contrary to popular belief, “hating praise” is not just a PDA thing. There are many reasons it could not sit right with someone.

It’s also assumed that people like this just hate all praise, but that’s not true either. What we hate is feeling manipulated, or lied to, or monitored, etc.

I mean, do you realize how much adults are encouraged to use praise to manipulate kids and people in care?? We’re supposed to use it to get more of the behaviors we like, and to promote a “growth mindset,” and to encourage them to stick with activities we think are good for them, and so on and so on.

That’s so much trying to get people to do what we want them to do! Is it really any wonder that praise could end up feeling disingenuous and manipulative after a while? How often are we just genuinely appreciating something they’ve done or who they are as a person, and how are they to know the difference?

If you have someone in your life who reacts badly when you praise them, maybe take a look at your motivations or the way you’re doing it instead of assuming they are the one with the problem. Maybe there’s something like low self esteem or rejection sensitivity skewing their perception, or maybe their perception is just fine and they’re picking up on your ulterior motives (and they don’t appreciate it!).

And please know that you don’t have to withdraw all praise. Everyone wants to feel like they’re good at *something* and that people like what they do. Just wait until it’s wanted, and make sure it’s genuine, with no expectations attached.

#yes this #so much this #even worse for false/performed sympathy and pity #the utter rage that some memories of false pity towards me just brought up when viewed in context of this post is unreal

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Employee at the phone shop today clocked me as autistic after less than two minutes of talking to me. They discreetly asked me if I was autistic, and I replied that I was, at which point I also remarked that I usually thought I masked pretty good.

They replied "oh, you do, but I just kind of have a sense for this kind of thing."

It just left me thinking about how I had immediately clocked them as autistic too. NDs just be doing this

#as I have put it previously: #my gaydar may be broken #but my ND-tector is impeccable