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am-i-the-asshole-official · 3 months

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WIBTA if I were to report my ex friend's antisemitism to their university?

So I 20nb have been friends with most my current friend group since we were 11. Two years ago I stopped being friends with a guy in my friend group due to toxic behavior on his part (not antisemitic yet, just giving background info) He would constantly say things like "don't make fun of neurodivergent people's special interests and hyperfixations as they can't help it" and then would go and make fun of my special interests (note: said ex friend has ADHD). Over our friendship he had a lot of double standards like that and one day I had enough. The first time I brought it up he dismissed it as someone else in the friend group did the behaviors I'm accusing him of. I kinda dropped it as I didn't want to deal with that level of denial and thought that if I waited a few days he would have had some time to reflect. So I brought it up again and he continued to blame it being one of our other friends doing it and that I was simply "misremembering". I gave specific examples and rough time frames yet he continued to deny it. All I wanted was a simple "I'm sorry and I will work on that" yet he refused to do that. So I ended our friendship.

Since then we have been on rocky terms. We are still in the same friend group since the issue was between me and him, I didn't want to involve my friends and make people pick sides. He was moving away soon at the time of the end of our friendship so it wasn't like I was going to see him when the friend group all hung our together.

Since we are still in the same friend group, he is in the discord server our friend group has which is just like a massive group chat with things categorized into topics.

Recently there is the current conflict going on in Israel and Palenstine. I am Jewish and vented to the vent section of that discord server about how I have seen people I know irl post online antisemitic things. I am very much against Israels actions and made sure to include that in my vent so no one coukd twist my words. I didn't initially say exactly what I was seeing as I was still processing the fact that I was going to have to cut some people off.

He then replied to my vent saying that he has never seen anything antisemitic online and that if he has, he has seen Jewish people saying that it isnt. I replied that his reply to my vent was weird and that i was talking about people saying that all jews should die. I felt hurt as yet again he was being hypocritical towards me as he has said before that you should say that (what he said) when people complain about seeing hateful things towards a group (eg racism, homophobia, etc).

He then responded that I was only calling him antisemitic because he was arab. The thing is, I never called him antisemitic and I myself am also arab. (Yes I know, most people have never met an arab jew but we do exist).

I pointed out that I never called him antisemitic and I am also arab which he seems to have forgotten. I said that his response was still weird considering what he has said in the past about people who say what he said. I then invited him to dm me privately to discuss things further if he wants to as it's not fair to do this in front of all of our friends.

He did not respond and ended up blocking me on discord.

This irked me quite a bit but in the end I decided that him blocking me was for the better if he stands by his original response. I was talking to my partner about it who is not Jewish and he said that my ex friend's response was definitely weird and the fact that he was so quick to defend himself about being called an antisemite without even being called it was indicative that he probably is. I decided to look at my ex friends tumblr to see if there was anything to suggest that and there was. I saw a few posts which he has recently reblogged which used anti Semitic dog whistles like the echo, example: (((insert text you which doesnt say jew but you are implying jewish people are))).

I was quite appalled to see that and am debating if I should send it to his university. The university he attends has spoken out about antisemitism before and has kicked out people in the past for using racist dog whistles due to a potential danger to POC students so it is likely that he would get kicked out for using antisemitic dog whistles.

In my mind, he fucked around and therefore should find out aka face natural consequences for his actions.

WIBTA if I contacted his University about his antisemitism?

What are these acronyms?

#aita #am i the asshole

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the-orange-solace · 29 days

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Headache (starchaser, trans regulus, AU - royalty/arranged marriage, Explicit, WIP)

Prince Regulus Black always knew a few things about marriage: he wouldn’t get to choose his partner, he would marry a man (because his parents would never see him as a man), and that it would be loveless. His new husband, James Potter, can try to change Regulus’s mind about that last one, but he won’t. He doesn’t care that James is kind and patient and very attractive. No, love is not in the cards for Regulus. A story about learning to love and learning to be loved.

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Hard rock lead singer Regulus Black is possibly in love with his brother’s best friend, James Potter (okay, he definitely is). He gets inspired to write a sappy love song and it leaves his fans wondering: who’s got Regulus so soft?

say "don't go" (starchaser, AU, Mature, 1.4k)

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Hard Days (starchaser, trans regulus, AU, Teen, 1.1k)

Regulus wakes up with body dysphoria and seeks out his boyfriend, James.'

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Sirius came back home for Regulus. Sirius protected Regulus the best he could, until the end.

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mayedays · 5 months

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Warning for discussions of antisemitism (sorry I'm so inconsistent about warning for potential triggers when posting/reblogging).

I keep having this frustrating problem** where I see people reblogging from individuals that I suspect they wouldn't want to reblog from if they knew what other shit the person had posted. The worst example of this is that I've seen several jews reblogging an (admittedly good) post about health insurance from posttexasstressdisorder, whose ouvre includes images of Jared Kushner photoshopped with vampire fangs and 666 on his forehead, describing him as wearing a skin suit. These posts are tagged with things like "kushner blood cult".

Kushner is pretty terrible, but invoking antisemitic tropes is never okay, even when the target is a terrible person, and I'm pretty sure posttexasstressdisorder has been told that their behavior is antisemitic and endangers all jews, but the posts are still up. I don't want people to platform antisemites even for innocuous posts, bc it can be foot in the door for their less innocuous posts to be platformed. But even tho I know that intellectually, it also feels silly and paranoid to tell someone 'hey this person--who you've only reblogged from once--made some absurdly antisemitic posts that are completely unrelated to the post you reblogged from them. You should delete your reblog, even tho it was a useful/helpful post.' I just don't know how to deal with the situation. It feels like shit stirring to say anything. Also, I guess I worry that the warning is itself an info-hazard, which is also why I wasn't sure I should post about it at all (although I'm also so bad at trigger warnings that I feel pretty stupid and inconsistent for worry about this).

**It hasn't happened that many times but it has happened repeatedly.

#mayedays #have i already made a post about this?#or have i just thought about it and then chickened out

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athingofvikings · 3 years

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its always great to see you on my dash and lately in political posts, I've been reluctant to reblog anything because of the rampant antisemitic rhetoric going around, and its been your posts in particular that have clued me into those and to be more cautious about just hitting reblog buttons without being critical about it, and i want to say that I hope you feel more confident or are able to curate a safer dash experience soon!

I appreciate it.

And yeah, Israel has packed the Palestinians in its territory (which is not all of them, not by a long shot) into conditions that are effectively apartheid and there are definitely those in the IDF who are actively attempting to kill Palestinian people (there's a firearm issued to IDF frontline soliders that is classified as "nonlethal." It was given that classification in 2009... but almost a decade earlier, it had been reclassified as "lethal". So someone took a weapon that they knew could kill people and put it back as "nonlethal", apparently in the hope of getting Palestinians killed. Good job, jackass!), and generally awful. And I don't think it's a coincidence that Netanyahu is such a hardliner when facing corruption scandal after scandal--he's trying to manufacture crises that will frighten the populace into supporting him as a bastion of safety (a tactic that works, especially when non-Jews around the world bolster his position with antisemitic hate crimes and related rhetoric).

At the same time, the currently leadership of the Palestinians is explicitly genocidal. They actually have a pretty sweet setup. They take the money that people donate in droves and instead of helping their people with it, they use it to fund weapons; in the last couple of weeks alone, they wasted something like $5,000,000+ on rockets. But their genius is in putting the rocket assembly sites and launch sites in schools, hospitals, libraries, journalism offices, and more, putting the IDF into a lose-lose situation.

Either the IDF lets the rockets continue to launch, which gets the people under their protection killed, or they tell the people at those sites to evacuate (and not all of the people there actually evacuate), and then blow it up... handing Hamas a propaganda victory as social media and news sites across the world scream, "ISRAEL BLOWS UP PALESTINIAN HOSPITAL!"

And then the money comes pouring in.

And the cycle repeats.

And people who live outside of this, people whose education on this comes from a vague sense of "Israel=Bad" and some pithy reductive Instagram posts, chant "Free Palestine!"... not knowing the full origin of the phrase.

From the River to the Sea (Wikipedia link)

From the River to the Sea (Arabic: من النهر إلى البحر‎, romanized: min al-nahr ila al-bahr) is, and forms part of, a popular political slogan used by some Palestinian nationalists. It contains the notion that the land which lies between the River Jordan and the Mediterranean Sea be entirely placed under Arab rule at the cost of the State of Israel, excluding the contested Golan Heights, conquered from Syria in 1967 and unilaterally annexed in 1981.[8] It has been used frequently by Arab leaders[9][10] and is often chanted at anti-Israel demonstrations.[11]

The slogan is versatile with numerous variations including "From the river to the sea, Palestine will be free,"[12] "Palestine is ours from the river to the sea," "Palestine is Islamic from the river to the sea,"[13] Islamic scholars also claim the Mahdi will also declare the slogan in the following format: "Jerusalem is Arab Muslim, and Palestine — all of it, from the river to the sea — is Arab Muslim."[14]

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Or in other words, it's a call for ethnically cleansing and genociding half of the world's Jewish population. That is its origin and its context, and I react with fear when I see someone use it.

I want the fighting to stop. I want the dying to stop.

But accusing Israel of being genocidal--when the Palestinian population has nearly tripled in my lifetime--or calling Israelis "Nazis", or making sly comments about "Jews controlling the media/the banks/the economy/etc" or accusing the IDF of deliberately hunting down and slaughtering Palestinian children, or saying that Israel is there for the oil (what oil? There's a small amount of oil shale in the Negev but that's it), or accusing Diasporic Jews of dual loyalties...

None of that accomplishes anything, other than making Netanyahu's claim that the world hates us and wants us all to die that much more real.

One of my Jewish friends got a rape threat this morning, xir fourth one this past week. I got death threats this past week. Other Jewish people across the Diaspora are being harassed and brutalized.

And this is not new. This has been the case for over a thousand years--that non-Jews will take any excuse to hurt Jews. And all it does is prove that we need Israel, because when the flag burnings turn to synagogue burnings and the chants turn to beatings...

We know that non-Jews will not help us.

Because apparently we should just sit back and let ourselves be murdered--a real claim I saw this past month on multiple occasions.

We're frightened. We've been abused.

And rather than try to help deal with that fright, with that abuse, the apparent solution by those who claim to be for justice and peace is to heap it on more.

Because apparently it's just more satisfying to drive through a Jewish neighborhood shouting out the window that Hitler should have finished the job than it is to do something constructive.

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themarkofoxin · 3 years

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People literally supplied you with screencaps of contra being racist and shit, are you intentionally ignoring it to scream at anons cuz you know you can't disprove it or what

i actually wasn’t going to respond because when that reblog happened i was crying in the bathroom at work so like. just straight up did not have time.

but for realsies, i literally cannot see how any of the screenshots in that reblog prove that she is Undeniably Antisemitic, Racist, and Transphobic. i think they’re insensitive and brash, but i don’t think natalie is A Racist because she pointed out that it’s weird an old racist statement was trending.

in none of my posts am i saying that this ^ stuff isn’t uncomfortable or insensitive. i take issue with so many people’s need to permanently vilify someone for stuff that she probably thought about for maybe 30 seconds before tweeting two years ago. also, she’s not being racist here? a native person responded to her tweet, but nowhere in natalie’s original tweet does she say (or even imply) anything about race. at all?

if you were to actually watch her videos and listen to what she has to say now, not in june of 2018 when this tweet was sent, she acknowledges that she held this perspective at one point and she regrets it. she talks about this in two of the videos in my original reblog AND in her one titled “beauty.” yes, she thought like this at one point. she recognizes it was harmful now, and has apologized. even if she hadn’t apologized in “canceling,” if she had just shown her change in perspective through her actions, would i hate her to the extent that so many people on the internet do?

no. because it’s just not that deep.

when i first realized i might be nonbinary, i was fucking terrified. i had a million different tmed arguments swirling around in my head, and i spent months arguing with myself about it because of it. i’m absolutely positive some of my fears came through in my conversations with people, and i definitely said damaging, tmed-adjacent things because i was scared to be One of Those Nonbinary People. the only difference is my conversations were verbal and impermanent, and a year later no one was combing through all my social media posts to find evidence to damn me for it.

okay, lastly. the lizard people thing.

1) she’s stopped using the lizard people characters since the growth in power of far right movements in the US

2) originally, she used them as kind of a joke about capitalism, and later learned their antisemitic origin and aftet that clarified every time she used those characters that she does not condone antisemitism and that she knows about the dogwhistle and is not, and would never, use it to that end.

3) i know tons of people irl who have no idea the “lizard people control the world” conspiracy is linked to antisemitism, so it’s not that hard for me to believe natalie didn’t when she started youtube either. the important part is that she has acknowledged their implications and, believe it or not, she was actually the first person who taught me that conspiracy was antisemitic.

conclusion -

in “cringe,” natalie made a lot of really interesting points that had me thinking for months. specifically, she analyzed trans man kalvin garrah’s visible hatred of “transtrenders” and compared it to her own difficulty accepting catgirl trans women. note that here she was admitting to a bias she’s aware of within herself and outwardly working to improve it.

she basically talked about how the feeling of intense “cringe” that leads to the kind of content garrah makes comes from a fear that the people you’re cringing at are similar to you. have you ever not told someone you have a tumblr, or loudly lambasted cringey tumblr blogs because you don’t want them to think you’re one of those tumblr users? it’s kind of the same deal, but on a more damaging scale. garrah sees gnc trans men as making him look bad because he’s a Real Man; natalie cringes at catgirl trans women because she feels like they infantilize themselves. she acknowledges in the video that this is unfounded and wrong, but she was using self-analysis to create discussion.

i bring this up for two reasons - one, to point out that natalie is a self-reflective person who admits to her own faults and grows; and two, because i think the cringey thing is part of the reason the hate for natalie is so intense, and why i see it mostly coming from trans women, rather than nonbinary people, jewish people, or poc.

TL;DR

do i think the screenshots above mean she’s antisemitic, racist, and transphobic? no. it’s not that deep. there are so many better things you could be putting your energy towards, so many more worthy people you could hate, than sending anonymous messages to a dan and phil blog about an educational leftist youtuber.

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littlelovingmouse · 2 years

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long post under a cut, because it's been a while since the last one, and though i'm taking my first paid vacation after working seven years at the same restaurant, i'm really struggling with some stuff

and i don't want all this shit hanging over my head all week while i celebrate my birthday two or three times for good measure

tl;dr: i hate my job

i just went through every selfie tag i could remember on my blog and deleted almost everything after a coworker said he'd made a blog here and wanted to follow me

i know it's stupid because rationally i know he's a sweet guy, and anyway he sees my face every week, but the idea that he might take pictures of me from my blog was really stressing me out; i've been wary of guy friends since college, and he likes to joke around by saying creepy things and i'm starting to feel uncomfortable around him, after years of seeing him as That Cool And Harmless Geeky Older Guy Friend From Work

it's just that i've had a few bad experiences, first with guy friends in college who inevitably wanted to date (or fuck) after i'd grown close enough with them to feel safe sharing more personal stuff, and also with people who knew me outside of tumblr following my blog and mocking me or confronting me over what i post, and these were all brought to the surface and magnified over the weekend as i agonized over whether or not i should let him follow me

in the end it was pointless since he deleted his blog after realizing that he would probably just have me as a follower, and apparently he has a lot to deal with at the moment (which made me feel like even more of a jerk for being so evasive about the whole thing) since his new landlords are turning out to be assholes

and like, yes we have differing political and social opinions, but i thought it wouldn't matter, since i don't really view myself as a Particularly Political Poster, but after i thought about it, i realized that i do reblog a lot of lgbt jokes and occasionally posts about social justice, and last thursday he went on this weird conspirationist rant, and it was the end of the day and i was too tired to call him out on it but i still felt like shit for not saying anything

but basically, since then, it's like, i no longer feel safe around him! i thought he was one of those few friends with whom i didn't have to watch myself constantly, and though i knew he had some "old fashioned" (bad) opinions i had no idea it was that bad, and the thought of having to sanitize my blog just to avoid confrontation with that one IRL dude was, frankly, driving me up the fucking wall

and now i have to reclassify him from the "cool laid back friend i can talk to about anything" category to the "don't talk politics with this friend" category and it sucks! i mean, we mostly geek out and we rarely (if at all) talk about sociopolitical stuff, but now i have to actively avoid the subject and i hate that

as if work wasn't already stressful enough

now i'm officially on vacation and i plan to use this opportunity to look for a new job

we'll still be friends (though idk for how long; as tired as i am, and with my filter fraying more and more each day, it's only a question of time before i blow up in his face) but at least i'll see him less often

and i know i'm gonna sound like a complete asshole but i'm relieved that he has to move within the next year because it means he'll also have to look for another job and he will (hopefully) be less pissed off when i quit

there i said it

i mean, i liked him a lot (though i obviously like him a lot less now that he's admitted to being a huge antisemitic asshole), i've learned so much about cooking and life in general by working and talking with him, and he used to have such a calming effect on me when i freaked out during the rush, and now that's gone

my other (ex) coworker (and occasional fellow call of cthulhu player) was absolutely right, we really should've both quit after what happened in august, when the manager's wife showed up one sunday afternoon and they had a screaming match in the (mercifully empty) front of the restaurant

that really should have been the last straw

instead i have allowed things to get worse and worse:

eventually coworker A (the call of cthulhu player) quit after the manager added yet another task to his workload because the other line cook is a lazy bastard who does as little work as he can get away with;

everyone else's workload doubled as a result because coworker A was basically doing the work of three people;

the manager added new meals to the menu instead of simplifying it like other restaurants did in a transparent bid to get More Money, which unfortunately worked, so we had an increase in business (and workload) but not in salary (or in actual hours to do the job);

i had to start working full time (have been for two months now) even when i said i wouldn't, because i was already struggling working four days a week, and my health is getting worse;

coworker B (the conspiracy nut) became increasingly frustrated and unpleasant everyday, due to his own increased workload, and having to listen to the owner complaining day in and day out;

the owner finally told to us she was planning to step down in favour of her nephew (the manager), who also strives to do as little work as possible, and gives us shit for being 5 minutes late when he is often 30 minutes late himself;

the front fridge broke, and of course the cashier decided to move all of her shit in the line cook fridge (because fuck everyone else i guess);

(said fridge was already overcrowded with my shit, since my own fridge had been malfunctioning for two years (turns out repairing it costs less than a quarter of the fine the owner had to pay for it to our equivalent of the FDA));

right after the manager finally had all the fridges repaired, we had two power outages in two days;

and then when the power came back on, the ventilation system broke: apparently it had been wired by a mad scientist - the electrician was horrified, he said it was a miracle that the power outage only burned the circuits of the motor on the roof without burning the entire fucking building;

so we had to work in an unventilated restaurant kitchen for TEN DAYS until it was finally fixed (thank fuck the weather had started to cool, i can't imagine working with no fan when it's 40°C outside),

and now i have to deal with the tumblr scare with coworker b, and all the bullshit that came out of his mouth last thursday night...

i'm just, like, i'm not even at my fucking limit, i'm way past it actually

i had thought that if i said, out loud, to everyone i know (outside of work), that i plan to quit, and that i'm gonna find another job asap, it would be enough peer pressure to actually make me go through with it, except i barely even have the energy to wash the dishes on my two days off, since i'm currently working full time (oh and my weekend being tuesday and wednesday is also awful btw)

it was supposed to be a part time job while i finish university

the problem is that i still haven't finished university, and i need to if i want a better job, but i no longer have the brain power for essays and research papers

so either i give up entirely, or i swallow my academic pride (and dread) and make an appointment with the university and i. HATE. MAKING. PHONE CALLS.

anyway

i'm gonna stop here before i start crying, but yeah, i gotta get my shit together or else je vais petter au frette câlisse

#personal #rant #i do feel a tiny bit better having written all of that (which is the point of this post obviously)#so don't feel the need to READ all of that if you're not curious #bref #thank fuck i'm off until the 25th

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toadygoblin · 3 years

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TW: racism, antisemitism, transphobia, ableism

Okay, it's been a really long week, but I figured I might as well put my two cents in about the Schlatt situation. Sorry if this post is all over the place, and I use WAY too many parentheses, (just apologizing in advance). Also, sorry if my spelling is off, trying to type on mobile is horrible.

Okay, here goes.

First, I wanna talk about my relationship with Schlatt's content overall. I first found out about Schlatt through Soothouse, and then CallmeCarson (who I'm not a fan of anymore, for obvious reasons), and back when quarantine started here in the US, I started watching Lunch Club videos. From there I started watching Schlatt's main channel content, and I really enjoyed it for the most part (his Wii videos were always my favorites), and the stuff he posted on Theweeklyslap always made me feel better when I was feeling really sad about life. His iconic video about his mutton chops made me hate my appearance a little less, and his Weeklyslap video about parasocial relationships brings up very important points that every content creator and fan should listen to and learn from.

I will say, though, I was still pretty on the fence about Schlatt as a person, because I always heard about how frequently he was cancelled for stuff he did in the past that he hadn't apologized for. But at the time I just thought it was just Twitter being a hellscape and cancelling content creators for stupid reasons (for example, Quackity , for speaking Spanish, which is HIS FIRST LANGUAGE). And, to be fair, I didn't particularly hate the Jackbox content he's made in the past (though recently, Iv'e gotten kinda tired of getting a notification and it's ANOTHER Jackbox video), but when first saw the original thumbnail... I literally had no words.

I really should have not clicked on the video in the first place, but I did anyway, because part of me was hoping that it was going to be making fun of racist people who do blackface and stuff, but that's not what I saw. Instead, I saw "jokes" about h*tler and the holocaust, making fun of people who put their pronouns in thier bios( which was a slap in the face for me), and all sorts of other horrible shit. I went on Tik Tok afterwards and saw SO MANY people that were upset about the video as well, and then I checked Twitter and Tumblr to see what people had to say, and the general consensus seems to be that everyone was upset with Schlatt for one reason or another.

I'm POC, but I'm not black,so I won't speak on behalf of the the black community, but the video's old thumbnail (yes, he changed it), was really the cherry on top of the rat poison sundae that was this video. I'm also not Jewish, but I think everyone can agree that it is NEVER okay to joke about the genocide of millions of Jews. Niether is it okay to use ableist slurs like the R word, or condone and defend people who do.

I think the fact that a few of Schlatts friends (Justaminx, Iamty, Connoreatspants) were upset with him speaks volumes. In Iamty's recent stream, he explained why he was personally hurt by the video. I recently reblogged a post that includes the part of the stream where he talks about it, if you wanna check it out. Fitz and Swaggersouls, of course, brushed it off, which is super frustrating. I swear, it's like trying to explain to middle school boys why saying slurs is wrong, and them just ignoring you because they don't care. I never really liked either of them, but this seals the deal for me.

Because I lack good judgment when I'm curious about something, I went back to the video to check the comments, and I was disgusted by the stuff I saw. And, of course, there were commentary channels run by 16 year old white boys defending Schlatt, using the classic excuse "ItS JUst A jOke!" and "iTs daRk HumOr!". But I saw a few channels (that usually defend Schlatt when he gets cancelled), weren't covering the situation, and I even saw one video where the commentator mentioned that they were a fan of his content, but that they were extremely disappointed in schlatts recent video. It was kind of refreshing to see, tbh. But also a little sad.

Another thing, I REALLY hate the fact that he's profiting off of the video, complete with a sponsor and everything. He also HAD to have known what kind of trouble he would land in when he A: edited the video, and B: posted it with the original thumbnail. I have heard, though, that he doesn't edit his own videos (please correct me if I'm wrong).

Closing thoughts and statements:

First of all, to the person/people that are doxxing Schlatt: what the actual hell is wrong with you? I have family members that are horrible people, and are racist and stuff, but I would never, in a million years think of doxxing them as a form of revenge. Also, DO NOT attack his innocent fans that still enjoy his content. Obviously the fans that are defending him in this entire mess are not innocent, but still don't attack them. DO NOT send death threats to Schlatt, his friends, or his fans, because that's generally a messed up thing to do.

My thoughts about this whole dumpster fire is that since this video upset me, Schlatt's fans, and his friends, he should apologize for the things that were said and done. I understand that he was probably trying to distance himself from the Dreamsmp stans, but in doing so he lost a lot of long-term fans of his content, which is actually super heartbreaking. Iv'e already unsubscribed from his main channel, but I'm still subscribed to Theweeklyslap, just to see if he'll post an apology and address the problem as a whole, but with his track record, that probably won't happen.

And if that's the case, then I'm done with his content for good.

#jschlatt #schlatt #cancel culture

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i-hate-boyfs · 4 years

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writing jeremy heere as jewish: a quick guide

so, i reblogged a post i made for a jewish character in a different fandom, but im going to make one specifically for jeremy. if you’d like to read that post, go here.

anyway, here we go! this is very very basic information, just the basics, just skimming the surface of what judaism is. im gonna reiterate this a lot because it’s important: if you have a question i don’t answer in this post, ask me.

hanukkah is not the biggest jewish holiday. the biggest jewish holiday is yom kippur, the holiest day of the year, which follows rosh hashanah, jewish new year.

when writing a christmastime fic, jeremy can be celebrating hanukkah, but do not make it out to be the biggest holiday, do not fall into the thinking that it’s jewish christmas, because it is not, and god forbid, do not have jeremy celebrate christmas.

there are multiple denominations in judaism, just like christianity. the largest of these are the orthodox and reform branches, which are the furthest to the sides of conservative vs evolving. (this has nothing to do with politics, in this context it means that they hold to the old beliefs and laws and do not evolve with changing times, in reform judaism everything is always evolving.)

i don’t particularly care which branch you assign to jeremy so long as you do your research (again, dm me/shoot me an ask if you have any questions i don’t answer in this post!), except for messianic judaism. messianic judaism is not actual judaism, and followers are basically christians with jewish holidays. this is not, i repeat, not judaism. this is an attempt to convert jews and also for christians to pretend they’re jewish. make no mistake: if you say jeremy’s a messianic jew, i will come to your house and fuck your wife.

here, i have to discuss stereotypes, because you bitchass motherfuckers really don’t know how to do jewish characters.

do NOT:

give him an extremely big/hooked nose. (before anyone says anything, ive personally got no problem with the jeremy sprite in bls, i think it’s both prolly art style & wcon’s nose is p triangular, and i don’t think they had any malicious intent)

call him a goblin, a rat, dirty jew, a jewboy, or even call him a jew if you aren’t jewish. call him jewish, do not call his people jews, call them jewish. im not kidding.

make him greedy, with money, yeah, but also Anything. if your jewish character has to be jewish and has to be greedy & rich you have an issue.

he. he probably doesn’t know hebrew, and if he does, he’s not going to call michael baby boy in Hebrew. quit fetishizing both jeremy’s judaism and michael being filipino just so that michael can call him mahal kita and you can butcher hebrew whatever way you’re gonna do it with google translate. goddamn all of you who have done this, you fucking meshuggeners. (that was yiddish, btw)

you CAN, however, make him say oy vey (and oy vey ist mir, that’s what oy vey is short for, and oy vey gevalt tells of impending doom. oy vey is yiddish, not hebrew, btw). honestly, i see oy vey used too much in some settings by goys, and this fandom doesn’t use it ENOUGH. the boy says oy vey and that’s the tea.

lastly, the word goy (goys, goyim, etc), are not slurs. it’s a word in the same vein as gringo, it means a non jewish person the same way gringo is a non Hispanic person. jeremy can and should call michael a goy.

remember: most antisemitic portrayals are subtle, not so much in your face hooked nose and droopy eyes and holocaust jokes. it’s a guardian angel fic tagged with ‘just forget jeremy’s jewish’. it’s art calling him a little goblin boy in the caption. if you think something might be read as antisemitic you can ask me, i promise i’m not going to get offended even if it’s completely wrong if you genuinely don’t know what’s okay and what isn’t.

the most important thing: do not ignore jeremy’s judaism. jews deal with enough erasure, and simply not mentioning it (especially in the context of a holiday fic) or even explicitly saying ‘oops, i forgot’ and not mentioning it... that’s not okay. jewish people are not the most represented, and erasing just one character’s judaism is deeply hurtful and wrong. you👏cannot👏leave👏out👏his👏judaism👏👏

if you have any questions about anything relating to judaism, again, i would LOVE to answer them! send me an ask or a dm and ill answer them to the best of my ability. it’s better to ask dumb questions than to portray jeremy’s judaism in a dumb way. but also, do your own research. watch some of BimBam’s videos on this playlist. google is your friend, as are your jewish friends. you are capable of doing your own research, and you are capable of figuring out what is and is not okay.

#be more chill #jeremy heere #bmc #bmc musical #bmc broadway #bmc 3.0 #michael mell #christine canigula #boyf riends #stagedorks #bmc jeremy #bmc michael

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ask-jumblr · 4 years

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You guys never published my question! What’s wrong with wanting to have a space for people who were born Jews? I’m not saying we shouldn’t be welcoming of converts, they just never experienced the anti-semitism growing up or the experiences of growing up Jewish.

Mod (singular) here. Yes, I didn’t post your original ask because it wasn’t consistent with this blog’s standards, although I did make a post recognizing that it was (1) sent in, and (2) didn’t meet content standards. It might be time to clarify or expand the current guidelines; anyone who thinks that’s the case is welcome to reach out. Back to your ask...I know that having a not-posted ask can sting, and I’m sorry you’ve gotten this far through life without your community providing you with the knowledge for you to understand why your proposal is inappropriate and dangerous.

I’m going to remind everyone blog is welcoming of converts. From this blog’s stance, except when there are halachic nuances followed by certain communities, converts should not be treated any differently than born Jews.

Converts don’t need to be treated any differently than born Jews (excluding those halachic nuances relevant for certain communities), because those differences you’re thinking of, anon, they’re not true for all converts. There are very few experiences that couldn’t be shared by a born Jew and a convert. Your generalizations about converts are causing fallacies in your logic. I’m including some stories below the cut that I hope will give you a more complex understanding of the breadth of experiences among people who have converted to Judaism. The stories I’m sharing are all made up, but most of the nuances, the catches that it’s easy to forget are lived experiences. Many are borrowed from friends, friends of friends, or famous Jewish figures.

You mentioned experiencing antisemitism growing up; I suspect that you’re hurting, but you will find converts who hurt for the same reasons; please don’t shut them out.

However, even besides the issue of treating converts differently (1) generally breaking custom/halacha, and (2) being pretty pointless because many will share experiences of born Jews, creating spaces that exclude converts is also dangerous. Converts, like some other groups in Jewish spaces (e.g. JoC, Jews with disabilities) already experience hostility, exclusion, and isolation in Jewish spaces. Building spaces that intentionally exclude them for some reason perpetuates the problems we need to fix in our communities.

Folks are welcome to add to or correct this response. However, I hope that my own response and the standards I’m setting about respecting converts as fellow members of the broad Jewish community will eliminate the need for me to moderate any anti-convert sentiments on this post. Another ask that I’m linkng here might be a better place to discuss the situations where converts are differentiated and/or any Jewish communities that do not recognize converts. If it’s getting another round of activity, I’m happy to reblog it again.

Jessie’s parents converted in a Modern Orthodox community when she was 3. She and her siblings, age 5 and 8, were converted along with their parents. A year later, her baby sister was born Jewish.

Brad’s father raised him celebrating Jewish holidays at home. Brad’s mom stopped being Christian long before they met, although they sometimes visited her parents and exchanged Christmas gifts under their tree. At school, Brad was bullied for being Jewish. When his mom was offered a job in a local city, Brad’s family decided it was long overdue to move to a community where they felt more welcome. In the city, Brad was able to attend a Pluralistic Jewish High School. In college, Brad’s experience with Chabad led him towards an Orthodox Jewish community, and he converted so that he would be halachically recognized as Jewish.

Melanie was adopted by a Jewish couple as an infant and was converted shortly after. For as long as she can remember, her personality has consistently clashed with her birth mother and they had a tenuous relationship. They cut ties when Melanie turned 20. Melanie doesn’t remember a time before she was Jewish. When it came time for her Bat Mitzvah at her adoptive family’s Open-Orthodox synagogue, her decision was easy to reaffirm her Judaism as a Jewish adult. When she started looking for someone to marry, her friends were surprised when they tried to set her up with a Kohen, and despite their sparks she didn’t want to go out on a second date. Until then, they hadn’t known that Melanie had converted, growing up they’d assumed her birth mother was Jewish.

Sam’s mom is Episcopalian and their dad is Jewish. They were raised with both sets of holidays, attending both a church and a Reform synagogue. However, in high school, Sam started going to youth group at a Conservative synagogue with some of their friends. They really loved the Conservative Jewish community they found at the youth group and its associated synaogue. With their parents’ support, Sam decided to convert so they would be able to count in a minyan and have aliyot at the Conservative synagogue.

Maya’s family is Jewish. While knowledge of their Jewish status was passed down, clear documentation of ketubot/gravestones/etc. was lost when they were fleeing persecution. When she wanted to get married, her fiancé’s parents wanted to ensure their grandchildren would be recognized as Jewish. Even though her fiancé was against it, they encouraged her to complete a conversion to dot i’s and cross t’s. Maya decided it was easier to complete a conversion than deal with her in-laws’ pressure. She also didn’t want her children to have to deal with the consequences of a murky Jewish status. A rabbi connected to the family quietly arranged for a conversion so the Jewishness of Maya and any children she should have would be documented and undeniable.

Josh’s dad is Jewish, but his mom isn’t. His dad didn’t raise him as Jewish and he didn’t even know he was Jewish until his mother told him when he was 15. His mother explained that his dad was a child survivor of the Holocaust, and he didn’t want his new family in the U.S. to be burdened by his Jewish identity. However, Josh didn’t feel burdened. Now, he finally understood whyn his father had suffered from nightmares and depression. During high school, Josh taught himself about Judaism behind his father’s back; he didn’t want to upset his father further. After graduating high school, Josh moved out from his parents’ house to attend nursing school. Josh joined a local Reform synagogue, where the rabbi encouraged him to complete a ‘reclamation’ conversion and helped him fill in the gaps in his Jewish education.

When she was in kindergarten, Sarah’s mom remarried, forming a blended family with a Jewish man and his two kids. Sarah’s father isn’t in her life, so she only lived with her mother and new step-father for most of her childhood. A few years after their marriage, Sarah’s mother converted through their local Reconstructionist Synagogue. However, Sarah’s mom wanted to make sure Sarah had the freedom to make her own decision. While Sarah wasn’t converted, she did celebrate Jewish holidays with her family. Shabbat was Sarah’s favorite day of the week; sometimes her family would go to synagogue, but even if they didn’t, they would make time to spend together as a family. When Sarah turned 13, she wanted to have a Bar Mitzvah like her older step-brothers. Her parents and the local rabbi encouraged her to think through her decision, and her parents offered to throw her a big 13th birthday party without her reading Torah. However, Sarah really wanted to be fully recognized as a Jewish adult in her community. A few months after she turned 13, she completed her conversion and read Torah at their synagogue for the first time.

Complicated stories like these happen all the time.

#not a question #anti-convert sentiment #modding #converts #Jews-by-choice #jewish community #gerim #Anonymous #why?

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probablydidrpgideas · 4 years

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Not only is “phylactery” not a Jewish word (it’s Greek, actual Jews call the object a “tefflin”) , but the OP lied about being Jewish for that post, they’d even said “I’m not Jewish but I’m I’ll eat my way through Hanukkah food” before making that post. I’d retract the post at minimum, possibly reblog a correction of the post that you can find in the notes, that’s just such a sad thing to lie about.

[Note to start off the ramble before anyone says anything; I am not Jewish. Just spent all day researching this and fact-checking a few things]

Boy oh boy, we stepped in the Drama today everyone.

To get this part out of the way: People fucking suck, sucks about OP. That’s disgusting, and stupid, and just aggravating. People lying on the internet is stupid and frustrating and just. Ugh.

But hey let’s still address this part.

You DO realize Phylactery is, technically, a Jewish term, correct?

The term was originally derived from the Greek, or possibly also Latin or French based on suffix usage during the 12th and 14th centuries. We believe the Greek because we have the Greek translation of the Gospels of Matthew (St. Matthew the Evangelist, AKA Matthew the Apostle) in which the word was used. Matthew was a first century Galilean, and because he was a tax collector, was likely fluent in both Aramaic and Greek, which would’ve pushed him away from his fellow Jews as he was likely seen as siding with the Roman occupation. So, while the term came from a man using the Greek terminology, it still came from a Jewish man.

Moreover, as many people have been SO keen to make me aware, the term tefflin is used by Jewish people, not Phylactery. Believe it or not, I do know this, as I have access to Google. And THIS, my friends, is where my main problem arises with how angry people have been getting over this post.

1. When searching the term Phylactery, most of the top results (including the lovely definition Google posts from another website directly so your eyeballs see it immediately) show Jewish connections. YES, I know, it is NOT STRICTLY a Jewish term - it’s a catch-all, a term simply meant to describe an amulet. Be that as it may, it has become intrinsically tied to the Jewish faith in the eyes of those who are not Jewish. Meaning, while the term is not used by modern-day Jews, it still holds religious connotation and history strong enough to still be tied to that religion.

2. Given that fact, isn’t it still a good idea to stop using that word? If only so we can avoid this very specific kind of drama all over again? I mean, really, what REAL reason is there for us to call the container for a lich’s soul this very specific word? Why not make up our OWN word for it? It’s really not that hard to change it from that original word so that we don’t need to deal with that connotation it still holds.

3. Instead of understanding that, hmm, it really isn’t that hard to change a single word on our part to stop using that word, people went absolutely apeshit in the notes of that post. Like. Jewish People, Anti-semetic people, everyone went apeshit. And here’s the thing!! People keep saying “Jewish people have commented on the post and said they don’t care about this drama at all and they wish it would stop”! Yes! That’s true! And there are also Jewish people on this post agreeing with the fact that we should try to fix this terminology and stop using the term in D&D because of this exact fucking drama.

Ugh. Look, I’ve spent all day looking into this bullcrap. Here are my thoughts, and you can shit on them if you’d like because at this point it’s mostly opinion.

Was this antisemitism? Maybe, but almost definitely not imo. Certainly not deliberate in any case.

Should it change? Hell yes it should because the drama needs to die, so let’s change the word.

Does it matter? Well, let’s see. Has it completely overtaken my dash, turned my entire day into a hellscape of messages and reblogs and “Well ACTUALLYs” and just general UUGH? Yes. Yes it has.

Look. I get it. The big thing here is, there are far bigger issues in the world to handle. There are far worse cases of antisemitism, far more things that need to happen in this world. Changing the name of an archaic word that Jewish people don’t even use and haven’t used in more than a few centuries isn’t going to fix antisemitism. We get that. But in our small bubbles of world that we exist in, we cannot change the entire world. Yes, I would LOVE to protest antisemitic practices and god just EVERYTHING that goes on in this world. But the fact of the matter is, in my current position in life, I can’t do much beyond the scope of my inner circle of friends, and those who follow me on social media platforms.

I will always be vocal about things that I think are stupid or unjust or anywhere inbetween. This is one of those things. Because, as I said, the term is still connected to the Jewish faith, whether Jewish people like that or not! So on the surface level of Being Not A Shit Human Being, we should change the word in our D&D games. That is the easiest possible hurdle. Now, we should also start, idk, erasing the fact that the word is connected to Jewish culture in the first place (and almost ENTIRELY Jewish culture beyond the fantasy definitions) since it’s an outdated term nobody uses. But being an atheist-raised-christian with no current access to literally any Jewish people in my life, and no ability to hack every dictionary website at the same time ---- I think I’m kinda shit outta luck in that regard.

So I will do what I can, in my own little world, to change small things. Because I was raised in an environment where being antisemitic and racist and homophobic was all in the small details just like these. So much so that I didn’t realize how horrible some of the things I said and did were until they were already out of my mouth and I had already offended people.

TL;DR: Please stop messaging me about this. We should still probably change the term as it IS still connected to the Jewish Faith. OP is a crustnugget for lying. Can everyone please stop attacking each other over this post thx. Also let’s all try to be a little less antisemitic. Okay? Okay.

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and here's the thing, i don't want to make this whole deal specifically about one person. one popular nonblack jewish blogger said something that was antiblack, deleted it, w/e. people say messed up shit all the time, it's a fact of life, for damn sure none of us myself included is perfect and we all mess up. that's almost beside the point for me at this point.

what happened next is extremely telling though. because in the face of lots and lots of black people, including black jewish people, speaking up about the antiblackness both of the film and of the immediate reaction of "black people are too ignorant to understand how this isn't racist, and also only are reacting like this out of antisemitism & homophobia", the overwhelming response from many jewish bloggers on here has been "yup! black people are just being hateful and antisemitic for calling out racism, y'all need to shut up and listen to jewish people about antisemitism" -- which was in context such an incredibly disingenous derail.

i fully acknowledge that the way in which this has blown up, there have been people who have said antisemitic things in response. but it's a complete and outright fiction that this whole thing began because of black bloggers being antisemitic. that's an after the fact justification of the racist backlash that ensued. this thing began specifically because a number of people were calling black people racist and ignorant for criticising ezra miller & sol guy's short film on the grounds that because miller was jewish, clearly that was the reason we were "attacking" him and not the fact that the film was racist. and then when black people pointed out the antiblackness of the responses, rather than acknowledge that even in any small way someone you like could say something wrong, everyone just doubled down on "clearly black people are bigots, that's the only explanation."

since posting about the harmfulness of the film, i've gotten people in my inbox saying that i'm antisemitic, that i'm goysplaining and speaking over jewish people, that i'm just joining the mob in attacking a jew of color (nevermind that through most all of this, until my most recent post on the matter, my posts were explicitly about the film and not about tikkunolamorgtfo -- but people were still insisting that i was ATTACKING HER literally for voicing a contrary opinion) and i'm not the only one who has gotten this treatment for speaking up. it's extremely transparent how for many people, black jews are only conditionally welcome in jewish community -- the moment we speak up about antiblackness, suddenly people feel as though our jewishness can be revoked, cancelled out because we stepped out of line.

and the thing is, this isn't happening in a vacuum. this is so very far from happening in a vacuum.

it's happening in an environment where jews of color, and especially black jews, are constantly interrogated and questioned as to the validity of our jewishness. where many MANY nonblack jews treat us as though we never really belong anyway. it's happening in an environment where all black jews are assumed to be converts, and where all converts are looked on with suspicion and skepticism, our jewishness conditional and revokable.

it's happening in an environment where this is so regular as to be basically expected by now -- if a black person, jewish or otherwise, speaks up in any way about racism coming from a jewish person or the jewish community as a whole, this pile-on is swift and immediate. i've seen people post talking about black people critiquing racism as a "mob", characterizing our anger as "aggression" and "attacks", and then subsequently accusing black people of antisemitism again for extremely rightfully pointing out the racist stereotypes underlying these characterizations.

it's a repeated pattern, and it's exhausting. i am in no way going to say that there isn't antisemitism in the black community, of course there is. but i'm a freaking loudmouth, i don't shut up basically ever about the things i care about that affect my communities. when black people say some fuckshit about jewish people, i am not quiet about it. and i will say literally unequivocally that i have never in my entire life brought up antisemitism in the black community and been met with the specific type of vitriol that i get if i talk to jewish people about antiblackness.

i have never had black people telling me i'm not one of them anymore, i've never had people acting as though talking about this means that i am no longer black. my attempts to talk about antisemitism don't always GO anywhere; people have been unwilling to listen, have ignored me, have decided i'm just plain wrong, have said other antisemitic things in response, but they do not get vicious and act as though speaking up as a black jew means my blackness is negated.

in contrast, i have never once entered a discussion in online jewish spaces about antiblackness and NOT had these things happen. EVERY TIME i speak up about antiblackness, people will drop in to tell me that i am hateful, antisemitic, don't belong here, etc. every. time.

it's not a coincidence. so many of y'all like to put front and center in your bios that you care about intersectionality, that racists aren't welcome, but those are just buzzwords if this is an expected pattern in the community. throughout all of this, i've only seen a scant handful of nonblack jewish bloggers even reblogging the words of black people (including black jews) in support, and even fewer speaking up for us. the rest have been adding to the chorus of how we're an aggressive, angry mob who only form opinions because of the inherent bigotry of the darkies.

i'm probably speaking into the void by this point -- i'm extremely aware that most of the most visible and popular voices on jumblr have made it pretty clear where they stand on this -- but y'all should really scrutinize the treatment of black jews and why, as a community, we are consistently so quick to listen to anyone except black people on black issues. why the community is so lightning quick to believe the worst about black people, why those opinions are so often put forward in extremely racist stereotyping language. why black jews are so frequently sidelined in jumblr -- trotted out frequently as tokens if nonblack jewish people want a black voice to back them up, demonized if our opinions don't align.

i'd genuinely appreciate it if other jews, especially nonblack jews, could reblog.

#jumblr #jewish #black jews #antiblackness #racism #goyim don't touch

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WisCon 43 panel Learning to Hear the Dog Whistle

[Just wanted to say this was one of the panels I suggested and I’m so glad it went through and that I was able to make it to the panel. This is something so many of us need to work on, and I’ve made it a practice to point out when I think someone has unwittingly passed on a dog whistle-ish message, in large part because I hope/want for others to do the same for me when and if I do it, myself. Anyway, I learned a lot and this panel was really good.]

Political dog whistles are meant specifically to target one audience who agrees with you, and perhaps to trick others into agreeing with your subtle and covert language. It's important for us to be able to recognize these dog whistles, often used by racist, transphobic, and other bigoted groups. How do we learn to listen for and recognize these whistles when they are used specifically to dodge our ears?

Moderator: Heidi Waterhouse. Panelists: Seth Frost, Keffy R. M. Kehrli

Disclaimers: These are only the notes I was personally able to jot down on paper during the panel. I absolutely did not get everything, and may even have some things wrong. Corrections by panelists or other audience members always welcome. I name the mod and panelists because they are publicly listed, but will remove/change names if asked. I do not name audience members unless specifically asked by them to be named. If I mix up a pronouns or name spelling or anything else, please tell me and I’ll fix it!

Notes:

Heidi started the panel off saying that the panel was obviously not full of all kinds of representation (example: the panelists were all white), so they were going to miss some stuff. The hope was that they could impart more generally how to recognize dog whistles. [They also had a lot of audience additions later on]

She also said that when we talked about racism and antisemitism, etc. - we’re talking about a set of behaviors vs. individual people. She suggests giving someone a chance to walk back a dog whistle you’ve just heard them use and asking them if they know what they’ve just said.

Seth said he knows more white supremacy dog whistles than even he’s comfortable with, and he points them out whenever he sees them.

Keffy doesn’t know as many as he’d like, but he lives on social media and finds it important to recognize them whenever possible.

Heidi took a moment to define dog whistles - intentionally coded language meant to be covertly used within a group or community. For example: “interested in ethnic heritage” ~might~ mean someone is really into their Scottish heritage and actually eats haggis on purpose, but it also might mean they’re a white supremacist.

Seth used an example of a time the host of a TV show he was watching had a spider web tattoo on his elbow - without context he didn’t know if it meant the host just really thought spiders were cool or if he was a white supremacist. For context, Seth would have needed to see other tattoos, or what his political affiliations were, etc. Another example is Norse stuff, which can be totally innocuous, but is also something white supremacists are co-opting.

Keffy brought up seeing the number 88 on people’s user names - it might mean they were born in the year 1988, or it could be a white supremacist signifier.

Seth added that many Nazi’s are not smart. They use this “bullshit numerology” where 88 = HH = Hitler. However, 88 is also a lucky number in Chinese traditions, so that’s another example of something being used in multiple ways and not knowing without context how someone is using it.

Seth also talked about the 14 words - a white supremacist mission statement. So “14 words” or even just the number 14 can be a white supremacist dog whistle.

Heidi brought up the fact that we’re using dog whistle in it’s negative sense, but all in-group communities have their own language they use to recognize one another.

One example Heidi noticed was a show Forged in Fire about blacksmiths. A lot of them wore Thor stuff due to that connection, but slowly over time less and less of them continued to wear Thor-themed things as they’d had it pointed out to them how white supremacists were using those symbols.

Keffy talked about one way to notice if something is being used as a dog whistle or not is to pay attention to who shows up when you see it. When, for example, TERFs swarm to a post using specific language, it’s time to look up the terms used and understand how they’re being used.

Keffy explained what TERF meant, and used scare-quotes around “radical feminist” because he doesn’t see them as being particularly feminist or radical - especially not in the sense it was used in the 80′s. [yup]

Keffy also mentioned the use of pattern matching. If someone is using XX or XY in their bio - well, that’s not bad in and of itself, but if you take a moment to look at their page and you see them harassing a lot of trans people, then you have your answer.

Seth added that watching how they interact with others can be important. If you think they’ve used a dog whistle but aren’t sure, it’s okay to put some distance between you and them to just observe who they’re interacting with and how.

Keffy said it can be important to have friends from many different groups, and if someone tells you that something is harmful to them - listen and believe them. We often learn by being told after accidentally reblogging or retweeting something, and that’s okay. You just have to believe that people know better about their own oppressions.

Heidi talked about how bigots were using the triple parenthesis around names of Jewish people to mark them on twitter - some Jewish people and allies started to use the triple parenthesis for themselves intentionally as a sort of “I am Spartacus” protest. There was a big discussion about this in regards to reclaiming vs. causing harm due to generational trauma. It was important, in that instance, to listen to the Jewish people whose trauma was being triggered, and to believe them about not doing this.

Keffy added that he stopped retweeting as much from people who were using it because his followers had told him it was a trigger for them.

Seth said, as a Jew and trans person, “If I ask you to stop using a hurtful thing, that’s a big show of trust”, so he thinks about that when people come to him in a similar manner.

Heidi posed the question of having scripts for when we call out our friends, or when it’s time to ping an ally to help us out.

Keffy said he’s not that organized to have a script, but he does have some friends that he’s asked to take over. Gave an example of taking T and shifting pronouns, had a friend with a more masculine sounding voice call the pharmacy to ask about it first due to concerns about not being taken seriously.

Keffy also talked about the term calling in, rather than calling out, which is a more personal and quiet approach. He’ll usually DM someone or talk to them privately about these things - unless the discussion has already spiraled out in public.

Seth also said he doesn’t have a script for this, but in person he’ll usually just comment with something like “oh that’s gross” and if asked why, he’ll explain with as few words as possible.

Heidi agreed, saying that person is probably freaking out internally, and won’t hear a lengthy response anyway.

Keffy said no matter how long he’s been working on social justice stuff, when he’s called out/in, he still feels shame or defensiveness or both. It can take time to work through that, so expecting a full discussion right away might not be realistic.

Keffy also advised that if you ask an ally to do this for you, make sure they’re actually getting the right point across.

Heidi shifted the conversation to how to support people being targeted. The first step is to believe them when they tell you something. The point of these dog whistles is to seem like they aren’t a big deal, when they are.

Seth agreed, saying they throw just that much doubt about how they’re being used, so that people aren’t sure if it’s something bad or not. He advised defaulting to at least a base level of politeness when asked to stop using something - you can just stop.

Keffy gave an example of “drinking the kool-aid” to refer to something being cult-like. Keffy gave some background on the phrase coming from what happened in Jonestown. The leader was very abusive and he did dry runs of giving his followers laced drinks. They were punished and even killed if they didn’t drink it, which made it safer for them to assume it was fake again and to just drink it. Knowing all of this, we can see that no one was really consenting to drinking the laced drinks. Hundreds of people died, and their family members and loved ones can be very triggered by the callous and casual use of this phrase popping up in what seems like otherwise-innocuous instances.

Heidi gave another example - death marches. These kinds of phrases are used so commonly that we sometimes forget, or don’t even initially know, the history of them or the gravity of that history.

Seth talked about the trouble with hearing dog whistles when other people don’t. It can be very isolating to have other people saying “no I don’t hear anything.”

Heidi said a panel like this could easily become a “you’re not aware/angry/anxious enough” discussion, but really the world expands more when we learn more about it.

Seth talked about the main stream media often using antisemitic language that they may or may not be aware of, or mean. Examples: coastal elites, bankers. Keffy added that it’s gotten to the point where if he hears George Soros’s name brought up, he just stops listening. [RIGHT?!]

Heidi put it to the audience to give more dog whistle examples for us to be aware of.

One audience member talked about the “from (whichever city is nearest)” being code for black, poor, and violent. It was pointed out that Chicago is used as code for this nationwide.

Another audience member talked about Reagan’s “welfare queen” mythology that was put together on purpose and is still ongoing today.

Someone else in the audience asked how to tell if someone is trying to recruit you as an ally or just accidentally passing on a dog whistle they weren’t aware of.

Heidi advised looking for other clues in their language and interactions. Keffy added that this is why dog whistles are so insidious. The welfare queen myth became a meme that people began to believe in. So if you explain the history and context of it’s origins and watch how people respond to it - bigots often respond to these sorts of things by telling on themselves. You can tell in the reaction how they meant it once it’s pointed out to them.

An audience member gave another example - the peanut gallery. It has racist origins due to segregation - black people had to sit in the balconies and the myth was that they were unruly and tossing peanuts into the theater.

Another audience member talked about “urban” being used as code for black people in a negative sense. This audience member is a white teacher of mostly non-white students and urban can be used professionally as just a definition but she has to be careful about usage due to it’s other association.

Someone else in the audience talked about intelligence, but I missed most of what they said about it.

Keffy added on to that, by adding that IQ is just racist, and if it’s not being used to be racist, well then it’s still ableist so it’s still wrong. [good points]

An audience member talked about how eugenics is used as a dog whistle for “less intelligent people shouldn’t breed.”

Another audience member talked about gas stations and other places often owned by immigrants proudly displaying signs saying “American owned”. This is code for saying “this is the white gas station” for racists and xenophobes.

Someone else in the audience brought up the issue of faux dog whistles, such as the ok symbol. Another audience member replied that the problem is that they become associated with the bigotry anyway.

Seth added that everything is made up at some point or another.

Keffy expanded on that by saying the problem with “just for lulz” dog whistles is that this is how white supremacists recruit a lot of teens and young adults. It might not initially mean what it comes to mean, but it draws people in, which is the point of it.

An audience member brought up the dog whistles of merit, merit-based, and meritocracy - a commentary on reverse racism and affirmative action.

Keffy talked about commentary in science fiction genres about how there’s no more fun adventure stories because of all of these serious issues and social justice inclusion - codes for bigotry.

Heidi discussed ableism and how lots of times people just don’t know they’re using ableist language, but other times it’s done on purpose as gatekeeping. One example was putting “athletic” as what someone is looking for in a dating profile. Keffy added that you could do a whole panel on dog whistles in dating profiles.

Seth offered the example of people referencing Idiocracy as a dog whistle for eugenics.

An audience member brought up people talking about dueling accommodations - which is a real thing - but it’s often used to say that we shouldn’t even bother trying to accommodate people. Also gatekeeping through issues like service animals, claiming people aren’t “disabled enough” to use them, etc.

Keffy complained about things like signs saying “be healthy, use the stairs”.

An audience member talked about people casually claiming they have OCD or ADHD when it’s not true.

Heidi asked the panelists and audience to consider some transphobic dog whistles and gave the example “real women.”.

Seth said when people put “bio female” or “Webster’s dictionary defines womanhood as....” (which by the way isn’t even what Webster’s says but whatever).

Heidi talked about cis women even being attacked for seeming trans - both sides of the political spectrum tend to do this one.

Heidi also talked about fatphobia used in this way, such as making fat jokes about Trump - but that hurts all fat people.

Keffy brought up people who claim that cis is a slur.

I raised my hand from the audience to bring up people claiming queer is a slur as a way of excluding lots of groups beyond gay and lesbian, like trans people and asexual people. Keffy added that this is an effective dog whistle because it sounds social justice-y. Keffy also talked about “get the L out” - lesbians wanting their own group outside of the queer community.

Seth added the phrase “gender critical” as another one that sounds on the surface like a good thing, but is used by TERFs.

Keffy said they often tweak and claim terms that trans and non-binary people use to make fun of them or take power away from them.

An audience member brought up people using respect as a key-word to keep minorities from being angry and standing up for themselves.

Heidi brought up racist school dress codes, and asked people to add more dog whistles to the panel’s # - #HearTheDogWhistle. It’s a process to learn these things.

Seth closed by saying if someone tells you a thing is problematic - stop. Do some research. Even if it turns out you disagree with them in the end, it doesn’t hurt to stop and find out more. Respect other people.

#wiscon #wiscon 43 #dog whistles #hear the dog whistle #bigotry

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prismatic-bell · 7 years

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Jumblr, I have a problem.

To concerned goyim who may read this post and go “wow, that’s fucked up,” you are 100% correct and I appreciate your support. However, this is a very Jewish problem, and you will probably never face the microaggressions I can expect as a part of dealing with this, so please let the Jews do the advising on this one, okay?

Okay, so. I have two coworkers. We’ll use initials, K and C. K is a shift lead (as am I), C is a shift lead in training.

A few weeks ago, K came into work and started an argument about some Facebook drama and how she thought everyone who kneels in front of the American flag should be charged with treason. She has a gigantic Confederate flag on one shoulder and voted for Trump, so none of this surprises me. In an attempt to stop the bullshit--because she has in the past tried to pick fights about abortion, Hillary Clinton, Benghazi, and p much any political view that isn’t Dear Leader Trump (even when told to stop talking politics)--I said “you know what, I’m more concerned about the people marching in the streets with torches who literally want to kill my family.” First she denied Charlottesville happened, then blamed it all on antifa and said Trump was right, the Nazis who were there were just defending American values and very nice people, really. Actual quote:

“K, they were chanting ‘Jews will not replace us’ and threatening the local synagogue. One of them killed a woman.”

“Yeah, but I mean in real life, you know?”

Of course, I went to my boss, who took my concerns seriously about the inappropriateness of the conversation but not quite so much about it making me feel personally unsafe. K has tried this one time since then (about the Las Vegas shooting), but C was present, so I just straight-up told K it was inappropriate to voice political views in front of crewmembers.

Here’s where C comes into this story. She told me two days ago that the reason she’s no longer on K’s shifts is because K has been actively harassing her and she p much said “take me off her shifts, NOW, or I walk.” C is our only fully-trained closer, so that’s out of the question. I’ve been working with her to help her train for shift lead and basically encouraging her where K has been tearing her down, so the other night she opened up to me . . . .

. . . . and told me that among other things, K has a swastika on her back that she just keeps covered up while I’m around.

I feel massively unsafe closing with K while we seek another closer. I also know we just hired a boy from my temple, and not only is he very young and my responsibility (I recommended him for the job), he “looks Jewish”--the Jewfro, the slightly bumpy nose, the funny pronunciation of some words that he picked up from his East Coast Jewish relatives. Because she’s a night manager and he’s a high schooler, it’s very likely he’ll be on her shifts. If I’m afraid for myself as a blonde-haired, blue-eyed convert, I am terrified for this boy as a born Jew who, all unknowing, I’d already identified to her as being from my temple when she asked how I knew him, before I knew how deep this rabbit hole went.

Here’s the rub: If K had ever taken off her overshirt in a way that allowed me to see the swastika, I would have a case for intimidation that would go straight to HR. But, as C noted, she’s careful to keep the worst of her racist tattoos covered when I’m around.

What should I do? Call my rabbi for advice? Talk to my boss? Call HR and say I’m not trying to go over my boss’s head I just genuinely don’t know what to do? Try to ignore it and document any further antisemitism?

If you are gentile and wish to reblog this post to point out how yeah, this is a very real problem and fucked up situation that’s more likely than you might think, you’re welcome to do so. All I ask is, again: let the Jews advise.

If you are gentile and want to go “but Jews aren’t the only people who suffered under Hitler”: K is a lesbian who voted for Trump because she said she’d rather have her marriage invalidated than lose her guns under “crazy crooked Hillary” and has enough Cherokee blood in her that she wouldn’t qualify for the tribal rolls but would have qualified to join me in the gas chamber in 1938. Shut the fuck up.

#jumblr #jewish #help please #judaism #nazis tw #holocaust mention #charlottesville tw #swastika tw

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mudkips-secret-blog · 7 years

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ok im not gonna get super into the discourse (as in reblogging posts to argue with people, if people interact with this i’ll reply but i’m not seeking it out) but here are my thoughts on the thomas sanders thing. posting on this blog bc im worried about it causing discourse and it’s exhausting for that to be on my main where i can’t ignore it at all; if it’s on a sideblog i can ignore it until i’m mentally ready to address it. it should be noted i didn’t know much about thomas sanders before today; i’ve tried to gather as much info as possible from the tag but if i’m missing important info feel free to tell me. under a cut bc this was supposed to be short but it got Heckin Long just like EVERY POST I MAKE WHERE I ACTUALLY TRY TO SAY SOMETHING WHY AM I LIKE THIS

-regarding the nsfw art: he was not aware it was by a minor, and deleted it as soon as he was told. “he wouldn’t have done it if he hadn’t been called out” i’m pretty sure that was how he found out?? like he admitted he should have checked and apologized, but you guys are mad he didn’t do it until someone pointed it out to him??? that doesnt feel like him covering his ass it feels like he legit didn’t know until someone told him, he’s not omnipotent

-regarding antisemitism due to reblogging Hitler jokes: 1) it was 2 years ago 2) if the info i’ve seen is correct he deleted them after people had problems with them 3) I’ve seen at least one Jewish person say they didn’t think the jokes were that bad; I realize that doesn’t necessarily apply to all Jewish people, but it also shows that it’s not exactly a Huge Terrible Thing. also if it happened 2 years ago why is it only coming up now? obviously it wasn’t a big enough deal for me to hear about it until now so why is it such a big deal now? also people change over 2 years, i legit don’t think you can take something someone said 2 years ago and use it as an exact example of how they think now

-regarding being racist bc he likes hamilton: okay i’ve never heard of this in my life before today but apparently hamilton is racist because it paints slave owners in a positive light. i don’t want to speak over poc on this bc i’m white so if i’m wrong feel free to explain why to me, i really don’t want to do that, but the way i see it LMM handled it the best he could while addressing this subject? he never painted having slaves as a positive thing iirc and one of the main characters was really upfront about wanting to abolish slavery; maybe he could have made it more explicit but i don’t think he’s supporting slavery in any way? hamilton educated a lot of people who didn’t know much about the revolution on American history. a good story needs good guys and bad guys and unfortunately, if everyone who owned slaves was a bad guy in hamilton, it would be impossible to have a compelling story about the american revolution because all the main players are bad guys??? like the founding fathers did a great thing by starting America, you can’t ignore that just bc they also did shit things, they’re not great people obviously but they did some pretty amazing things that LMM wanted to talk about (also not everyone who likes hamilton has even considered the implications that these guys are slave owners so you can’t assume liking hamilton = supporting slavery)

-regarding his age: lmao why tf does that matter?? like people can interact with people where there’s a big age gap without it being creepy or malicious in any way, you’re not just confined to people within a certain age range of you i don’t understand why everyone is like “i can’t believe he’s 28 and most of his fanbase are minors” okay well why tf does it matter

-regarding the timing with his being an inclusionist: i don’t think it’s COMPLETELY about him saying he’s an inclusionist, but i do know that BOTH sides have this tendency to dig up old reasons to reject people as soon as they find out they’re not on their side, so i have a feeling some of the digging up of old posts and the hamilton thing might be about that, but i definitely don’t think it’s completely because of the inclusionist thing and people shouldn’t say it is. i think it’s just people blowing a couple incidents out of proportion because they don’t realize famous people are humans and make mistakes as well as not liking people disagreeing with them. honestly if some other famous person revealed they were an exclusionist inclusionists probably would do the same thing. not all of them ofc but a lot lets be honest here humans in general don’t like to be disagreed with

in summary, i think people are blowing this out of proportion. people seem to tend to expect famous people to be somehow more perfect and never make mistakes; newsflash! they’re human. and i think that thomas sanders has done his best to make as few mistakes as possible and when he does to apologize and fix them as best as he can, and people can’t accept that he made the mistakes in the first place. let him be a human being please, i doubt most people dissing him handle their mistakes as well as he does, i doubt most people in general do. i certainly don’t. he’s doing his best to be as unproblematic as possible but no one’s perfect so like. lay off a bit

also, if you’re one of the people asking “what did thomas sanders do?” search thomas sanders, sort by recent, you’ll have most of the info within a few minutes. that’s what i did except i searched for more than a few minutes, i wanted as much info as possible before posting about it

#thomas sanders #thomas sanders discourse #i can't believe that's a tag i'm using

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