#One of it not THE best explanation of ADHD I've ever heard

[autumngracy]

The TRUTH About ADHD in Adults | The Mel Robbins Podcast

More and more adults are being diagnosed with #ADHD, so today, we are unpacking the 6 surprising signs of ADHD. I also tell you why so many women, in particular, go undiagnosed.

 In this episode, we go deep into what ADHD is: a neurological disorder that affects the #brain structurally and chemically. I explain the signs and the #science behind what is going on in your brain to help you live a better life.

If you ever wondered if you have ADHD, if you feel like menopause is making it worse, or if you struggle with #anxiety, an eating disorder, or low self-esteem, you have to listen. All these might be symptoms of ADHD. This episode goes way beyond an inability to focus, because ADHD is so much more. This is an education in how your brain works, how focus works, and how to help yourself or someone in your life who may have ADHD.

Today you’ll learn: - Why women have been profoundly underdiagnosed - Four key differences between genders with ADHD - Why my diagnosis was both a blessing and a curse - The surprising way most women find out - Six symptoms of ADHD that most people don’t catch - The connection between anxiety and depression and ADHD - Resources and hacks to help you take charge over your symptoms

In addition to:

5:20: The surprising backdoor way I was diagnosed with ADHD.

8:34: What I learned about the “lost generation” that has blown me away.

10:41: A terrifyingly important statistic that led to this podcast episode.

11:45: The definition of ADHD that may make you feel better about yours.

13:51: Why are women underdiagnosed?The differences in symptoms.

23:25: This is how ADHD impacts your brain.

25:51: A really clear metaphor to explain how your brain silences noise, or doesn’t.

36:52: How is it I have ADHD, yet I can hyper-focus?

42:42: More surprising symptoms of ADHD that might make your relationships hard.

43:55: This one hack helps me get birthday gifts for others on time.

45:14 The jobs I loved because they worked well with ADHD.

49:06: Now here’s the good news!

53:06: A predictive statistic about children that you’re going to want to hear.

#adhd #add #neurodivergent #attention deficit hyperactivity disorder #attention deficit disorder #This lady is so real for this #One of it not THE best explanation of ADHD I've ever heard

[terminaxshowtime]

1 to 5 with any of your comfort blorbos :]

OKAY! As always, my current "main" comfort blorbo is a bit complicated and will make anyone go 'huh' if they haven't read one specific fanfic so I'll go with my secondary one :]

Massive Gravity Falls spoilers ahead! DO NOT scroll if you haven't watched. Because I will find a way to force you, one day.

this is about stanley pines :)

1. how long have i known about them

Since I first started watching Gravity Falls, which is only around 2 years ago. Kinda pathetic, I know, but it's unfortunately true. I don't think I ever heard of him before it, though.

2. whether or not they’ve ever made me cry

I shed a few tears in the finale, but that was also out of happiness? And I've cried rivers upon rivers whilst reading fanfic. Oh my god, my Stangst fanfic addiction might've been a little unhealthy.

3. whether or not i have any merchandise/objects with them

Yes? Kinda? He's mentioned a fuckton in Journal 3, which I have. Which makes sense. He's a main character. Also I just remembered I have Lost Legends. He's definitely in that.

4. what about their personality i like

Oh my god, what SHOULDN'T I like?

First of all, he's a conman. A wonderful conman who I fucking love. He is the guy ever. I love liars and I love conmen. He just has that vibe where he knows what he's doing and doesn't at the same time.

Second of all, he commits crimes. I fucking love crime. Tax evasion forever and whatnot. I love the way he just does not hesitate to do whatever the fuck he wants, illegal or not.

And of course, he is so fucking awesome. He is a badass who punches dinosaurs and dream demons and stuff all in the name of his family and the people he cares about. Like, he does all these terrible things, but it's all for his family and the people he cares about, and it's amazing.

Then, you know, he's funny. Funny, silly, you think he's just a funny old guy (who is Not Okay but you don't know that yet) and he is! Even though there's all these terrible things he got better and has fun around Soos and the kids.

He is neurodivergent as fuck. Have you fucking seen child and teen stan. Have you read Lost Legends?! He absolutely has ADHD, do NOT argue this with me, BECAUSE I AM RIGHT.

I literally cannot describe his personality because there's no words that really can describe it. But I fucking love him.

5. what about their backstory makes me emotional

What fucking WOULDN'T make me emotional?!?!?!?!

Okay, first of all, he was constantly berated as a child for not being able to control himself and his impulses, having the best of intentions but always messing up, to which his father verbally abused him.

When he was a teen it only got worse, and he got some pretty bad self-worth issues due to everyone calling him essentially an idiot and just overall useless. Like what the hell.

And then he got rejected by Ford, the only person he really cared what he thought of him, and got kicked out of his house onto the streets at the age of 17???!?!?!?? Like hello?? Is that legal?????!?!?!??!

He was forced to do some pretty bad shit to stay alive, likely dealing with illegal stuff and maybe getting cursed or whatever, completely in debt and forgotten by his family, until one day Ford called him over after 10 years...

...only to find out that he just wanted him to take some journal and leave, get as far away from him as possible. Understandably, this makes more sense in Ford's perspective, but Stan doesn't know shit and he didn't even get an explanation, so he was rightfully pissed off.

They fought, and he got branded, which made him even more pissed and he didn't even hear Ford's brief apology (God this whole scene tears my heart apart and stomps on the pieces) and then he pushes his brother into the portal, and-

He doesn't hesitate to fake his own death, but obviously feels remorse at accidentally taking his brother's identity. Like, he had to pretend to his family for 30 whole years that he was Stanford when he wasn't. What the hell.

And then after 30 long, hard years- of learning physics, and sciences, and whatever he needed to turn on the portal and get his brother back, persisting despite always being told how fucking stupid he was- his brother punched him in the face and yelled at him.

No wonder he was, once again, pissed.

Of course I was emotional about his backstory. What the fuck.

#termina rambles #as in REALLY rambles #gravity falls #pain :))))

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tips to study easier

I was thinking so much about this topic that I have way more ideas to share with you all. here are some more tricks to cheat the system if you have a hard time studying the "normal" way.

1. mirroring

people with adhd often find themselves doing mirroring movements. for example, listening to poeple speaking with an accent for a long time sticks with you after a while. if that's the case with you, I have good news!

if you have to write a certain type of poem, you have to write in a style or act some kind of way, you can read/watch/listen to things in these topics. if you are like me, it will stick with you within minutes, and you'll speak in rhymes after reading 3-4 great poems.

it's also great for writing official letters, a publication or an essay that has to be in an academic style.

2. taking it apart

no matter how difficult it seems to get your topic/homework/anything into smaller sections, it could be lifesaving. sitting in front of a computer for 4+ hours just to start and finish an assignment will not work in the long run. you'll burn out easier, won't even think about starting in time because you'll think that this is too much work for one day.

but if you create sections/try and make different stages for it, it might become easier to start and finish a whole project - without going crazy.

an example for the different stages - great for smaller papers too:

- research. find studies you'll have to use, make the citation if you're sure you'll use it.

- read through all the studies, websites, articles, etc. and get the useful things out. maybe just copy and paste, maybe start rewriting some of them

- write the actual paper. you'll be suprised, how easy it'll be this way

- format it, make it pretty and reread it with a clear head to find mistakes.

3. finding your stlye

I've learned about this a long time ago but I only started using the advantages of this lately when started to learn computer science (a more complex topic for my silly little brain). you may have heard about the VAK learning stlyes, but you can refresh your knowledge here.

I - as an everything mixed up -could use loads of these things to help me study easier.

- visual learners: you can make your tasks pretty, draw things (it's the best for biology classes, believe me, remembering things just because I drew them saved my life so many times!), letter the words.

and I don't mean only the titles for aesthetic reasons. make the whole thing pretty. you can use different colours for different meanings (like blue for names, green for definitions, yellow for dates and so on...) you can also use different methods, highlighting, coloured text, underlining to make it more memorable for yourself.

some things I could never use efficiently but I would love to: mind maps, maps in general, flowcharts, diagrams, whatever you can think about.

please note, that this may not be the shortest way to study something, but if it's efficent, you'll save a lot of time in the long run!

- auditory learners: youtube explanation videos, making everything into small songs, using music to learn better.

a personal fav: finding that one indian man (with a strong accent) who can speak about anything in the simplest way ever so you somehow understand everything. it's pure magic. + shitty remixes of things like the kings & queens of my country in order made history way more fun to study.

- kinaesthetic learners: move a lot while studying.

I usually did the smaller movements, as I get tired and dizzy easily from walking in circles/using the staris (I had a psycho friend who used to do these things as he studied). I usually did small arm & finger movements, I followed certain patterns with my feet and eyes to help me remember things better.

it worked best if I was well-rested, while the other methods didn't need this quality of mine.

I'll make a list of small, fun things to do that are connected to either of the VAK learning stlyes but it would be too long to post it at once.

#mental health #mental wellbeing #studying #adhd #study tricks #autism #depression #anxiety #learning difficulties #self motivation #vak learning styles #education #mirroring

[samtheflamingomain]

prognosis: fucked

It's been 4 months since I had a drink. My boss wins best joke with "Congrats, let me buy you a shot!"

I've heard that the TL;DRs are popular, so here you are: I've done everything right since rehab, lost 45 lbs, and my fatigue has only gotten worse to the point I'm getting memory loss, and a new diagnosis of Type 2 Narcolepsy. It's incurable and untreatable. I will never wake up feeling awake ever again. I'll probably be unable to work at all within the next few years. No cheery ending, sorry.

Now for those with 5-10 minutes to kill, I'd like to whine a bit.

When I was in rehab, I decided to go against the very solid and science-backed advice that says "don't try to change everything all at once, just focus on sobriety at first" and decided it was time to lose weight, eat better, meditate, exercise and save money all at once.

Well, slap my bald head and call me Jeff Bezos, cuz I'm in the 0.00001% of people who decided to do that and did it successfully.

Obviously it's an ongoing journey, but as of today, I'm as physically and mentally healthy as I've ever been, except for one thing: my fatigue.

Other than these excellent improvements, the only thing that has changed for me in terms of medication is a slow increase in the amount of Adderall I'm being prescribed, without having ADHD, due to a lethal combination of "my psychiatrist is out of ideas, but also won't listen to me".

I did a sleep study a year ago, and it came back "normal", so they just slapped me with a Chronic Fatigue Syndrome label and told me to go fuck myself, it's incurable and barely treatable.

But "barely" was always better than "un(treatable)". Which is what my new diagnosis, Type 2 Narcolepsy, is. It's very new, and the only treatment was approved in the States this year. Adderall and its friends like Ritalin and even actual meth don't work on this kind of fatigue, thus why it hasn't helped me. It also goes by "idiopathic hypersomnia" - "excessive sleep" (hyper-somnia) "without explanation" (idio-pathic).

But the reason my doctor changed the diagnosis isn't because it really matters, but because, despite being on meth-lite, despite all the great work I've been doing, I'm getting worse.

For a very long time, I was stable. Exhausted from the minute I was awake till the minute I fell asleep, every single day, for 7 years. And while this sounds exactly like what Chronic Fatigue Syndrome should be, CFS actually comes with a lot more problems that I don't have, which has always made me question it as my "real" diagnosis.

N2's criteria are exhaustion, sleeping more than 10h/night, and what appears to be a normal sleep study, but when examined closer, involves falling asleep in 12 minutes or less.

But also, in a lot of those with N2, there's a symptom called "sleep drunkenness" that, compared to a control group, a group with CFS, and a group with N2, is unique to N2. And that symptom presenting was enough evidence for my doctor to change my diagnosis.

Sleep drunkenness, named by a scientist who has clearly never been drunk, is characterized as having brain fog, moving slowly, a feeling of heaviness, and in some cases memory loss, when you first wake up. On the surface, I'd understand why some people would read that and say "that's just me before my morning coffee". But this is different. You feel confused and lost, you lose your trains of thought almost instantly. It's the odd combination of feeling like you're just about to fall asleep, but with everything you do, you snap awake, only to repeat over and over.

For most people with N2, this symptom lasts about 30m to an hour. I'm lucky at about 45m. I've always had this symptom, but until a few years ago, it didn't have a name. So when I was given some websites to read by my doctor, I knew this was it. It described me to a T.

And it explains the ways I've been getting worse - the sleep drunkenness lasting longer, sleeping closer to 13h than my usual 10-11. And it explains how, 5 times in the past 2 weeks, I've woken up at noon to find a lukewarm pot of coffee already brewed.

I've been waking up, doing the mindless task of making a pot of coffee, going back to bed, waking up again and legitimately thinking my roommates kept doing it for me to be nice. Only on the 5th time did I realize it had been me all along. And when you tell a doctor you're getting memory loss, they take you seriously. Got on the waitlist for a neurologist, but it's more due diligence than the idea of one being able to help me.

I thought CFS was a death sentence, but no, it does in fact get so much worse. Despite being very under-studied and not widely-understood, CFS has been in the medical books since the 80s. Narcolepsy wasn't separated into 2 types until 2018, and the first "long-term" study wasn't complete until 2020.

I read almost every study on N2 I could find - and it took less than 2 hours. There's just nothing known about it besides the fact that thus far, nobody has ever gotten better. Most get worse.

The Narcolepsy you're likely vaguely familiar with involves muscle paralysis that makes you fall asleep and fall over, called cataplexy. It's pretty much unique to Narcolepsy Type 1 and makes it easy to diagnose. N2 has no cataplexy. They don't even know if it actually has anything to do with N1 at all, since none of its drugs work on N2. They're literally at the point of just naming the damn thing.

It'll be 50 years before they find a cure, if they ever do. It's rare, so there's little incentive to study it and make drugs for it.

Despite having tried well over 50 drugs, done rTMS, ECT, every kind of therapy, inpatient rehab, quit drinking, lost weight... I'm just getting worse. And there's nothing I can do anymore. Nothing left to try.

Leave it to me to have the rarest form of a disease in the field of medicine even less-understood than mental illness. We still don't even know why we need to sleep on a physical level. We can map every neuron, every blood vessel, but this one area has completely eluded us. And because there's been zero progress in that area of science in decades, I have no hope of ever getting better without a literal medical miracle.

Stay Greater.

#sam #narcolepsy #cfs

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Wowza sorry y'all about the random massive Rockafire spam, I'm pretty sure ??most?? People on here? know me for just Knight Rider because that's the only thing I've ever REALLY posted about--

but I Do Not Care it's RAE hours right now so uhhh here's some headcannons that probably aren't Canon compliant very much because I just got into RAE like last week

So like. I feel like Mitzi is a Good Amount younger than the rest of the band like she was in highschool when she joined, the rest of em were all Adults™ and she was a little bit nervous about it because...... ADULTS™

She was just lookin for a place to get her singing voice out there, because ya girl REALLY wanted to perform, and showbiz happened to have a slot open, but she did not expect all of the members to be older than her (although looking back, she realized she probably should have expected that)

It was intimidating at first but Billy Bob and Fatz were just the absolute sweetest and they introduced her properly to the rest of the band because she was like "oh I barely talk to them because I get nervous :(" and the resident dads p much said "aight we can do all the talking for you then, how about that?" And badabing badaboom she's now attached to these two and like honestly who isn't or maybe that's just me but ANYWAYS I feel like the band would become a second home/safe space for her

Yeah fr some reason I have BIG long headcannon for her joining the band but the rest of them? Nobody knows how they got there for all I know they just Showed Up One Day

Also I came across this

https://youtu.be/UU7BeUWQBDI

Which got me thinkin about what my headcannons were as far as sexuality/gender stuff

And I find the concept of Billy Bob being Very Much Straight And Ignorant but trying his hardest to be a good ally SO funny like if someone came out to him he'd probably be like "oh!! I don't understand why you would choose that lifestyle but I respect you!!" not realizing how incredibly stupid he sounds sjkrjh like I don't think he can very easily wrap his head around how people are just. not cishet. so he's like "OH then it must be a choice, right? like you can choose to be gay but you're born straight. Right?" and everyone just shakes their heads in the background but he does earnestly try his best and my man would rather DIE than disrespect someone's pronouns I know this for sure

Fatz is pretty similar, straight ally and a lil confused but he's got the spirit, you know? He still least knows being gay (as well as,,, m o s t sexualities that aren't straight, although some he doesn't get/know about at all) isn't a choice but he hasn't quite grasped that being trans is also not a choice. He will respect your pronouns to hell and back but by god he doesn't get it,,, he's trying though and he feels very accomplished in himself that he's starting to get the hang of using they/them even though he slips up a lot

The rest of the band encourages the HELL out of these two because they're. Trying their best and making an honest effort which is more than a pretty good chunk of people would give

Rolfe, Earl, and Dook are the reasons Billy Bob and Fatz are trying so hard to understand it lmao

Rolfe took it upon himself to hang up a MASSIVE gay pride flag backstage, being the flaming homosexual that he is, and the rest of the squad quickly realized "oh he's GAY gay he wasn't kidding" because at first they literally thought he was joking as he was actually just being openly and obnoxiously a raging mlm (and like I mean no shade to him this isn't me tryna to make fun of it because my dumb sapphic ass almost crashed my car once because I saw a pretty girl walk down the street. And by "once" I mean. Yesterday.) Anyways yeah that's when the rest of em Realized and were like "OH" but after the massive pride flag was hung up that prompted Dook to come out and they were all like "???? YOU TOO????"

Dook is a non-binary ICON he's a demiboy and goes by both he/him and they/them and probably would have a bunch of pride pins I think,,, I'm not really sure of his sexuality though!! honestly he kinda gives me bisexual vibes but Who Knows . Not me. He has a HELL of a time trying to explain his gender to the rest of the band (except for Rolfe because like. He's a part of the community so he knows) and basically he was met with "so you're just a dude but ✨spicy✨?" and it was like, "no, but I have no idea how to explain it in a way that will make sense to you, so. yes?" And that explanation seemed to suffice for most of them

Mitzi went in knowing NOTHING about what being non-binary was so she asked a l o t of questions about it, which Dook just kinda dealt with answering (he's heard most of it before, and it gets tiring after a while. if you're nb or trans or honestly any part of LGBTQ+ you know what I mean) but he thought it was really sweet of her to be so determined to learn about it and eventually she did get a grasp on it ish, so she was able to understand why it wasn't just ✨spicy male✨ (the conversation pretty much went "well if i was just male, don't you think I would label myself that way instead?" "....oH TRUE!!!") and she ended up a VERY passionate ally, and she'll ask occasionally about how to be better at it, bein a queen as she is 👉👉 also definitely started questioning her sexuality after a while and just went with "maybe bicurious" and Rolfe, Dook, and Earl were all like "ONE OF US, ONE OF US"

Earl has never once spoken about his sexuality in his life, because 1. He's very aware that's an awkward conversation to have with a puppet, and 2. He's aroace anyways, which is basically what people assume even if they don't realize it just for their own peace of mind, because seriously, puppets and any identity that ISN'T aroace creates a really uncomfortable mental image for... Most people, pretty much. So it's not like he ever needed to say anything about it, which is convenient for him because he wouldn't want to say anything either way. not worth the risk of embarrassing himself and making everyone feel awkward

(side note ish though Rolfe 100% came out to Earl first and was met with "I already knew that but okay." Rolfe was mildly offended)

And spEAKING OF EARL he's VERY much sentient but he can't say he's particularly enthusiastic about it because Rolfe has to carry him around everywhere

He can move on his own but it's limited and generally annoying to maneuver around with his tiny body so he just says screw it half the time and stays on Rolfe's arm or hitch a ride on Random Object, but like... Yeah, the majority of the time Rolfe just has to deal with only having one arm available and a puppet directly next to him making fun of him at every possible chance

They high-key have chaotic and unorganized college roommate vibes (like they're actually roommates because... Where tf is Earl supposed to go?? So Rolfe took him in) and idk if this is really like a part of my headcannons or if I just think it's funny so I keep entertaining the idea of it but I think it would be Fantastic if Rolfe had no idea how to cook but Earl somehow did so this idiot is trying to take instructions from a puppet, who can't physically show him what to do, and it's like Hell's Kitchen live featuring a furry and a sentient stuffed animal

Aaaaamd going off of my Rolfe and Earl headcannons still Rolfe for SURE has some sort of executive dysfunction issue. ADD or ADHD I'm not sure (probably ADHD) but he definitely has it also this totally isn't just me projecting how dare you accuse me of that

And!!! More about Dook!!!! I don't know how or why I thought up of this but I cannot possibly imagine him any other way now-- he's autistic and space is his Big Huge special interest, and if you ever ask him about it you have to be prepared to get infodumped or possibly even shown a PowerPoint presentation, because GOD he loves space!!! He wants everyone to know all about it!! He knows not everyone thinks it's as cool as he does so he tries to keep his mouth shut but when someone asks about it he can't help himself and will infodump a LOT, also haha drumming stims go brrrr, playing the drums isn't really a stim but he likes to just take his drumsticks and whack em around in the air and get that good ol Wavy Arm Action (wavy arms is best stim change my mind you can't it's GOOD)

Also i bbbbelieve earlier I reposted somethin about someone else headcannoning that he has echolalia, which I don't really know enough about to say anything on it?? But even if he doesn't have echolalia he'd probably repeat phrases over and over until he gets tired of them (which is,,, something I do lmao, it's either memes I get stuck in my head or things I've heard from various medias I like the inflections in (like one tiktokker I saw was talking about their tourettes and their vocal tics and one of them was "uh oh! How unfortunate!" and now I CAN'T STOP SAYING IT)) but like uhhh yeah :))) repeating phrases that get stuck in your head for various reasons for the win

This is already really long so I'm just gonna vibe out thanks for coming to my Ted talk feel free to ask questions I probably won't be able to answer a lot of em though because my headcannons are a Mess hehe >:)

#WOOOW GROMIT #rae #rockafire explosion #rock-a-fire explosion #i still don't know what tags y'all use #someone pls stop me from stealing peoples vocal tics i find on tiktok #like seriously #the one i mentioned as well as are stuck in my head #SIZZLE IT UP G R O M I T #he lp #lmaooo anyways yeah i love these characters im biased towards rolfe and earl tho they're my favorites