#albums of the decade

[thatnarcissisticfeel]

I think that a lot of people without NPD have a really poor understanding of "narc supply" or the specific type of positive attention that pwNPD crave. Even the egotypicals who are allies, the ones denounce narc abuse and anti-NPD ableism, don't fully grasp it.

There's this false idea that NPDs like to be worshipped and showered with compliments all of the time, and I mean, yeah, most of us would eat that shit up, but I know that for myself and a lot of other pwNPD it's deeper and much more, I guess, personal?

I don't really know how to describe it, so I'll give an example: As a kid, no one really paid attention to my creative endeavors, my accomplishments, my feelings, etc. And if they DID pay attention, the attention was negative. I could always do better, I could always be smarter, stronger, etc. This came from peers and adults alike. So I developed a coping mechanism where I would tell myself that everyone else was wrong, that I'm actually the best person around, etc. I don't have to explain what disorder I ended up with as an adult as a result of all of that. :P

But anyway - the wound of constantly being ignored at best and insulted at worst is still there. You know how when you're in a group chat or a conversation with multiple people and no one ever pays attention to your comments, while paying attention to everyone else? Yeah, that shit hurts EVERYONE, but especially pwNPD. Even the smallest acknowledgment can be "narc supply."

You know how when you achieve something really cool and everyone ignores you - but the people who ignore you will be quick to praise OTHER people?

You know how when you post art/edits online and everyone ignores you - but the people who ignore you compliment someone else's post in the exact same thread?

You know how when you ask your friend to read your favorite book or listen to your favorite artist or whatever because of how much it means to you, and they never do it, but then they read/listen to everyone else's favorite thing at everyone else's recommendation, and how much it pisses you off? (Hurts even more if you have the SAME favorite book/artist and someone reads/listens to it at the other person's recommendation and not at yours.)

Yeah, yeah, yeah, I could go on and on. That shit would bother anyone, us narcissists aren't alone in being hurt by that, but my G-d, it impacts pwNPD in such a specific way.

But let me flip it around to the positive!

A narcissist doesn't necessarily get their "supply" from someone telling them that they're the coolest person in the world and that they're a god. (Though if you do want to say that to us we probably won't complain!) Sometimes they get their "supply" from something as simple as someone acknowledging their achievements, and giving specific praise on what the achievement was. ("It's so cool that you won a prize in the music recital. The song you played sounds like it was really difficult and I loved your stage presence.")

Being told, "Wow, you did such a great job on your artwork, I love the colors!" goes a very very long way for a narc, especially when said narc is used to being IGNORED for their art.

Hearing, "it's so cool that you like that book, I'll have to read it and tell you my thoughts!" can help a narcissist's interests feel acknowledged.

You might be reading this and thinking, "well, isn't it just basic human interaction to compliment your friends or try out their interests"? And, well, maybe it is, but the whole point of NPD is that most of us grew up without receiving that type of attention, so now we're very very desperate for it - and very, very, VERY sensitive to when it doesn't happen, or is even perceived to not have happened. Something as small as being talked over in a group chat can set us off, but something as small as a simple, "hey, it's so cool that you did this, I love it." can win us over.

And to be completely fair, most of the time us being "ignored" isn't completely intentional. Like, I get it, yeah, sometimes timing just doesn't work out for person A to read my favorite book at my own rec, but by the time person B is in their life, person A can read it, and it's not anything personal. Sometimes the content I make just isn't someone's ~style~ and they support me, they really do, they just don't know what to say. Sometimes someone forgets to respond, or doesn't get a notification when I send them something I made or tell them about something I did. (There is less excuse for being ignored in face-to-face/offline convos though.) But because of the trauma of us constantly being ignored as kids/teens, the smallest little thing hurts and as a result we seek and crave attention EVERYWHERE.

So now, to give in to narc stereotypes of begging for attention: If you're a person without NPD and you genuinely want to help the narcissists you have in your life, the second best thing you can do for us is checking in to make sure we're not overlooked. Try to be sure you're not ignoring us, and if we do something cool, try to compliment it, even if it's something you don't fully "understand." Ask us about what we've been up to lately, what we're proud of about ourselves, and agree with us that what we've done is pretty cool. I mean, you'd do that for any friend, right? It's really not all outlandish for a narc to want that.

(If you're curious what the FIRST best thing you can do for a narcissist is, it's giving us a million dollars unlearning your anti-NPD ableism and calling people out who use narcissist as an insult as a synonym for abuser. Even in "offline" spaces, even when we're not around, even doctors/therapists. Even "narc" abuse survivors.)

#actuallynarcissistic #actuallynpd #npd feels #npd safe #npd culture #my favorite person is literally my favorite person only because she warned me about media that used narcissist as an insult and listened to #an album i liked when literally EVERYONE ELSE i've recced the album to has ignored it. (I've been a fan of said album for ALMOST A DECADE) #like guys it's not that hard to treat us well #(also i mean favorite person in the cluster b way - she's my favorite person in the NT way for many reasons)

[a9saga]

bitches and hoes who claim that danger days sucks and is a huge downgrade from the quality of the black parade are just afraid to have fun and wear colorful clothing once in a while

#feeling very vulgar towards danger days haters lately #not that this is as cool a take to have in the 2020s as it was a decade ago #i'm not saying the black parade is not mcr's best album---there is no contest as to what is mcr's best album don't kid yourself #the black parade and american idiot are THE political/cultural concept rock albums of the 2000s #but dont act like oh how DARE mcr read some comics and watch some anime and have fun with their music #danger days is also totally awesome and has a lot to say frankly #if my velocity starts to make you sweat then just don't let go 🙄 #mcr #emo #my chemical romance #danger days #2000s #shut up kaily

[music-moon]

All my liked songs from the 2020s, organized by the year they were released.

Always updating, discovering and refining. Cover art is my most listened to albums from each year, according to my last.fm.

My favourite songs organized by release year: 2020s

View more decades: 2000s / 2010s / 2020s

Take a deeper dive into my most listened to albums from each year:

Data from last.fm + pythfm.

2000 / 2001 / 2002 / 2003 / 2004 / 2005 / 2006 / 2007 / 2008 / 2009 / 2010 / 2011 / 2012 / 2013 / 2014 / 2015 / 2016 / 2017 / 2018 / 2019 / 2020 / 2021 / 2022 / 2023 / 2024

#Spotify #concept playlist #playlist #spotify playlist #lastfm #music #music playlist #playlists #year end list #2020s music #2020s #best of the decade #music recs #2020s core #best of 2020s #favourite albums #20s music #rawring 20s #2020 music #2021 music #2022 music #2023 music #2024 music #new music #favorite albums #tunes #liked songs #hot 100 #billboard 200 #music review

[interoteme]

and you expect me to act like he Wasn't being compared to this guy or

#graham ness payser #pacesetter #ttcc #ttcc pacesetter #graham payser #like. There's no way that was coincidence right? narcissistic guys who look at themselves in the mirror who listen to HL&TN? #and Fore! of all albums? #Also why cant they pick a decade for this guy to be in #'1998 toontown dace mix' Sir you are clearly from the 80s #dance* #toontown #toontown corporate clash #heeeeeeelp meeeeee

[nidera]

＊Hello, World's End Cine-camera. / Sasakure.UK (2010)

#it is killing me that i cant watch the contents of the dvd bc my cd drive finally died :( #vocaloid #sasakure*uk #sorry that this concept album has been all i talk about for like a decade straight at this point #mine:scans #sasakure uk #original

[midnight-moth]

Mushy May will heal ghumblr. I know it will. I believe in it. I’m manifesting it.

#raindrop month was so… disappointing #and it’s maybe a little my fault #but not entirely #I get it everyone is busy #I’m a little sad about it though #I am just so confused as to how fandoms for shows that were done like a decade ago are going strong #but we all fall apart while waiting for the next album #I would like to say I’ll just hop skip jump to something more active #but I simply do not want to #how the fuck would I deal with all that canon lore anyway #making it all up is what’s fun #some of you are keeping ghumblr alive daily with chest compressions and epi #using the defibrillator and doing mouth to mouth #no body call it tho it’s not dead yet or something

[laromp3]

#laro.mp3 #chateau (feel alright) #djo #album: twenty twenty #country: usa #language: english #decade: 2010s #favorites

[haveyoulistenedtothisalbum-poll]

Tracklist:

Cave In • The Bird And The Worm • Hello Seattle • Umbrella Beach • The Saltwater Room • Dental Care • Meteor Shower • On The Wing • Fireflies • The Tip Of The Iceberg • Vanilla Twilight • Tidal Wave • Hot Air Balloon • Butterfly Wings • Rugs From Me To You • Sunburn • Hello Seattle - Remix • If My Heart Was a House • Strawberry Avalanche

Spotify ♪ YouTube

#hyltta-polls #polls #artist: owl city #language: english #decade: 2010s #Electropop #Synthpop #Indietronica #Alt-Pop #the standard version of this album was posted previously -- this one is the deluxe version so it's distinct

[exsqueezememacaroni]

blessed with perfect eyebrows 🙏🙏🙏 hail mary

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#there is nothing better than mike looking at the camera and laughing with his mouth wide open #whatever that look he gives is always so good...like...for decades it's been good #this 5 minutes and the Peeping Tom album have literally gotten me through this week #mike patton #fantomas

[korn-official]

#I’ve been trying to find this pic without the stupid album title in the way for OVER A DECADE #THANSK PINTEREST #korn #!!!!!! #korn band #jd #jonathan davis #brian head welch #munky #fieldy #david silveria #pics

[cleoselene]

my internet hot take is that people are too hard on that Luke Combs guy. i don't even know him or his music beyond his cover of Fast Car but Tracy has made it abundantly clear that she has enjoyed this revival of her popular song and she was having a great time on the Grammys, that was also super obvious, and dude was so respectful and was lip-synching along with her when she was doing her bits like a total mark

he's brought her music to a new audience and generation and she's getting some streaming dollars and has been effusive in her praise and what a good time she's having with it, if she's not gatekeeping her music maybe you don't have to?

#luke combs #tracy chapman #like watch someone pull out terrible receipts on him #but music is meant to be shared and a great timeless song is a great timeless song #also tracy has been working for decades but she hasn't had another hit like fast car so I'm sure she's appreciating the royalties #you SHOULD absolutely check out her other work because she has eight studio albums and she is tremendous #like her work beyond fast car is powerful and compelling #anyway if you want some later Tracy Chapman check out her album Where You Live #so good #Change is a stellar song

[h0dgep0dgee]

ive been meaning to draw this doofus for MONTHS but was Afraid of drawing his face but NO MORE!

@ask-the-becile-boys

#in my brain hes either singing curses by the crane wives or Literally Anything from the Sunset on Summerville album by madds buckley #also i Dont Care that he canonically has not been able to sing in decades this is about The Vibes #my art #steam powered giraffe #becile bots #hare becile #i thought his face was gonna be the hard part of this but Nope it was that Dang Jacket #i am proud of the cross hatching tho

[sadaveniren]

I truly have to wonder if anyone who is co-signing that letter has ever been a fan of someone who isn’t Top 40/pop star before in their life. Because a lot of the takes I’m seeing really seem to think the only metric for success is - to be perfectly honest - Harry StylesTM. But there are tons of ways to be a working musician with a supportive fanbase that allows the musician to feel successful.

A lot of the perks that Louis fans enjoy right now, the things they LIKE about Louis, only exist because he ISNT this major star. @crinkle-eyed-boo mentioned in her post meeting him at Rough Trade and YES EXACTLY. Being able to meet him, in fucking person, to be able to have this memory of interacting with him - to hope maybe I made him laugh (I did. I also made him swear so loud people behind me heard 🤣)? I don’t get that with a lot of artists I follow. But I got to have it with Louis.

I get fans want him to play big stadiums or to feel validated when they say “I’m a Louis Tomlinson fan” instead of being met with a blank stare but honestly? It’s everyone else’s loss if they don’t want to listen him.

What I’m trying to say is this: the grass isn’t greener on the other side (there will be things you won’t like if he gets as popular as you want him to be), our metric of success isn’t necessarily Louis’, and at the end of the day Louis’ success and promo is not our responsibility.

#if I have to write out my entire thoughts on ‘the lost album’ I will #I won’t be happy about it but at least people have heard some of the other scrapped songs #so I can make my point #which is LOUIS CHOSE TO GO THIS DIRECTION MUSICALLY #HE IS AWARE WHAT INDIE BRIT POP ROCK WILL GET HIM SUCCESS WISE #HE IS A SMART BUSINESS MAN WHO HAS BEEN IN THE INDUSTRY FOR OVER A DECADE #CAN WE PLEASE ACKNOWLEDGE THAT?

[todayinhiphophistory]

Today in Hip Hop History:

Gang Starr released the album Full Clip: Decade of Gang Starr July 13, 1999

#today in hip hop history #todayinhiphophistory #hiphop #hip-hop #hip hop #hip hop music #hip hop history #hip hop culture #music #history #music history #gang starr #full clip: decade of gang starr #full clip #album #emcee #mc #rap #rapper #guru #dj premier #dj #deejay #producer #music producer #1999 #preemo

[davidtennantpussytulpa]

people who say starkid is a good entry point for people getting into musicals i feel like youre insane. like just bc its parodies of popular stuff still doesnt mean people will find it appealing

#i think its more like something rotten where half of the enjoyment comes from already being familiar with musicals #and how they are structured and referencing other musicals #any other genre ppl are like oh if you wanna get into horror or comedy or a decade of movies here are the classics! #and for musicals people arent like hey maybe watch the academy award winning 50 years and still golden sound of music #or maybe a modern favorite like chicago. or an engaging album like hadestown #instead youre saying how about you go to the far reaches of theatre nerdery. ITS INSANE #i sound much more heated than i am about this im not upset i just find it confounding

[partynthem]

sza’s masterpiece SOS losing album of the year to tayl*r swift’s boring pop album is literally janelle monae’s magnum opus dirty computer losing to kacey muskrat’s meaningless country album all over again

#call me trigged idc cos you’d be right #SOS was the album of the fucking year sza is the artist of the decade for that one #and to give aoty to taylor fucking swift for an album even swifties think is bad and boring??? oh my god dude #it’s 2018 all over again…. i CAN believe i lived to see another talented black woman be overlooked for the mediocre work of a white woman