#babies are fun but can we stop closely associating their genetalia with their proposed future gender role?

[kittybug99]

Rant:

You know, I dont really mind gender reveal parties in general. It’s a party (bar the extreme examples of people setting fire to forests they’re usually fine). Humans are social creatures. We will literally find any excuse to gather and eat food and share excitement. And babies are SOSOSO exciting! thats a good thing! so now we have the technology so you can see one of the socially consequential surprises (peenIS or peenISNT) about babies early on, hurrah for technological advancements! but damn if some people don’t take the gender binary way too seriously.

I recall being about 5 or so when my elder sibling (AFAB - this is relevant) pointed out to me the color binary because as a child their favoriete color was blue and I the parroting infant I was retorted “but blue is a BOY color” to which they replied “there’s no such thing as boy and girl colors.” Sometimes you’re so blinded by cultural grooming that all it takes is one person saying something that shatters the glass. I realized that the only girl colors were pink and purple and boys got all of the rest of them and decided that that was unfair and thus agreed that the boy-color/girl-color dichotomy was socially constructed and thus bullshit (I mean, not in so eloquent of words).

Anyway, my SIL sent a black and white pic of my nibling painting a wooden heart and asked “any guesses as to the gender before we announce?” and I guessed dinosaur, sibling guessed human. She then sent a color video of nibling painting the heart pink and said “Oh, we’re gonna have a GIRL, you’re gonna have a SISTER, and what color is that? is it PINK???”

Like, bud. itself probably just because shes a preschool teacher so thats just always how she talks to him, but like it’s so gross??? like its so obviously unconscious coaching? I know she doesn’t mean any harm, but like damn! Teach them young that pink is a girl color.

#personal #I did guess correctly though because SIL said the lab tech was 98% sure #you don’t say 98% sure if you see a penis #if you see a penis you see a penis #if you dont see a penis it might just be hiding #anyway I did guess female and told my sibling because I wanted to guess because I love a gamble even with zero stakes #babies are fun but can we stop closely associating their genetalia with their proposed future gender role? #its gross #thats gonna be an adult some day #treat them with respect