#transmisandry

[a-polite-melody]

“Focusing on fixing sexism instead of worrying about transandrophobia is going to benefit trans men more. Also, worrying about transandrophobia instead of sexism is like discarding women and instead trying to put trans men into male privilege to fix the problem instead of fixing sexism.”

I mean.

First of all, sure, fighting sexism will help many people. Absolutely. Cis women. Trans women. Trans men.

But would you tell a trans woman to stop fighting transmisogyny because it’s only helping her and other trans women? Would you tell her that fighting for transmisogyny is counterproductive and just putting trans women in a better position instead of fixing sexism? I sure hope not! Typically people who think that way are radfems. But it’s what you’re doing to trans men in conversations about transandrophobia right now, so I’ve gotta point this out.

And also, fixing sexism doesn’t magically fix transmisogyny or transandrophobia. Discarding either conversation to “just focus on sexism” will not be beneficial overall. Just a couple quick examples: even in places where abortion is fully legal trans men will still struggle to access it, even in places where cis women have full access to a space trans women will still struggle to access it.

We don’t need to have only one conversation. Conversations about sexism, transmisogyny, and transandrophobia have to exist in tandem with one another.

And I’m definitely bringing this back around to the fact that discarding other conversations to focus on “the only actual real problem” when that “only actual real problem” is sexism also rings a lot of radfem alarm bells in my head.

#my post #transandrophobia #transmisandry #anti-transmasculinity

[swordbeliever]

tried to vent in a trans space about how, as a trans man who’s been on T for a long time (over 7 years now), i have noticed that the more i pass as a man, the less welcomed i am in queer spaces unless i go out of my way to feminize myself. and how that sucks! and it’s isolating!!! and it feels horrible to see ppl who used to like you and be close to you drift further and further the more masculine (& therefore more comfortable in urself) u become…

only to get ppl replying to me and saying “well if you dressed more fem then ppl wouldn’t be intimidated by you. you signed up for this”

i’m sorry but i didnt sign up for social isolation when i transitioned, i signed up for gender euphoria and comfort in myself and my life. and i had hoped that the ppl in my life would be able to see how much joy that brings me and continue to love me.

#transandrophobia #transmisandry #idk what terms we’re using for it but. god #transmasc #my posts

[transmascissues]

the cis maternal urge to treat your trans son’s body like an extension of your own body, and to react to said trans son’s physical transition as if they might as well have just started hacking away at your own body with a rusty axe, really is something else.

my mom hasn’t seen my chest post-op at all because the idea of it is so awful to her that the one time we took my bandages off with her present, she ran across the hotel room to hide from it and started crying to my brother about it (yes, with actual tears). she drove an hour and a half with us at 5:30am to my post-op just to sit in the waiting room because she refused to come in and see me after the surgeon took the bandages off. my dad has been the only one helping me with recovery things like changing bandages and monitoring healing because she still won’t look at my chest.

and she says that’s because she loves me and cares about me. love is when you treat the body your child can finally live in comfortably like it’s your worst nightmare. apparently.

#top surgery adventures #transandrophobia #transandromisia #transmisandry #virilmisia #virilphobia #anti transmasculinity #transmascphobia #trans men #transmascs

[trans-androgyne]

To any trans man who needs to hear this: When they say they “hate all men” or want to “kill all men,” you don’t have to just accept that. It’s okay to feel hurt, it’s okay to feel unsafe. It’s okay to recognize that they are either othering your manhood or demonizing you for it, and to call them out for it if you’re in a position to. If they have trauma around men, they can work on that in private instead of expressing harmful sentiments around their marginalized male friends. You deserve love and safety. I love you and I hope I can help you feel safe.

#transmasc positivity #transgender #transmasc #trans man #transandrophobia #transmisandry #anti transmasculinity #ftm #mine

[just-your-average-tangerine]

Holy fucking shit queer people really fucking hate masculinity

Like, I know anyone following me has seen me talk about this shit but fuck

This queer movie review podcast is talking about 70s glam rock fashion (a favorite of mine) and the one host says "an effeminate man is his true self, because masculinity is fake, the only way to be real is to be feminine"

Like, what the fuck? First of all, way to discount generations of queer people, and displays of queer masculinity, great job. Second, tell me you've never spoken to a trans man or a butch or literally anyone who's ever been forced into a feminine social role or feminine presentation without telling me.

I hate how pervasive this attitude is. I hate how it makes it uncomfortable, at best, to exist in queer spaces as someone who is not, can not, and does not want to be sufficiently feminine.

#transandrophobia #anti trans masculinity #transmisandry #op

[a-faggot-with-opinions]

On my knees begging pleading for at least some of you all to understand that it's up to a trans man to define his own connection to womanhood or lack thereof and determine for himself whether or not he feels it is appropriate to define himself using traditionally female language and communities and whether or not he feels it's appropriate for him to be in a "woman's space." Some trans men aren't men. Some trans men are women. If you can't respect that, I don't trust you around trans men.

#star speaks #transandrophobia #transmisandry #anti transmasculinity

[bvshboy]

it's crazy to me how people now actually think it's progressive to sexually degrade random men by emasculating them and then further emasculate them if they dare to be uncomfortable with being sexually harrassed

#attictictic #transandrophobia #transmisandry #misandry #feminism

[genderkoolaid]

^^^^ never forget that butch history is also transmasculine history & anti-butchness is always anti-transmasculine

#m. #transandrophobia #transmisandry #anti transmasculinity

[aronarchy]

#trans men are not treated like cis men *or* cis women #they are treated as trans men #repost of someone else’s content #reddit repost #trans #transgender #trans man #transmasc #transmasculine #transandrophobia #transmisandry #anti-transmasculinity

[transvarmint]

The reason why you can't seperate our transness from our manhood is the exact same reason why transmisogyny is one word.

Its not just transphobia and misogyny. It's transmisogyny. The discrimination transfems face isn't discretely divided into 2 categories. Those experiences overlap in a way where you can't adequately address one without acknowledging the other. That's why it was crucial to come up with vocabulary to describe this intersection. To seperate them is to attempt to erase intersectionality.

In the same way, you can't adequately address the oppression transmascs face without addressing all aspects of our identity.

Manhood and/or masculinity in isolation may not be targeted by a specific axis of oppression; but when they intersect with a marginalized identity, they become a target for gendered violence. Because our manhood does not, and cannot, exist removed from the context of our transness and life experiences. That is the entire purpose of intersectionality.

To remove our manhood / masculinity from that equation is to refuse to view us holistically, and is an attempt to seperate us from our identity - exactly the same way transphobes do.

The term intersectionality was coined by Kimberlé Crenshaw, a black woman, who was pointing out that her various identities do not exist independently, rather, they inform each other, and create a convergence of social positions.

White feminists did not (and often still don't) acknowledge the ways that other axes of identity and oppression inform misogyny. They excluded women of color from the conversation because they did not want to discuss how racism intersects with misogyny. There was similar silencing of queer and disabled women, as well, for the same reason.

By telling us "it's because you're trans, not because you're men" you're just repeating history. The marginalization of non-hegemonic manhood and masculinity is a very real axis that must be addressed when discussing the oppression of trans men and transmascs - as well as other marginalized men.

If you refuse to hear about this aspect of our experience, our voices will never truly be heard. You are actively contributing to our erasure and to our continued harm.

I am a transgender man. I am a whole person. Treat me as such.

#transandrophobia #transmisandry #antitransmasculinity

[a-polite-melody]

Considering that there’s another post going around that lands on this conclusion, I think it deserves its own succinct post:

When transmascs share instances of positivity to remind each other that the way we are treated isn’t all bad, it’s then used as proof of the whole of transmasc experiences being this way, and that transmascs are not oppressed as a whole.

When transmascs share instances of harm done to transmascs to raise awareness that transmascs are harmed directly within our societies, it’s used as proof that we are taking up too much room in conversations because the harm we face “isn’t bad enough”.

When transmascs share instances of outright murder of members of our community to show that no, transmasc issues are not somehow “lesser” because “we aren’t dying” because we are dying, it’s used as proof that we are trauma dumping and trying to make other people feel sorry for us—look at these AFABs being whiny and hysterical and trying to portray themselves as victims. Or that it isn’t specific enough to us so we should shut up and let other people speak for us.

Transmascs cannot speak about our experiences without being touted as an example of why transmascs as a whole should shut up.

This is erasure.

#my post #noooo I didn’t just make this post because I don’t want to interact with that other post because of personal hangups that no one else #should have about the post. truly it’s entirely a Me and My Personal Situation thing #the post is fine #I just was a little frustrated about how much I wanted to reblog and also like #not interact with it at all at the same time #so I made this post #shhhhh #transandrophobia #transmisandry #anti-transmasculinity #erasure through silencing

[start-where-i-end]

Calling an adult trans man a boy (with any variation, e.g. "tboy") is something close to misgendering - it's an act of denying manhood.

The word and the concept of a boy have strong connotations of incompletes and inferiority, rooted in the times where boys, girls, and women alike were equally non-citizens.

This approach by itself needs to be challenged, and actual boys deserve better too. But before "boy" and "man" are treated as equally full and worthy forms of male gender, calling a trans man you dislike a "boy" is transphobic.

Before this is taken out of context - it's okay to call yourself a boy as a personal means of identification. This is not about that.

#transandrophobia #transmisandry

[transmascissues]

pinnochio! 🫵🤣 you will never be a real boy!

i mean pinnochio did become a real boy. that was a pretty significant part of the story. i understand that you’re just being transphobic but pinnochio did very much become a real boy.

#this is so silly to me on so many levels. like how did you expect me to be genuinely hurt by this #anon hate #examples of transandrophobia #transandrophobia #transandromisia #transmisandry #virilmisia #virilphobia #anti transmasculinity #transmascphobia

[trans-androgyne]

This Trans Day of Visibility, please remember your hyperinvisible transmasc siblings and recognize that their invisibility is a problem, not a privilege. Everyone deserves to be seen and respected for who they are and to have their voices heard. Uplift those whose identities are chronically erased, including but not limited to the transmasculine community. Spotlight transmascs of color and those with other intersecting marginalized identities. There is so much more transmasc art, history, and media representation than you know about. I hope you can see us and our diverse community through it.

#transmasc positivity #trans day of visibility #tdov #tdov 2024 #transmasc #trans man #transandrophobia #transmisandry #anti transmasculinity #mine

[bluevii]

person that has never interacted with a trans man in their life: the only reason trans men want to transition is to gain male privilege and take the easy way out, there is no other possible reason. they complain because they're salty they don't get the privilege they think they're entitled to, but also because they aren't seen as uwu soft boys anymore.

#transmisandry #transandrophobia #myother

[ftmtftm]

people who derail trans men's conversations about their own oppression with "well trans women have it worse than you" are the "but there's starving children in Africa" of the trans community

#original post #transandrophobia #transmisandry