#you will get SO MANY GODDAMN PEOPLE TO COME

[localfuckeryinc]

tgey should make another scream movie and put taylor swift in it. as the first kill

#scream #cmon. dont be a pussy about it #i want FULL drew berrymore treatment #plaster her face over all the posters and promotional material #make fake scenes with her in them for the trailer #you will get SO MANY GODDAMN PEOPLE TO COME #then kill her in the first ten minutes #she fufills the 'pretty white blonde girl' first kill for scream movies #PLEASE

[queen0fm0nsterz]

Reading my fave thin man and lady fic. Kicking my feet a lot because tbh. Sometimes a sad man really is just a weird woman's science project in a way that is so homoerotic

#carols.txt #when i tell you i've been re-reading this single one shot religiously every single month for almost three years I mean it #《straight》 ship so good we call it queerbaiting #LMAOOOOOO #call it yaoyuri the way these old people r tragic and doomed by the narrative or whatever #listen as a bi person on the aroace spectrum whatever this fic was trying to convey really strikes a cord #while its not the same as my own this characterization of them is so intriguing. im so hooked on it #^^ one thing i think this person really nailed was thin man's immaturity (stemming from his emotions oftentime being too big to control) -> #and the desire of attention that comes with said immaturity while also having the lady be both cold (normal) and intrigued in a way that -> #that really fits her character. curiosity is one of the many facets that make up her character that don't get explored much and i think its #done so well here for like no reason💀 THIS AUTHOR COOKED TOO HARD YOU GUYS #like ofc she wouldnt send him away. shes studying him under a microscope. even though hes annoying as hell #thin man is plagued by sassy man syndrome in this which is really fucking funny cus it lasts a total of 3 seconds before she finds him out #PLUS THE TALK ABOUT THE TOWER AND THE WORLD... AUGHHH #i need this author to give me their brain NOW #AUGHHHHHAAGGGHEEHH #everyone needs to start doing thinlady the way this person was doing it #this is the biblically accurate old people (in case my theory abt baby lady having been in the pale city is wrong) #live laugh love. its my birthday. spoiling myself a bit. goddamn.

[sweetshire]

So, @silv-paru sent Sherlock Holmes for the character opinion bingo. thanks a bunch for this (and for your patience. my god, i’m answering this a week late. typical me behaviour). you’re a darling :D

Did you know, i used to tell these stories to my friends? they delighted in them AND i got a chance to sort of ramble on and on abt him and watson. it was a win-win, really. ah, those were the days! now i haven’t reblogged much of him this month at all. i miss him. I MISS HIM.

Onto the bingo: well. he’s The quintessence of gender™ to me. and i relate to him so so much. fav character of all time fr. i want to carry him in my pocket at all times & study him. like. do i want to BE him OR am i IN LOVE with him, ykwim? pssh who knows? certainly not me. uh-huh ‘a beast unleashed’ -does this refer to me or him? you choose. oh re: canon, i’m ignoring the part where holmes dies (or y’know, is dead for 3 years). that’s too angsty.

#sherlock holmes #my dearest blorbo #he’s my belovedest chewtoy basically #if i think abt how modern adaptations *looking at you bbc sherlock* have ruined his character i get so angry i have to take deep breaths #*mutters darkly* he is NOT an arrogant cold-hearted bitch like he’s portrayed; well he IS a bitch but not a cold-hearted one!! #see. the thing abt holmes is that he’s SUCH a sweet boy okay. and he’s compassionate #he cares sooo much. that’s the reason people come to him when they’re distressed. they trust him #he hates the police. he is a jester at heart. loves his watson #he’s here to help the truly desparate helpless people even if they have no money to pay him for the case. no questions asked. But- #he fucking despises obnoxious rich men. the first time he meets watson a total stranger he *very excitedly* tells him abt his experiment #it’s very adorable. he never stops trying to impress ever. infact blushes furiously when complimented by him #my guy has 0 knowledge of our solar system but he’s written several monographs abt different types of ASHES. go figure! #OH i almost forgot the most important fact he’s special to me bc holmes is an audhd gay disaster bastard. sometimes he’s even bisexual #but mostly he’s acespec and in a qpr w watson. he’s VERY adhd. behaves like an excited cat and oh so cute when he stims. everytime he does #i go SQUEEE. when he’s depressed it’s a goddamn hashtag big mood. as in many other ways he is me i am him #he’s PASSIONATE and KIND that’s all you need to know #acd stories are about just some guy who loves his job (which he invented himself btw after quitting college) that’s it #i am overcome with an almighty need to squeeze his cheeks #he’s everything to me <3 #alright if i don’t stop now i doubt i ever will LMAO bye #acd holmes #if u read till the end u get a cookie and a kiss on the nose i love u #silv tag 💞

[reasoncourt]

i just don’t think people who say taylor swift isn’t talented are serious people. like you can argue that she got to where she is because of her parent’s money and her white privilege etc. that’s totally true. and you can argue that there are many super talented artists who remain in obscurity for their whole career despite being absolutely way ahead of the game and more deserving of worldwide renown. all that can be true. and it’s worth having discourse about. but you lose me when you point to someone who is so clearly talented and say “she’s mediocre”. because she is obviously not mediocre. like idk. it just bugs me. because i think there are so many valid criticisms to make about people like taylor swift but it gets goofy when you call her talent into question

#i’m getting goofy in my taylor swift defence era #but tbf #like everything else u can criticise absolutely #but why does everyone get stuck on questioning talent #like it’s just. stupid #argue about her politics or her climate inaction or her devotion to capitalism #like whatever #but girl clearly has talent cmon #you aren’t that popular for that long and make that many pivots in your music if you don’t have talent #is she the most creative musician around? no. is she an innovator in the music space? no. #but there are many facets of talent when it comes to artists/performers #and she obviously has her finger on the pulse and can write a goddamn song #and her concerts are unforgettable even if ur not a fan #like idk. i just think people lack nuance in their discussion of her #and it frustrates me cause like #i agree with u until u get goofy and obviously just hate her #THERE ARE SO MANY GOOD POINTS TO MAKE so why aren’t you making them

[twistedappletree]

lmao so i think the other girl working for my client is about to get fired for trauma dumping and making out of pocket passive aggressive comments constantly akdnakjds why can’t anyone just be fucking N O R M A L

**also pls excuse the typos in my tags omfg i’m so annoyed that i can’t type ahahahHAHAHA

#IM NOT EVEN JIRNAL BUT LIKE #AT PEAST JORNAL ENOUGH TO WORK THIS JOB #THATS LITERALLY THE EASIEST FUCKING JOB IN EXISTENCE #i don’t get it???? would you rather work in fucking retail making $7-12/hr #or make $50/hr walking dogs and running light errands that don’t even take up the whole day #so you have the entire afternoon and evening to do whatever tf you want #also #DONT TRAUMA DUMP ON PPL EAPECIALLY WHEN THEYRE PERMANENTLY DISABLED #JFC #people are so fucking selfish and weird and incapable of doing literally anything ever i’m so FLABBERGASTED #by the goddamn attitudes of the people coming thru working for my client #she’s literally the nicest person ever and they’re all so fucking????? miserable and jealous and have SO much hate and anger in them #it’s always the good people who attract these pieces of shit is2g 😑 #apple babble 🍎 #non fandom #jfc never in my LIFE have i ever encountered so many people who are just #totally incompetent #this isn’t even a ‘nobody wants to work’ thing bc i’m an anarchist & of course i get that #but this isn’t a corporate job #it’s just a pure cash hustle where you play with puppies & get to listen to music all day while shopping #lmFAO #PLS EXPLAIN TO ME WHATS SO TERRIBLE ABOUT THAT #HOW IS THIS JOB HARD PLS FILL ME IN #BC I DONT FUCKING UNDERSTAND #FFFFFF #and i hope my client at least doesn’t fire her before this next weekend #bc i have plans with a new friend and i rlly do t wanna cancel 😭 #NORMAL NOT JIRLMAL #OR WHATEVER #i don’t have autocorrect on and i can’t type for shit sorry

[spaceshipkat]

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#anyone have the mommy issues where you’re constantly compared to your mom in a negative way #i raise my voice oh im just like your wife #i get frustrated oh im just like your wife #i get upset bc i do the very thing you’re asking for and /you don’t seem to fucking see it: and im just like your wife #how many times do i have to say ‘i am not mom’ before you fucking GET IT #i know where my mom is coming from when she talks to my dad #i don’t like it but i literally cannot change it #i know where my dad is coming from with how he behaves and talks to my mom #i also don’t like it but i cannot fucking change it #i am so tired of making an effort—what was once a conscious effort but now comes pretty damn easily #only for that effort to NOT exist the split second he gets upset #because what he envisioned us doing isn’t what happened #so instead of taking about it like an adult you fucking fester in your feelings and then dump on the very people #who are fucking TRYING to have a relationship with you #it’s a goddamn self fulfilling prophecy and i am sick of it. i am sick of constantly having to massage feelings. #i am especially sick of going to bed upset because i feel empathy for what he’s going through #and my best is apparently /not enough/ to make a dent #i am so sick of crying over this goddamn motherfucking shit #i want it to fuckijg stop i want fucking peace and quiet #and for that peace and quiet to not be tangled with worry because i am not there when i might be needed #is this part of being an eldest daughter i don’t fucking know #i am just so tired of my efforts not being seen. of them not making a difference. of them apparently not fucking mattering. #ignore me ill be fine i am just so fucking tired #i want to go to bed without guilt or empathy making it impossible to turn my head off #delete later

[act-more-like-a-dog-sirius]

I swear to god it is impossible to exist for more than 3 consecutive minutes in this fandom these days without wanting to murder someone

#Where the actual gaddamn motherfuck is the reading comprehension #Where do y’all even come up with All these bad takes?!?? #Did people even read the books?!? #Do people even know how to read period?!?!! #Jesus fucking christ #no #I can’t even get into it there are too many instances that make me want to commit violence #but for fucks goddamn fucking sake #Holy shit this fandom is so so so so so unbelievably disgustingly pathetically WRONG #Please people please I am begging you to reread canon and to develop some reading comprehension #And for the love of god please #Please stop trying to say that just because you don’t like something in canon it’s toxic or homophobic or the author being a shitbag terf #I’m not defending jkr #but for fucks sake just because you personally don’t like a portion of canon does not make it intrinsically homophobic or transphobic #Honestly #Don’t come at me looking for a fight you will be blocked #I hate this fandom so fucking much

[miraculouslumination]

"Omg I can't stand when people try to use the intersectional feminist argument to include men. Like when they ask if a homeless man can be misogynistic to a rich woman. I'm just worried for the (poor helpless weak females) homeless women AROUND him!!"

So you just suck at intersectional feminism. Okay.

#Jean rambles #The bioessentialism. The genderessentialism. Y'all are so close to getting the point #Like. Sure okay let's look at a homeless encampment that has men and women (and for the sake of argument - no genderqueer people of any kind #On a purely gender basis yeah sure there are risks for misogyny #But what about the racial aspects of the encampment. What about the religious aspects. Hell what about the economic aspects #What about disability - physical or otherwise - aspects. What about age aspects. What about family aspects. #There are SO many goddamn aspects to look at in just this one hypothetical homeless encampment #That can determine and influence how people there interact with each other #Especially given outside influences such as police and civilians #If you only focus on the most cis-centric gender binary perspective of this hypothetical homeless encampment #Then you just suck at intersectional feminism. I'm sorry but you do. You just suck at it #Get better and do better before thinking you can pull a seat up to this table #And yeah. Obviously these different aspects can fall on the women too #A homeless muslim woman is highly likely to experience a tougher time than a homeless white christian man #But then the homeless latino man with a physical disability is highly likely to have a tougher time than a homeless white woman with- #No disability at all #It's not about who is more oppressed or any of that shit #It's looking at all the pieces that make up a whole and seeing the issues that can come from some of those pieces #One of the biggest points of intersectional feminism is to not make the oppression olympics #It's to give a voice and a name to the tool that's being used to beat countless of us into the dirt

[constantvariations]

Adam was a cringy edgelord ever since the trailers, he simply got worse in different ways later on

How can people even like that character is beyond me

It's called "seeing the potential in a character that the writers fucked over from the start because they couldn't give the racism plot they started and refused to drop any nuance or compassion thanks to their 'violence is uwu bad' white supremacist politics"

Also, cringe edgelord is not inheritely a bad thing. Just look at Shadow the Hedgehog - he's cooler than you or I will ever be. Or my current hyperfixation husband V from Devil May Cry, who is 100% a cringe edgelord and I love him for that specifically

Kill not the cringe but the part of you that cringes and you will know freedom

#rwde #exactly what is the purpose of you sending this to me? #do i look like a confessional to you? #what even is the point of going up to strangers and declaring an opinion? #'ugh i hate the color green' cool. didnt ask buttface #and coming to me - a doylist analyst - w subjective shit is 100% a recipe for disaster #did you expect me to forget that the same guys who gave the face of the racism plot a LITERAL FUCKING BRAND #ON HIS FUCKING FACE #are the exact same people who were chill w calling their coworkers slurs? even modifying them to be said on air in a cutesy manner? #you really expect me to forget that these chucklefucks laugh abt stalking women from their cars #are the same ones who continually fridge or underwrite the female characters to spotlight the men? #and then have to backtrack bc this is supposed to be a ☆~female empowerment~☆ show? #do you expect me to forget how they have fucked over every character with trauma #traumas that thousands if not millions of people deal w every goddamn day #traumas like abandonment. dismemberment. alcoholism. ptsd. poverty. starvation. prolonged isolation. suicidal ideation #every character that dared to not be sunshine Sally was killed off or written out or harassed into silence #there are so many more things i can say here but if you don't get the point i will gladly find you for an in person lecture #it will be 15 hours w only 1 bathroom break so think wisely before committing #either way fuck off w your flaccid opinions that a monkey on a typewriter would send off in less than 5 minutes #say something interesting or shut the fuck up #anon hours

[foxpunk]

okay i love that you made a haurchefant lives au where he survives the unsurvivable unhealable attack. genuinely i love to see it, i love him and miss him and think the "if he lived it would ruin the timeline" thing is stupid as hell. (like, narratively i had made peace with his death, that part is as okay as it can be to me, but then they come up with this cop out "no fun allowed, he Has to die" bullshit come ON thats stupid AND defeats the true tragedy of his death shut UP.)

anyways, thats beside the point, my real question is why is he never disabled though (an obvious question with an obvious answer, but so many people do not even bother asking lmao). like. in these aus i see him either miraculously fully healed or with a bitchin scar. and that scar is oftentimes huge and RIGHT over his spine??? hello. why is he never disabled. why does that seem like a fate as bad as or worse than death to so many of you.

#anyways wheelchair user haurchefant means everything to me #him struggling with Becoming Disabled (cause its a different experience when its through an injury yknow) #but coming out the other end of that struggle in such a decidedly Haurchefant way #him being a core element in establishing a PT service in ishgard #him giving feedback to the skysteel manufactory about the wheelchair(s. plural) they build him to improve the design #him getting even more jacked arma because goddamn ishgard may have a lot of ramps but they are WAY too steep- #-no wonder so many disabled people live on the lowest levels in the brume they have no choice! #him championing construction efforts for lifts and gentler slopes #also you cannot tell me he would not invent wheelchair jousting #the man may have to sit the rest of his life but he certainly isnt sitting still #also crucially he is just as down bad as ever before we do not santize or infantilize disabled people in my house!!! #ky speaks #also if you make him ambulatory my friend bee said edmont would Definitely gift him a matching cane and i *sobs* OTL #thats if though. i like both non-ambulatory and ambulatory wheelchair user haurch

[dismalzelenka]

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#today i had a pianist during a rehearsal go “wow your voice you just have so much natural talent i mean some people really work for years—” #and i kinda snapped #and i was polite but also i unloaded the entire story of the last thirteen years in the cosmic joke that is my life #this lady got thirteen years of trauma in a twenty minute speed run #she Learned Things today about existential despair and the societal clusterfuck that is the Trans Experience #and how that intersects in the classical singing world in an incredibly challenging and fucked up way #and how i went from scooting under the door into a voice program with seven lessons under me #and then three years later proceeded to fling myself into a testosterone fueled vocal puberty in the midst of a professional singing degree #and lost the respect and support of most of the vocal and choir faculty because everyone thought i was committing professional suicide #if it werent for my own voice teacher (who at some point became the mother figure I'd never had) keeping me afloat i would not be here #i have c-ptsd from the shit i went through in the choir department #i had to drop out of school for a semester because my body just folded under the stress #i started getting migraines severe enough i was hospitalized twice with stroke-like symptoms #two weeks ago i had a former teacher from the early days deadname me in front of our colleagues #she tried to play it off as no big deal and it just reminded me no matter how successful i become in this field #no matter how much work i put in to overcome my past #its always going to come back and find me through people who refuse to learn respect #and somehow! im still here! im making a living in the field i trained for #how many people in my generation in the arts degree sector can say that?? by some metrics i am thriving but jesus goddamn #i clawed and fought and bit and dragged myself to where i am right now and had to find my voice TWICE and the worst part is #she meant well #the pianist i mean #and i was polite when i told my story but it was so important to me that she understood #no amount of talent would have gotten me here without sleepless nights and long hours and blood and sweat and tears and you know what #maybe i am a better person for it but dont compliment me by implying i have some inherent gift from a god i dont even believe in #dont tell me your god put me in this place to teach other people compassion #i didnt brush the door of death as many times as i did for the sake of someone else's enlightenment #its been a long 13 years. hell its been a long 2023. in the last eleven months ive had a fundamental upheaval #of everything i thought i knew and understood about myself #so yea im standing at the gate to hell looking the devil in the eye. try me bitch. ive endured worse.

[apollos-boyfriend]

i keep seeing people making fun of random cars they find parked places just because they’re covered in completely innocent anime stickers?? nothing inappropriate, just stickers of characters from popular/mainstream anime because it’s fun to shit on what’s popular, i guess. as long as the owner is happy why do you care what stickers they have. as long as it’s not harming anyone why are you so pressed over it. grow up.

#icarus speaks #they act like it’s a crime to have genshin impact stickers on your windows 😭 #not every weeb is the guy at my college that owns the hentai-covered car #(a large amount characters on it being minors) #that deliberately parks right in front of the security cameras so no one can fuck with it without getting caught #unless you come across that guy leave the poor owner alone goddamn 😭 #when i say covered i mean like LITERALLY covered #you cannot see the front nor back of his car. it’s just stickers. #there’s so many i think he’s on his second layer by this point. they overlap each other so much #these people are literally fine. they’re just having fun. chill

[actual-corpse]

Why am I, the Woman, villanized?

I'm a full-time student, and I work 30 hours a week (that's 6 hours short of full-time), and yet, I can't sit and relax without someone huffing and puffing about something being dirty.

I'm not the one who fills the sink.

I'm not the one who fills the trash.

I'm not the one who leaves my dirty clothes all over the bathroom floor (and those clothes fucking stink... They smell worse than the literal boxes of cat shit that sit in the same room)

I'm not the one that hogs the clothes machines for DAYS at a time because I can't be arsed to move them.

There are two cats. One isn't mine, but I am the one caring for both cats full time. Emptying the boxes, buying and administering the flea meds, cleaning and filling water/food bowls.

I'm afraid to start a video game. 1. Because nobody can fucking respect that I'm trying to enjoy something and 2. Because when the dishes pile up in the sink, I'm the one stuck dealing with it.

There are fast food cups rotting in the bedroom because I am not cleaning up after a grown-ass man (they've been accumulating since we broke up (August))

There is shit accumulating on the table.

I will move out when the lease is up. And when I do, I hope these boys fucking suffer as they realize they ran off one of the most patient women they'll ever find.

#im mouthy sure #but im pretty patient #i can think of so many people who would've already left #or just stopped picking up after them #i hate this fucking country #because I SHOULD be able to live independently like the adults my age did 20 years ago #i feel like a prisoner #unfortunately women shoulder an immense emotional burden that men dont fucking understand #and that burden is DRAINING #its hard to work a job that drains you and then come home to man-children who drain you #i just wanna live alone in a one room one bathroom hole with a veiw #WALGREENS KEEPS PROCESSING MY FUCKING REFILL BUT NEVER ACTUALLY FILL IT #FUCK #god damn groundskeeper makes hos job harder on himself by pointing the blower into the corner and blowing debris into the apartment #fucking roomate who doesn't fucking understand how fucking doors work tries to tell me im wrong #THERES A GAP IN THE DOOR WHERE THE FUCKING BUGS GET IN THIS PLACE WAS BUILT CHEAP #I FUCKING HATE HOW INCOMPETENT SOME MEN ARE and they like to act so smart #AND THEY FUCKING MAKE SNIDE REMARKS ABOUT YOUR AGGRAVATION but YOU cant do it back #Most of the men Ive met are so GODDAMN SELFISH #i wish my mom would let me be gay. Not only do I want to try it but also... women have a tenderness that most men lack #im so fucking tired #and fucking annoyed #i cant do my fucking laundry #yeah the washer is available but I cant dry the clothes. and leaving the damp clothes in the washer is fucking stupid #thats how you get mildew stink #can you guys hope i get the LBL internship? 🙏 #it provides money and lodging (and experience lol) and its IN THE WOODS THE FUCKING NATIONAL PARK YALL #LBL is Land Between the Lakes National Park in KY and I wanna be there #Id actually like to work there too ngl #in the nature

[fingertipsmp3]

In some other news I found a cheap flight to Seattle but I don’t even know if my friend wants me to visit anymore lol

#i did the google flights/destination: anywhere hack #and look i wouldn’t say ‘cheap’ but it’s half what i paid last august #but the thing is she like. never answers my messages anymore. well she answers but like a week has passed and she either doesn’t apologise #or has a feeble reason. and like… we all have lives; you don’t have to justify yourself to me #but i see you online all the goddamn time lol.. posting everywhere and not responding to me specifically #like no one has to be available to me 24/7. at all ever #ignore me for days; by all means #but it is a little wild to be ignored for legit like 10 days and i can see her on instagram; facebook; tiktok the whole time #like if you don’t want to be friends anymore just SAY THAT. and i don’t get why she wouldn’t say it?? i know she’s broken friendships #with people before and been upfront about it. and i think i have said before like.. if you don’t like me anymore just say that #but then when she does message me it’s ‘omg i miss you sooooo much’ but not enough to respond to me #you could read messages from me everyday if you wanted #like i feel like we’re drifting apart really bad. like there’s so much i haven’t told her and i know she hasn’t told me anything either #i don’t know if it’s because of her partner. she lives with them now and i don’t know if maybe they don’t like me and would never want me #visiting if it meant i would be in the same apartment. so maybe she’s just trying to ghost me so i won’t come #or she’s busy with her partner all the time and is forgetting about her friends? i just never thought she’d be one of those people #i have been ditched by friends so they could hang out with their SOs instead sooo many times but i never thought she’d do it to me lol #like she was the friend who had me riding shotgun while her boyfriend sat in the back. y’know? #maybe i’ll just save my money and go to amsterdam instead lol. i can use the money i would’ve spent on american flights #to have a really nice trip and maybe land a dutch boyfriend or girlfriend who i can ignore all my friends in favour of #because fuck it. i feel like it’s my turn now. isn’t it?? people have legit made out in front of me lol 🤪 #personal

[foxxsong]

I get not understanding neopronouns. I totally understand if people with developmental or intellectual disorders need to avoid people that use them because they can't wrap their brain around them enough to use them right or find having to think about them long enough to use the right one, when they very literally are incapable of understanding, distressing. Competing access needs are a morally neutral thing that I will never judge anyone for.

But to go on to talk about how despite this you respect neopronouns EXCEPT (plain text: except) it/its? If you feel the need to clarify that you don't have an issue with most of them, but want to single people like me out specifically? Trauma is understandable, and I know people with those disorders are in particular susceptible to being referred to that way cruelly, but you can just... not mention us.

Literally everything they shared was FINE (plain: fine) up to that point. But singling us out and saying you'll never respect our pronouns specifically - when you could've just not mentioned us at all - does in fact make you an asshole. Having trauma and saying that people that identify with something that was used to hurt you means you don't have to respect them makes you an asshole. Just don't fucking mention us and avoid us like you JUST (plain: just) said you can do fine with every other neopronoun user. You do not have to sit there and list off all the reasons you will never respect us specifically!!

I/DD people have so many limitations that most people just refuse to try to understand and take seriously. If someone struggles to not talk badly about things they find upsetting or confusing because of having an I/DD then that's one thing. People upset by it can block and move on because harassing someone who cannot change is cruel. But you don't get to demonstrate and self-proclaim that you CAN (plain: can) respect and avoid and move on for other people and then turn around and go out of your way to single a specific group out and talk about how horrible their identity is and act like that's somehow acceptable.

Literally, just shut up and do not talk about us. We KNOW (plain: know) people hate our pronouns. We KNOW (plain: know) there are people who do not respect our choice to use them. We KNOW (plain: know) there are people who will just never call us by them no matter what. We don't need people fucking going out of their way to single us out while defending how they respect everyone else like us. That makes you an asshole.

#like... i know each person is unique in the severity and manifestation of their disorder #but i have the same developmental disorder they said they do!!! #and i know people can seem fine in certain areas and really struggle with others but they had just demonstrated in the exact same ask #that they are indeed capable of doing the right thing and removing themself from people they aren't compatible with #it was just straight up them feeling the need to target us because so many people feel like we're an acceptable target #and no one fucking defends us #the notes of that post was FILLED with people saying they relate and reassuring them that their limitations don't make them a bad person #(hell i even struggle similarly with certain types of neopronouns but I'm not gonna fucking single them out and insult them) #and not a single goddamn person said anything at all about their mini-rant on how we don't deserve respect #because people don't think we deserve respect #fuck man my own gender-positive friends still think it's okay to come to me and ask for forgiveness so they don't have to feel bad #for “not wanting to dehumanize” me or “feel like they're insulting” me or what have you #(despite the fact that one of their parents who's never so much as spoken to me through them is fine with it) #and i can't even tell them to get over themselves because my pronouns are about me not them #because no one would back me up on that for these pronouns specifically #any other pronouns and it wouldn't be an issue there'd be no way anyone else would let that fly #but people act like it/its is so uniquely awful that it's unfair to expect other people to respect them #so I have to comfort them and reassure them that i understand and they can just use something else :) #because it/its users aren't allowed to assert the same fucking rights as other trans people even in trans circles #and no one cares if we feel ostracized since that just means they don't have to acknowledge us #(also it's my first time trying to do plain text id stuff please lmk if there's anything i could do better)

[absentlyabbie]

i'll tell you what converted me to being all-in on keeping cats indoors only:

living for a year and a half in a rural area with a sudden feral cat colony explosion on the property.

i moved in with my folks for a bit and at that time, one (1) stray cat mama had taken up residence on the property, but was too feral to let my mother anywhere near her. but especially after she brought three kittens around, mom fed her and the kittens in hopes they'd grow trusting enough she could catch for spay and neuter at the minimum. momcat stayed mean and hella wary, but the kittens would hang around a little nearer and play with my mom via long stick, but still wouldn't come close enough to touch or catch.

unfortunately, two of the three kittens were girls and started having kittens of their own before further progress was made, shortly after i moved in. and that was pretty much instant doom.

there were so many kittens. SO MANY. multiple litters. every time we turned around, more kittens.

we fed them. we hunted for and located the kittens every time anywhere on the property and would move them to a repurposed doghouse anytime a mama cat had them somewhere else, so that they could grow up human-socialized and we could spay/neuter them when they were old enough. (also it was a handy tactic to push the issue of the mamas getting more used to/trusting of us themselves. only really worked with one of them, though.)

and we watched them die.

we watched litter after litter of kittens never make it to the age they could be spayed or neutered. the moms stayed, for the longest time, too skittish to more than briefly touch, much less catch and crate for a vet visit.

it sounds like a silly joke to say i have kitten-related ptsd, but i absolutely do.

too many goddamn times i'd walk out of the garage and find the carport and gravel drive strewn with tiny bodies. others simply went missing, never to be found.

one in particular, i wish i hadn't found, and the visual literally haunts me still, almost a decade later.

i saw so many kittens die of snake bite, spider bite, wild dogs, birds of prey, hit by cars, respiratory illness, covered in fleas and eyes crusted with infection.

and we loved them all. scrimped for antibiotics if the vet could be convinced to give it to us despite our being unable to bring them in. bought flea collars and ointments. we cared for them and fed them and petted them and played with them, brushed their fur and cleaned up their little faces, put ice in their water in hot summer, rigged a heating lamp in their house in the winter.

and they died. horribly. that property is pocked with unmarked graves of kittens and cats.

all the best intentions, not enough resources, and it didn't matter anyways because the population went from three to almost twenty (at times, over thirty) in the blink of an eye.

they died and died and died. our hearts broke over and over again. the stress and anxiety wore us down like sandpaper. i think, by the end of it all, we managed to find less than 10 of them all homes, including batman the disabled kitten i found a home across the country through tumblr.

it was carnage and tragedy, frankly. and we were helpless.

it only ended because they started dying faster than they could be born, and because we finally caught the two remaining mom cats in traps and got them spayed.

the points about outdoor cats being invasive predators devastating to local wildlife populations is true and valid and important.

but i know cat people, and cat people who don't know better than to let cats outdoors. what matters to you is the cat itself, generally. the cat being happy and taken care of.

keeping cats outdoors, letting them outdoors, is not taking care of the cats. it's not protecting them. it's not giving them any happiness or invigoration that couldn't be provided to them as indoor-only pets with just a little research and effort.

they die. they get ill. they get hurt. they're at risk of predators, and cars, and disease, and carelessly cruel children and deliberately cruel adults. they're at risk of disappearing on you because someone else saw a cat outdoors and intervened to give it a better, safer life not in conflict with the local environment.

and if that offends and angers you that someone would just take a cat they saw roaming outdoors, even collared, and that it sounds like i'm endorsing that, i am, but not if you intervene and be that person yourself for your own cat.

if what matters to you is doing right by your cat because it's family and a living creature whose happiness and health and safety is important to you,

keep them indoors. not part time. always. exclusively.

edit: since apparently i need to clarify this, i'm saying cats should live inside, that they should not live outdoors, even part time. visiting the outdoors supervised on a leash or in an enclosed catio is not the same as even part-time living outside, and i am certainly not advocating against it.

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