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"Saw traps for people with moral OCD" is a phrase that has embedded myself into my brain because, well, Saw traps for people with moral OCD are everywhere.

Stuff that basically amounts to...

"You have to listen to my opinions on [issue], or else you don't care about [issue]. (Constantly talks about how people like you are the absolute worst.)"

Anything that's functionally like, "you have to let me tear you down over things you can't control or you're a bad person."

Anything that's functionally like, "you have to let me vent to you whenever and however I want or else you're a bad person."

"If you enjoy X media/trope, you just hate Y people."

"Everyone knows that X thing is harmful/hateful; if you engaged in it, it's just because you were fine with perpetuating hate/harm."

"You should have just known better/should know this already!"

This thread over here talks about the inherent issues of putting this kind of stuff out there. The TL;DR is that it really only works on people who are mentally unwell and have poor boundaries, while just pissing off everyone else. It really doesn't matter if you're technically correct; you're still attacking people, and that means they're not wrong to block you.

I think that many of these Saw traps are created when people effectively write posts directed toward people who don't want to help, rather than the ones who do. Like, if you catch yourself writing an angry, shame-laden post, ask yourself: who are you writing it for and what are the odds you're going to change their minds? If your mental image is some smug fuck or angry reactionary, you're writing for the wrong person. Write for the person who's curious, who's willing to learn.

Also? Work on figuring out how to transmute negative feelings into positive, encouraging rhetoric. EG:

"Why is there no X positivity?" -> "Let's hear it for X!"

"No one cares about Y problem!" -> "Hey, we need more recognition of Y problem" or "I haven't seen many people talking about Y problem, so here's some info on what's up."

"If you don't reblog this, you don't care about [group]" -> "Please reblog this, it would mean a lot for us [group]."

And if you're really super duper frustrated and want to vent with a lot of nasty words and sentiments? Consider taking it to a private vent channel or a journal or somewhere that a stranger with moral OCD/scrupulosity isn't likely to run across it.

Remember, most people don't want to hurt anyone. More people are ignorant than malicious. People naturally want to do the right thing, so if you feel like you have to guilt them or shame them into it, there's probably a fundamental communication issue somewhere, or they simply lack the context to understand why what you're saying is so important.

#social justice

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Murderbot absolutely does the superhero landings it's seen in its shows, inorganic joints for the win.

[ID a greyscale digital sketch of Murderbot wearing a jumper and soft trousers, landing in a superhero pose with its right leg bent, left leg extended, left hand on the floor and right arm raised behind it with its energy weapon out and firing. Its inorganic feet are quite birdlike and its eyes glow red. Its short hair and the strings of its jumper are raised to indicate it has fallen before landing]

#the murderbot diaries

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falin ✦

#dungeon meshi

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hey, i know i’ve not been around much, so i feel like, awkward about asking for mutual aid in light of that, but i’m in a bit of a bind

due to circumstances beyond my control, in July, i’ll be losing a source of monthly income amounting to about £200. this is a huge problem since my income from benefits is barely adequate as is and cost of living keeps rising.

while ideally i’d set the goal at £1200 to cover the loss for at least the rest of the year, that seems like too much to ask rn.

so i’m not setting a goal for now. but … i really need help affording bills. i’ve suspended my efforts to boost the GFM for new furniture in light of more pressing bills.

i’ve cut down my expenses as much as i can. i already can barely afford to eat and due to my limited mobility, food pantries aren’t really an option.

links to send £££:

#signal boost

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"low support needs disabled people are often not believed to have a disability at all and therefore struggle to get accommodations."

"high support needs disabled people's accommodations are often seen as 'too much' and therefore are not met."

"neurodivergent people's needs are often dismissed because nothing is physically wrong with them."

"physically disabled people people often cannot physically access buildings and people refuse to do anything about it."

"invisibly disabled people are seen as lazy by society."

"visibly disabled people are ostracized from society."

IT'S ALMOST LIKE THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS A SOCIALLY ACCEPTABLE DISABILITY

#social justice #ableism discussion

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the arc of the universe is long but it bends towards crabs

#crab

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I have a drawer that is equally for cheese and deli meats. The deli drawer.

Things I’m learning about All For the Game fans: a lot of y’all didn’t grow up with a cheese drawer in your fridge and it shows

#food #poll madness #it also seems like a reasonable location for tofu and similar

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✧ Lambda Serpentis ✧

#snakes

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Fluorite and Quartz - William Wise Mine, Westmoreland, Cheshire County, New Hampshire

#rocks

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Rainbow Fluorite - Bergmännisch Glück Mine, Frohnau, Erzgebirge, Saxony, Germany

#rocks

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Fluorite - Muzquiz, Mexico

#rocks

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Fluorite - Clara Mine, Wolfach, Black Forest, Baden-Württemberg, Germany

#rocks

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just Slightly late for his bday my bad.... paint over the Re-Animator poster thang. Happy 11th Birthday Wilson Dont Starve🎉

#don't starve #wilson p higgsbury #maxwell carter

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Black Plume Agate - Marfa, Texas

#rocks

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Quartz With Hydrocarbon Inclusions - Jinkouhe, Sichuan Province, China

#rocks

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murderbot.

#the murderbot diaries