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[csuitebitches]

Update : Hyperlinks Issue

a lot of you have complained about my links not working. I tried to figure the issue out, but to no avail. I’m going to have to make the master list again. There seems to be no other solution - I’ll have to go through all my posts and start the work of hyperlinking everything.

it’s going to be quite a lot of work, and it’ll take a lot of time from my end. I’ll try to wrap it up as quickly as possible.

till then be patient folks! 😘

[csuitebitches]

none of the links in your pinned post are working :(

I know!! This is so weird. I’ve been trying to figure this out for days. I’ve spent so much time working on the master list, it’s absolutely aggravating to see that things aren’t working.

If someone knows why this could be the case - help ya girl out :)

[csuitebitches]

Hey I can't seem to access your some of the contents on Yyr list when I click it?

Which ones? They seem to work fine for me

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[csuitebitches]

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[csuitebitches]

Do You know any lesbian hypergamy blogs?

no

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[csuitebitches]

Are there any short hairstyles you would recommend? ^^ I'm visiting a hairdresser soon, but have no idea for a haircut

I refuse to cut my hair short after the one time I did so when I was 18 and looked like Dora on drugs and I’ve kept my hair waist length ever since. The only advice I can give you is that be mindful of the hair texture you have. If you have frizzy hair and you want to cut it into a bob, you’re going to have to style it every time you leave the house which increases your maintenance (this was the mistake I made - I thought I was going to look like this one influencer but I ended up looking like Fiona). Take into account the shape of your face too, it plays a huge role in how your hair will frame your face. I’d recommend that you go to a really nice hairdresser even if it costs more because they’ll guide you better. If you like the chop, you can maintain it at a more affordable salon.

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[csuitebitches]

Could you elaborate on “bringing value to the table” to help break into these higher class circles, any resources you would recommend?

normally there’s 4 types of people I see and what they bring- the value of being smart or talented in something (long term value- people want to pick at your brain or use your network), the value of being beautiful (short term value and you have to be very careful of the backlash you will 100% get from other women and the objectification from men), the value of being rich (medium term value but works only as long as you have money and are liquid enough to fund other people’s projects) and sometimes - ya this actually works lol - the value of being funny (the value of being the “fun friend” at a party or event: short term if you don’t know how to form deep relationships).

All depends on you and what you are naturally good at.

What you have to understand is that having any one or two of these values will get you a temporary entry into the circle. Once you’re in, it doesn’t mean you’re fully in. Sustaining in that circle is another game.

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[csuitebitches]

Based on your recent post about how “looking the part won’t really help you fit in high net worth spaces”

Can you give some advice on what can help break into those spaces, as I don’t have a degree but I do have a decent job in finance and currently working my way up the career ladder.

It’s not going to be easy. No one is going to look your way if you don’t bring some value to the table. This depends on culture, but the easiest way to get into these spaces is either:

Befriending people like them somehow somewhere

Being at the top of a good organisation/ starting something of your own or something - basically meet the requirements to join YPO or EO. I know the CEO of a famous luxury brand and they literally started their journey from a small village. They have access to the top 10% of the world today because they climbed the ladder all the way to the top.

manage to date and marry someone who belongs in the circle

I can’t give you a formula because things vary culturally. I would say that it’s easier to get into the western high society than eastern ones.

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[csuitebitches]

Advice for obtaining an American Express platinum card?

I really don’t know, I have the black one because of my family

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[csuitebitches]

What do you think about consumerism in relation to the "hypergamous" lifestyle?

Great question. I'm going to be honest with you. There’s no point in sharing my opinion, I’d rather share my observation.

there is this perception that you have to spend crazy $$, wear designer, go on expensive holidays, be a part of exclusive member-only clubs in order to bag a wealthy guy. The thinking is, “if I look the part, I will fit right in.”

let me break it to you. If you’re Asian, Middle Eastern - you come from a culture that basically defines marriage as something between two families and not individuals - you could live the above lifestyle, live way beyond your means but your chances of bagging a wealthy guy are low. If you do not have the family background or education level to support your lifestyle to be with a rich guy, it’s going to be very difficult, not impossible. You could bag someone who is upper middle class, but definitely not the 0.01%.

While it’s true that the rich do spend like crazy - you have to understand that (especially in Asians) the level of spending is completely different. They can book a first class emirates flight without caring about rates, they have access to concierge services, the circles are small but tight. It is extremely difficult to break into these if you don’t have the money or are extremely good friends with someone who is in this circle. To keep up with this circle is another financial headache.

The consumerism is crazy, it is high yes, but often it’s for things you might not expect. “Silent luxury”, investing in jewellery, properties, experiences, hobbies, drivers, PAs, 24/7 staff to take care of your home, having personal managers at the banks that have your accounts, seeing the top CEOs, politicians, actors etc as regular people - keeping up is not easy. Even if we look at normal stuff, like shopping for clothes - they’re able to blow this thousands of $ on a simple Hermes tea cup set, break it, and buy another one very nonchalantly. Not to mention the constant social gatherings, the clothes (god forbid you repeat), your life’s experiences etc etc. Women here don’t work to maintain their lifestyle, they work to enjoy what they are doing. Even if they stop working tomorrow, they will be financially taken care of by their families or husbands.

hypergamy here is completely different and obstructed. Let’s take my own example. I date boys that my family picks out for me - boys whose families own massive conglomerates, who are cultured and sophisticated, etc etc. I ended things with my last boyfriend because of multiple things, but what mattered most was that my father felt that he wouldn’t be able to provide for me the way I was used to all my life. (Even tho my ex came from a wealthy background too). At every social gathering that my parents organise or take me to, I’ve got my parents friends asking my parents if I’m single, if I’m interested in meetings their sons, etc etc. Dating and marrying hypergamously in Asian and Middle Eastern cultures is very much a family affair. There is a lot of talk that happens in these circles - who married who, whose kids are dating who, did you hear that A’s son fell in love with some middle class girl he met in college - not to your face, but behind your back.

What I’m trying to say is - you could look the part but still not bag the guy. You could dress nice, you could wear expensive perfume and make up but in the end, backgrounds are vetted extremely carefully. Especially in today’s day and age where looking the part has become easier than ever. So now when you tie this to consumerism, you can see why it can be difficult to keep up with this level of consumerism and spending. And even if you can - that may not guarantee anything. Unfortunately life isn’t like kdramas and some rich guy isn’t going to take pity on you and transform your life when he could just be with someone who has a similar upbringing which is more comfortable.

I’m not sure if I answered your question correctly, but I assumed that you were basically asking me if looking the part can get you any points in the hypergamy scene.

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Hello! I love you blog and read every advice you give. I have a question, I just got a second earlobe piercing after thinking about it for a long time, I did it yesterday and was very happy to finally have done it. When I showed it to my aunt, she told me that it was not elegant and women look better with only one earlobe piercing. I am currently doubting my decision, I chose this piercing because I saw some cute combinations with dainty earrings and diamonds, but now I'm not so sure if it was a good thing to do in the end. What do you think about double pierced earlobes? Can they llok elegant or not?

I have 3 piercings in one ear, 2 in the other, I used to have a nose piercing. As long as you’re happy with your decision that’s all that matters. A double piercing is nothing. I’m friends with billionaire and millionaire daughters who have visible tattoos, even more piercings than I do. You’re good.

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[csuitebitches]

To the jewelry anon if you don’t like yellow gold, get white gold it’s the same value as regular gold. And get high karat gold like 18k. Never buy 10k gold it’s only 41% pure gold. 14k is mid range & the average on the US market at 50% pure gold. Also don’t buy into the belief that 18k gold is “too soft.” Yes, gold can be “soft” but it’s soft for a metal, it won’t crumple is your hands, you don’t have to worry about most gold pieces bending until you get to 21k of 22k gold.

It also seems like you need to do some research & learn more about jewelry if you thought because you didn’t like gold & silver wasn’t valuable you were out of options. And most valuable most valuable jewelry is made out of silver any it’s white gold that your seeing. All those “silver” engagement rings you see on your timeline are white gold.

@ anon

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[csuitebitches]

To the Jewellery anon:

Jewellery made from Platinum are also a good choice, as it is durable and platinum is overall a good investment.

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[csuitebitches]

Heyy! I love your blog <3

I had a little question to ask. How can we start accumulating good, valuable jewellery for ourselves other than diamonds and gold? Like actual jewellery pieces that look elegant but will sell good too?

I don’t really like gold and I don’t think it looks good on me either. Though it’s valuable and I have started collecting in form of coins and stuff. And tbh diamond loses it value after you buy it. I am mostly silver girly but it isn’t that valuable you know? I really want to start collecting valuable jewellery.

Thanks!

girl if it’s no diamonds, no gold, no silver then I’m gonna pass this on to jewellery experts (if any) who follow me

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[csuitebitches]

Wow you really gagged me on your recent answer to my ask sjsshsjsjjs i cried a bit bc of your harshness but at least it worked thanks

Love u!

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Hey, I was the anon asking about networking. That does make a lot of sense, and you're right, but I guess I wasn't clear wnough in my message in that I mean more like... how do you get a job with someone that way? Without actually asking "can you give me a job." Or is that what networking is supposed to let you do?

“I’m looking for opportunities in your industry. I am experienced / graduated in ____. Would you know of any openings within your company for the position of ____? If yes, who may I connect with?”

Networking is not necessarily for just jobs. You network with clients, to get more clients. You network with suppliers, to get the best deals. You network with PR agencies and branding agencies to understand your positioning and getting a celeb brand sponsor if required. You network with people in the media so that if you need an article out, it’s one phone call away.

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hi CSB.

I've been lurking in the shadows of your blog for a while and have to honestly admit I got a bit overwhelmed.

Therefore, I'd like to ask, if you were to give some tips on how to start becoming a powerful, confident and feminine woman both in work an in life (aka - how to grow up to be that) what would you advice?

My love. I know I give a lot of advice, that’s why I’ve created an entire system, step by step for you to use. Go to my pinned post.

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