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the idea that restrooms, locker rooms, etc need to be single-sex spaces in order for women to be safe is patriarchy's way of signalling to men & boys that society doesn't expect them to behave themselves around women. it is directly antifeminist. it would be antifeminist even if trans people did not exist. a feminist society would demand that women should be safe in all spaces even when there are men there.

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which is definitely not an omen

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your friends & partners will actually love it if you enforce your boundaries b/c then they will never again need to guess if they're ever making you uncomfortable & don't know. healthy living tip :)

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being as i am an idiot, and having been one my whole life, i just wanna say that i find it very easy to do nothing, and go nowhere. i eat chocolate late at night in the dark. i stand in the garden also. and i’m often waiting for something to happen. and i’m stupid.

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badweird feelings

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John Yuyi by Zhong Lin for Vogue Singapore (2023) Photography: Zhang Ahuei 

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Stone cooking supports used to grill skewers of meat by Minoans on Santorini, circa 3600 years old. The line of holes in the base supplied coals with oxygen. Many consider modern "souvlaki" street kebabs a direct descendant of this portable food system. Museum of Prehistoric Thera, Greece. More: https://thetravelbible.com/museum-of-artifacts/

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columbia administration is threatening to call in the national guard tonight

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HEY WHAT’S UP WITH YOU?

Aka

Why I haven’t updated anything yet

I’m not necessarily up to typing up a whole essay atm but. Nightmare roommate who is antisemitic, homophobic, transphobic, racist, islamophobic, sexist, COVID denier, conspiracy theorist, white supremacist has been harassing me, controlling me, attempting to gaslight and manipulate me for months. He regularly vents his anger and frustrations with his personal life on me via yelling, cursing me out, and insulting me. He has repeatedly sexually harassed one of my other roommates. He loves to punch walls and scream and throw things around the house when he’s angry.

Because I have been unable to be exactly whatever the fuck he wants me to be when he’s being abusive and needs a victim to control, he has threatened me with property damage if I continue living there. He threatened to lie to the landlord in order to get me evicted for displeasing him. He degraded, insulted, and cursed me out for wanting to live in my apartment for a new year.

And then I overheard him expressing over and over how he was going to bash (my and/or another girl in the house he’s mad at)’s fucking head in. He was completely serious and full of rage and as he kept talking about beating this girl until she was dead and how he’d make it look like self defense and get away with it. He did not know I was listening. I thought I could’ve died that night if he so much as saw me around the house and triggered his abuse.

This is now a domestic abuse/domestic violence situation that I am in the process of escaping. I am safe and I have safety plans in place to prevent my abuser from accessing me, my cat, and my property.

To end this, I want to say that domestic violence is real. It can take a variety of forms, including roommate abuse. Everyone deserves the right to live in safety and peace without being threatened or experiencing violence.

#personal #abuse

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Update on the situation where my violent abusive antiblack homophobic transphobic antisemitic roommate threatened me (a queer poc) with property damage if I continued to live at my house:

TW death threats homicidal ideation threats of assault

Good news: found a new apartment

Bad news: last night I overheard him expressing disturbing homicidal ideation towards someone living in the house that he used she/her pronouns for. “I want to bash her fucking head in. I’m gonna bash her fucking head in.” Over and over. Graphically describing how he wanted to beat this person to death and strangle her. He did not know I was listening. Though it is most likely that he was not talking about murdering me, and he was talking about murdering another girl who lives in the apartment, obviously that did not make me feel better or safer. I fled and spent the night at a friend’s. Someone get me the fuck out of here.

(In 10 years a true crime podcaster is gonna have a field day with this)

#personal #help #update #abuse #abuse victim

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Tag urself I'm Tiddy Skittles

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if a character means enough to me i will truly never stop thinking about them. i just retire them into a little back room in my brain and periodically bring them out to stare at them under a little light

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calling every instance of showing certain emotions "emotional labor" needs to stop. I just saw a post that was like "reminder that you do not ever need to be a good or kind person" like. Yes you DO???

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Plenty of highly intelligent people end up getting sucked in to cults because they just wanted people to hang out with. There are antivaxxer nurses. Your ability to act on empirical reason breaks down fast if your social and emotional needs aren't being met.

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Everything moves at a snails pace when you're a snail. There's still a couple Limited Edition, signed, and numbered, prints of this lad at the link in my bio while supplies last.