#And don't buy into the lies of life 'milestones' and 'checklists' like going to college or getting married

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Hey! I just wanted to like. personally thank you for your tags on that post about being 13-15. I’m 20 and I’m just. I don’t know. It’s really nice to know that there’s no rush to get my shit together. You don’t have to post this if you don’t want, but from one stranger to another, thank you. I hope the future is kind to us both.

You are /more/ than welcome Anon.

I know when I was around 17-20, I wish someone would have told me that. I wish someone would have reassured me

"You're not an '''adult''' by 30. In fact, the idea of 'becoming an adult' is a lie. Everyone is a child, slowly figuring things out.

You'll be 25 and be 10 in maturity in some places, and 45 in others. You'll be 19 and be as mature as a 28 year old. 60 with the maturity of a 12 year old.

Age is a lie, maturity is a slow process, and everyone should always be growing. The idea that you become 'a mature adult' at a 'certain age' is a paradox, and is not helpful to you when you're young and scared and figuring yourself out before you can figure your LIFE out.

Your art will get better. Your friend group will get bigger. You'll laugh more, write more, reach out to your role models and realize they're all just people like you. Figuring things out. Fucking up. Being scared. We're all a little bit scared. But we all figure things out despite the fear.

So long as you take things at a healthy pace, you'll be okay. You'll feel like 'it's the end of the world' so many times, and you'll get through them. And it's worth it to stick around."

There's never a rush to get your shit together. Most people don't have their life together, or figured out. We're all just kids with back pain and bills. But, y'know. We get to watch the movies we want and eat the food we like, so. It's not so bad. <3

#vt text #long post #I'm 30 and still figuring things out every few years. #You're a new person every now and then #and that's okay #you'll never have 'everything' figured out #the beauty comes from being content in the present and just. finding joy where you can #and if you cannot find the joy. make it. #and if you cannot make the joy? Survive until you can. #Survive. And work for a better future for yourself. #Even if that means doing something silly like saving up for a bath bomb or that t-shirt you've always wanted. #anyways sorry this went on really long #I'm just. really passionate about letting people younger than me know that it's okay #you won't just. transform into an 'adult' one day #it's a slow and completely indiscernible process #it's a skill. #and you gotta hone it over time #be a kid #And don't buy into the lies of life 'milestones' and 'checklists' like going to college or getting married #make your own checklist. #figure out what makes you happy. It's hard. but so worth it. #anyways this novel has gone on long enough <3