#Wow this is the most I've written in the tags in literally my entire Tumblr life

[lovelyhan]

what are your svt fic recs??? like your holy grail??

took me a while to put this together BUT here it is!

disclaimer that i've been a carat for like . a month so it's a stretch to say i've read a lot of svt content. tho from what i've consumed so far, my favorites are listed under the cut :>

i'll start with the ones i found on ao3 first hehe

push it down (sooner or later it all comes out) by dontflailmenow × tags: s.coups x reader; camboy!cheol, enemies to lovers

the first EVER svt fic i've read, and it was just so WOW!!!! basically, reader recently broke up w her ex, which is seungcheol's best friend. cheol and mc aren't on the best of terms (always arguing etc.) so when she realizes that the camboy she's been lusting over to get over her ex turns out to be cheol, some...problems start to arise i'm pretty sure i saw this one around tumblr but i'm too lazy to find the op's blog i'm so sorry HEUUUHEU but i really loved it to pieces, and it ultimately flung me into svt fanfic tumblr altogether :D

The bore next door by HoneyAteez × tags: wonwoo x reader; blind dates, suffocation via cock LOL

another fic that i am fairly sure is cross-posted on tumblr too, but can't be assed to find -- your mother sets you up with good neighbor jeon wonwoo, and he turns out to be the worst sexual deviant on the face of the earth, fucking the soul out of your body right after the first date.

Walking in Traffic by versigny × tags: mingyu x reader; soulmate au, teens being teens

literally crying as i type this because it's one of the most beautiful coming of age stories i've ever read, and it was written back when i was still in mf HIGH SCHOOL 😭 reader and gyu find out they're soulmates way too early, and pretty much despise each other growing up, but they eventually come to terms with their soul bond along the line.

close proximity by chilligyu × tags: mingyu x reader; roommates, LOTS OF ANGST

there's no explicit smut in this one, but the plot twists and the narration itself threw me in for SUCH a goddamn loop that it would be a hate crime not to include this here. mingyu becomes reader's roommate upon bff!wonwoo's recommendation, and they and up falling for each other, and [gets dragged off stage because spoilers]

now for the tumblr recs!

sapiosexual by @smileysuh × tags: s.coups x reader; sugar daddy au, psych daddy!cheol,,,,

it's a pretty straightforward sugar daddy au, but what makes it different is how it's written, y'know? cheol clearly lays all of the details for he and reader to agree on, making sure all the boundaries are clear and there aren't any blurred lines. seungkwan as your best friend is also a really enjoyable addition (he's the one who coined the term psych daddy LOL), AND i just love the author's humor in general.... quirofilia [bursts out laughing]

A Break by @smileysuh (again bc i'm obsessed w their work) × tags: mingyu x reader x wonwoo; svt as babysitters, budding poly

so op has an entire assortment of meanie poly fics, but this one is probably my most favorite bc it touches on a more endearing and responsible side to mingyu :') he and reader just can't sit down and fuck because he's busy worrying about their child every ten minutes LOL. enter jeon wonwoo, who is not only baby saebyeok's favorite uncle, but has been pining for the reader since time immemorial. of course, gyu has known all along, and asks them if they're both down to have a threesome (this is literally a terrible way to summarize the story, but i suggest you just read it <3) OH OH bonus: hoshi tries to sacrifice the baby to the tiger gods in a summoning circle made of tiger plushies. if that doesn't sell this fic for you, i don't know WHAT will

Love, Actually by @haet-sal × tags: jun x reader; cheating but not really? whipped single dad!jun

aka the fic that catalyzed my jun brain damage. reader works as jun's secretary but she isn't very...good at her job, but he keeps her around anyway bc 1.) his kid likes her, and 2.) HE likes her. problem is: she has a boyfriend-not-boyfriend, but Because that boyfriend-not-boyfriend is an asshole, she kind of uses jun as a constant rebound, poor guy (it has a happy ending tho i promise!!)

an untitled dk friends 2 lovers by @husbandhoshi × tags: dk x reader; idiots in love

this is actually preceded by 2 more drabbles from the op, but i'm linking this one specifically bc it made me physically long for big dick boyfriend lee seokmin. the thing i like most about smut written for dk is that he's ALWAYS so fun and endearing and lovable in bed, and what's more is that this one's a friend to lovers fic, so there's YEARS worth of pining and puppy love to spice up the sex hehehehehehe it really really deserves more recognition !!

right where you left me by @tonicandjins × tags: wonwoo x reader; exes getting back together, ANGST

i have a shitty memory so i can't go into the specifics on what this fic is about. it's one of the first ones i read on tumblr, but it's been a hot minute but i DO remember writhing in bed right after reading it, so it definitely earns a spot on the rec list! reader and wonwoo lived together in their hometown, but had to break up when wonwoo moves to seoul and he just couldn't make any compromises. bonus points for best friend hoshi on this one <;3

that's pretty much it for now! i'm so sorry if any of the authors mentioned didn't want to be tagged 🤒🤒 i just thought i'd share my thoughts abt ur work while sharing them w the rest of my followers UEUEUEUE

#🍵 tea time #anon #📁 kai's fic recs #if you have any recs 4 me just leave an ask HEHE #always down to gobble up gewd content #recs: seventeen 💎

[vagueandominousvibes]

I've seen a number of posts the last couple of days about Tumblr etiquette. One of them talked about how you can add tags for organisational purposes, or even write out your thoughts in a small informal essay in the tags

And while this is all well and good, I haven't seen anyone really talk about how reblogs — especially reblogs with tags — could make someone's day, even if you're literally just yelling that you love something or agree with something in the tags? how it helps create the community we have? how it literally makes us feel less isolated because there's a social interaction taking place?

I just ...

Maybe it's just me, but give me a moment to talk about my experience here (the next paragraph is context, and it's rough, so please heed the content warnings — if you want to skip the entire section about my own experiences, scroll down to the next paragraph break marked by one dot)

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A couple of months before Christmas last year, my mum yelled at me when I came out to her. She told me I'm not mature enough to make that decision (I'll be 24 this year, and haven't lived at home in almost eight years). She started suggesting corrective therapy. I spent a little over a week so ill I couldn't leave my bed for more than a few minutes, and only had food because one of my flatmates offered to get me a bag of crisps and some crackers. Then my back gave in. I didn't have the brain power to get properly involved in my D&D group, much less work on my written projects. None of my friends live in the area, and I don't want to always talk about the negative stuff in my life when I talk to them online, so I don't bring it up unless they ask. Twice my thoughts spiralled into a black hole of "I don't want to do any of this anymore". When I reached out to my therapist, they told me they were on leave and couldn't help me. I felt so very alone, and I was having an awful time

But I could draw stuff

I've always wanted to create something that could bring other people joy, and because drawing was one of the few things keeping me afloat, I shared it. I didn't expect a lot of people to enjoy it. I didn't even expect people to find it. But a few did, and they reblogged with tags — tags that I re-read several times a day, because they showed I'd made someone happy with what made me happy

They weren't necessarily substantial or deep, but they responded. They interacted. None of the people who reblogged with tags had any idea what was going on behind the scenes, but those few lines — those little comments pointing out something they like or how it made them feel — they brought me so much joy

I just ... look at these:

Maybe it's weird, but I read every single tag. The longer ones — the ones that remind me that there's a random stranger out there that I gave a little joy, simply by doing something I enjoy — those, I print and stick up on a board over my bed, because they got me through a rough patch and mean so very much to me

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Maybe I'm being sentimental, but my point about all of this is that there's a community here. A vibrant one, made up of people with ridiculously niche interests who want to share those interests — who want to find joy in those interests

I explained the appeal of it to my partner over text a while ago, and said: "[...] we're aware that we're playing up to social expectations most of the time in everyday life situations, and Tumblr becomes a space where we can strip those expectations away (or at least acknowledge that we're being shaped by them) and engage with each other on different terms to how we would engage elsewhere"

It's a space built on support, self-expression, and sharing joy, and this is so important to keep in mind

The way we maintain this is through reblogs and tags. Of course, we can send asks and messages too, but many of us feel too shy or awkward to talk to a stranger directly — especially if it's someone whose content we look at and think something along the lines of, "Wow, they must be such an accomplished human being and I kneel in the dust before them". I know I often feel that way about some of the people I follow

Tags become the next viable option for communication and appreciation, and, at least to me, it's like receiving little love notes under the door

I don't know if it's the same for all content creators (or rebloggers), but your tags could literally make a random person online stupidly happy and less isolated, and give them the strength they need to hold on just a little longer

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NOTE: I'm not saying you have to tag. I'm not saying you have to reblog. Half the time, I myself only use organisational tags. Occasionally, I forget to tag. I'm still figuring out how to organise my blog. And that's ok — I'm not trying to make a point about whether there's any moral or ethical duty involved here. What I am trying to say, is that the way social interactions work here is so important to the way this space functions as a community, and that it can and does affect our everyday lives

#kalh is on the loose #i have a lot of feelings about this topic #personal #cw queerphobia #cw depression #cw sui thoughts #cw illness #help this got long

[pratktcven]

Hi! I have currently fallen into the world that is Shance and Voltron and all the ships because they're all so wonderful sweet and make my heart feel so warm??? But I'm worried because I've seen how mean fans within the fandom can be and I have all these ideas to write but I'm horrified to share them due to the amount of hate that people get for simply loving something that makes them happy. I'm just...a bit scared, I think. I'd love to write and share headcanons but aaah!

First and foremost, welcome to the fandom! Voltron is an amazing show with amazing characters and an engaging plot, and it’s great to interact with other people who love it. I’m very biased, but Shance is a great ship, and there are a lot of wonderful people in the community. 

That said, I understand your reluctance. Ship hate and those who disagree with your views can be difficult to deal with. Luckily, I am a seasoned fandom veteran with over 15 years of experience under my belt, and I’ll let you know what works most for me.

01) The block function is your best friend. Blocking someone isn’t mean or uncalled for, and you don’t have to justify why you do it. Personally, I block for antis and annoyances. Seriously. If I’m in a general tag, and I don’t like what someone is saying? I block them. It doesn’t have to be outright vitriol; if you get a bad vibe, you get a bad vibe. Block them and save yourself a headache.

02) Don’t be afraid to unfollow. There’s this weird stigma against unfollowing on this site that I don’t get. People change. Their interests change. Their opinions change. Blogs reflect that. If it’s a change you don’t like, why clog your dash? Unfollow them.

03) Be yourself. This might seem like a weird one, but it’s true. Like what you like. Be passionate about what you’re passionate about. Don’t let other people dictate what you enjoy or how you enjoy it. I have... a lot of stories about how other fans have tried to tell me how to like a ship or how to interpret a moment in a show.  Sometimes this pressure is direct, but a lot of times it isn’t.

04) Create what you want. This relates to the above, but it bears clarification. I’ve written things that some people don’t like. Scratch that. I’ve written a lot of things people don’t like. Sometimes I get hate and—I won’t lie—I get mad. But you know what? No one—absolutely no one—has ever been brave enough to do it off anon. The support I get from fandom in general is amazing and those are the opinions that matter. 

05) Clapback, but don’t get into a fight. This is something I do to help control hate. When I get a message or comment that’s rude or uncalled for, I address the issues presented, post it, and leave it. This helps me process my emotions about the issue and gives my blog transparency. Sometimes, other people will comment, either supporting me or the anon, or the anon will try to goad me into a fight. But the important part is to leave it alone. This is the hardest part for me. I’m naturally confrontational, and immensely stubborn, and all I really want to do when I get hate is rip someone to verbal shreds. Instead, I keep those following rants personal. I... have somehow developed a ‘Don’t fuck with me’ reputation on my main and my writing blog which... fair.

06) Turn off anon. I cannot recommend this enough. If you’re getting a slew of hate, chances are it’s one person. I’ve personally never had to do this for an entire platform; hell, I’ve never had to do it for tumblr, either. I did have to disable anonymous commenting on a single story on AO3 several months ago but! This is the first time in fifteen years that I’ve had to do something that drastic. And I only did it because they were starting to harass other readers.

07) If you disagree, be respectful. Literally what it says on the tin. There have been times when I’ve read a headcanon and said, “Oh, wow, that is totally out of character, what show have you been watching?” or read a story that had an unnecessary plot twist or went on for forever and rehashed the same conflict five times. But that’s the thing about fandom: my interpretations are my perceptions, and while I believe them to be more right than someone else’s interpretations, this does not make them true. So I say nothing and move on with my life. Or I talk about it privately if I can’t let it go without comment.

08) Make like-minded friends. This is probably the hardest thing to do, but it’s super worth it. One of my closest friends is a fandom friend I met 8 or 9 years ago . (Holy shit, @faorism, can you believe it’s been that long?) Don’t be afraid to start conversations with people and don’t be afraid to leave them, either. Sometimes people just don’t click. Also, how many friends you have, and to what degree, is entirely up to you. I honestly only talk to one person semi-regularly about voltron—@kitausu is a gem for putting up with me, honestly—but I am super busy irl and tend to have my head in the clouds. Everyone else I’ve interacted with has been nothing but a sweetheart.

In general, I think that fandom is a positive and exciting place, but ultimately, it boils down to this: your experience is your responsibility. Don’t worry about what other people think or say. Don’t go looking for hate but don’t ignore it, either. Post the stories you’ve written and the headcanons you have. Personally, I’m super excited to see what you’ve created. ♥

#i made this post public but let me know if you don't like that #savedbythenotepad #asks #cal speaks