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Wow....it (almost) all came true. I am a believer. via /r/tarot

Wow....it (almost) all came true. I am a believer.

So- I'm a 38 year old guy in NYC. When I was a teenager, I got a bit into witchcraft and paganism and used to read tarot cards. I loved the idea of it, but deep down thought maybe I was cheating by using elements of psychology- still...I always believed deep down that there is "more" to life then just science and what we see.

A year ago- I went through one of the worst situations in my life when my loving, kind and compassionate 5 year boyfriend went almost completely cold. I was in SF with he in NYC, and he basically changed almost overnight. Told me he met a new "friend", needed some time apart from us to finish grad school, deal with his moms passing and just wanted to take a break. I was so shocked and surprised by this because none of this was like him, so while I was really sad by it, I respected it and gave him his space.

We didn't talk for 3 months, and during my next trip to NYC, we met and he told me that he had fallen for his "friend" and that the two of them were official now. I was completely flabbergasted by this, especially in the large irony that for years he had complained that the biggest issue he had was the Long Distance, and I was coming back home to NYC in Mid-2017, but the guy he fell for lives in another country.

I took the break-up really, really hard. I decided to resign from my job and need a deep long reset. I decided to use this as an opportunity to think about who I was and maybe do some things I'd always wanted to do, so in March of 2017, I left my job, gave up my lease, sold my car and made plans to take a 3 month adventure in South America. I bought my ticket for the end of March, and 3 days before I went, I was just endlessly wondering about the city and realized I had stepped in front of a psychic store. I figured "what the hell" and went in.

She at first told me that though she accepted walk-ins, she had no availability that day and asked if I could come back tomorrow. I was about to walk out and she gently put her hand on me. I turned around and she said "wow, okay, you are sending off a HUGE amount of energy- good and bad. Let me see if I can move my next appointment".

She came back 10 minutes later and was able to accomodate me. She gave me an interesting spread that I hadn't seen before.

Within 45 seconds I was crying. The only thing she said was "as you shuffle, focus on the big issue that is troubling you".

She said: - You've been deeply hurt and betrayed by the one closest to you. There is a "J" in the name. ( I told her at this point that my partners first and last name started with a 'J')

A new influence has come into this persons life and he or she is very addicted, if not obsessed with it. This needs to happen and he needs the space to experience this. He or she loves you very very much and your absence from his life is hurting him, but he is very good at running from his feelings.

This man is tall, dark and handsome, he smiles easily but carriers a great deal of weight on his shoulders that he doesn't show.

I see you going on a long journey, somewhere to the deep south in the mountains. I see you vanishing for awhile and coming back different- this is good, this is what you need to do.

Your next job will be something to do with music or the arts.

You will rediscover old passions and loves. This breakup needed to happen because you lost yourself over the last few years, and you need to find yourself again- but the two of you are soulmates, and by the end of the year, you will begin a path to being reunited.

I see a great deal of money coming to you from an unexpected source, it will come sometime in the late summer/early fall

The new element in your lovers life is temporary. It is a sudden and unexpected addiction, but by the end of the year, it will move on.

Your lover will not know success while the two of you are broken up. He is only successful with you because you believe in him and support his dreams. He is working on a project now that will fail, and over the summer he will begin to lose sleep realizing he made the wrong decision.

At some point in the fall, he will reach out to you because he needs something. You need to forgive him while you are on your journey, forgive him, forgive yourself, and focus on learning patience, positivity and clarify. When he reaches out to you, it will be the start of the two of you reconnecting. People will tell you to move on, people will tell you that he isn't worth it. They mean well and don't want to see you hurt, but your bonds are too strong and you will be reunited. Just do not give up on him. He will be lost if you do. You are the more dominant sign, either a Capricorn or a Taurus, so you let go slower. He is the submissive sign, either Libra or Pisces. He is indecisive and will wnat to come back to you- but if you decide to move on, you won't look back. Don't do this, while it hurts now, begin realizing you've been given a wonderful gift with this, to better understand yourself, him, your relationship and the world.

Everything she said was right. Everything she said came true:

I went to South America for 3 months and became a different person. I was always so shy and introverted, and I became extroverted and started to really embrace life. Conquered some of my fears (I went snorkeling and hiking up mountains), met some wonderful new friends.

I moved back to New York and was about to take a job with a small software company, then out of nowhere a very popular music company reached out, and 3 weeks later I began my job with them.

After 14 years hiatus, I started playing saxophone and composing music.

On the weirdest and most spiritual day of my trip, I was in a tiny abandoned colonial town of Argentina. Feeling so sad, but at the same time so peaceful. I stopped feeling sorry for myself and instead this weird feeling came over me, and instead of focusing on my feelings, I instead focused on his. On what the entirety of the relationship felt like from his side. For a good 2 hours I was almost in a trance, almost feeling like our souls were connecting...a phrase I never would've said before...when I "came to"- I was in tears. I understood him better then he understands himself, and I was shocked and awed to discover that during the breakup he said "I think we are just different people"- and in that transcending time, I realized- it's not just that we are "different"- we are polar opposites. In everything. Music tastes, food, politics, religion, how we communicate, how we unwind, what we like, dislike, how we travel. Literally everything has us on polar sides. It makes absolutely no sense on paper, but yet the relationship worked so much because we complimented each other perfectly.

I am a Taurus. He is a Libra.

The guy he left me for is a Pisces. Charming and seductive. I finally had the courage after 4 months to look at my exes social media page and saw a few of their pictures. Was quite entertained to see that the guy actually looks like me. Tall, broad, full beard, short dark hair, dark eyes. Tattooed.

My ex finished grad school in December of 2016. He decided to invest in a documentary. He spent months finishing it and toured it across the US. He then needed to raise 10,000 to submit to film festivals and ran a fundraiser for it. He was able to raise 700 dollars. He posted a note on the homepage saying "sorry- this was a fail guys - but thanks for everyone who contributed!"

My ex and I met for coffee 2 months ago just to keep things light. He has lost his dad, mom, sister and technically moved to NYC for me, then I left to SF for a job. So he has huge issues with abandonment and loneliness. I told him that we had been together for a long time and while the romantic feelings may have passed, I didn't want to lose him from my life. I realized I had forgiven us both, and had so much clarify into the situation. I asked about his bf and it was clearly awkward and uncomfortable, but he still lives in another country and my ex mentioned off-hand that he was actually thinking of buying a house in Europe before the end of the year.

My company made me a very generous salary offer. About 30% more then what I was making at my last company. It included some equity that I didn't really think about, but when I went to an account, the equity is valued at an astronimcal amount. Completely unexpected. In 6 months the first series vests (and it's more then enough to pay off the entire South America trip debt easily and still leave a ton left over)

3 days ago, on October 22- for the first time in more than a year, my ex texted me. He skipped the pleasantries and went right to it. "Hi- I hope it's okay that I ask this, but I just saw a job on LinkedIn and it's perfect for me and it looks like you are connected to an executive there. Is there anyway you can help me network?" I said sure, looked over his resume, made a few pointers and then reached out to my contact with my highest recommendation. We chatted a little and he said that candidly his life wasn't going too well- that he and his new bf were supposed to take a trip for his 30th birthday but they needed to postpone it a few months, that my ex currently hates his job and is miserable, and to add insult to injury his roommates decided to not renew the lease and he had to move to a crappy apartment share in a bad neighborhood of Queens that he hates. He basically said that his whole life was just "crap" right now. I didn't mention that I had just put a deposit down on a beautiful spacious 2 bedroom in Manhattan.

Literally...every single thing the reader said has come true. I remember being so angry with him, feeling so betrayed , that he was the worst person in the world for leaving me for someone else, for putting me on break. But...during my trip, I forgave him. I took a lot of accountability for what I did wrong too, that I was in part responsible for his decisions. That underneath the hurt and the jealousy, all I felt for him was a tremendous love and that "moving on" was not the right move. I've dated here and there and had some fun, I've healed and seen things with a ton of clarity. It's been an amazing experience...and with 2 months left in the year, I am quite eager to see how this resolves!

Submitted October 26, 2017 at 12:16PM by TheWorstTypo via reddit http://ift.tt/2hc9zeP

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