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mrs-monaghan · 2 months

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Are you kidding 😭 BTS are trendsetters in music but in personal life. Idols have done more than bts can even think about. These men pushing 30 is only about to take baby steps regarding their dating life where other idols already walked and ran.

Tae is NOT the 1st idol to go public with his relationship. You said the only idol you know except bts is taeyong, that's the problem. Oh btw this taeyong also went public with his relationship with actress and eventually got married. Many second gen idols have gone public with their relationships. If we talk about 3rd gen, Kai literally did a photoshoot with his then gf (Krystal) there were many exposed pics of them also just like Taennie. Another exo member is literally married amidt of protests from all sides. Lisa was/is publiclly going out with her bf no matter what her stans are saying. Momo of twice attended variety show her idol bf was hosting and he was teased about his gf at an award show stage by mc. Just Google Hyuna and Dawn, two idols who were dragged through hell for dating.. still didn't gave af and dated very publicly for years. They are absolute legends when it comes to kpop dating. Jisoo was the one who informed dispatch about her relationship and announced it on her terms and continued her career like nothing happened. Even 4th gen girl Karina had more guts than a man in his late 20s to confirm her relationship (happened last week btw). There are many idols who absolutely don't give af and don't dump their partner's for fans. If anything, Tae is known as a coward among other kpop fans especially BP fans for the spineless act he did after dragging that girl into this shit. And ik most people who read this agree he is coward on how he handles taennie. For Jennie, this must be her worst dating experience lol..when her previous 2 relationships got exposed, bf or their agencies confirmed it in a day while this man acted like she doesn't even exist anymore 🤡

Also idols calling their fans girlfriends is bad right and bts stopped it right? But the only bts member who still does that is JK himself lmao. He literally act like their bf, call them couple cute names, does everything they ask him during lives, say yes when they ask him to be their bf, even during his so called denial of having an actual gf he said he doesn't want a gf currently because he's focusing on career and only want army in his life 🤦‍♀️Y/ns were saying how he made them more delulu just last year alone with his overtly Para social relationship. If you go outside bts bubble, he's one of the few idols who takes Parasocial relationship a bit far according to other kpop fans. Them having discourses how it's not healthy to take fanservice to this extent. He's one of the idols they call more delulu than fans. And I agree, the more you keep y/n away the more relaxed you will be. He's gonna struggle so much if one day he's gonna introduce his real gf lol. Because it was him who was adding fuel to fans heart all this time. And no, its not his 'job'. I didnt saw any other bts members doing or saying anything JK did except playing along with their jokes once in a blue moon. So others may have it a lil easy compared to him lol.

Also I really don't except any bts member to confirm relationship anytime soon. Atleast not in 10 years. Yeah it sounds like a long period but there are plenty of kpop idols and very popular actors who are in 40s and doesn't even have a single dating rumor. I don't think anyone in bts have that nerve to confirm their relationship unless they are getting ready for marriage, which will only happen after many years lol. Well we literally saw how Tae dipped when his relationship with Jennie was confronted or how JK denied about gf and ran other way when the very real video of him with his gf was exposed 😭 None of them are ready to risk anything Fandom have to offer rn for a relationship lol. I think it will be Jhope the 1st one to confirm a relationship from hyung line and Jimin from Maknae line. Because only those two looks like they will take risk for their loved ones, they haven't built their music nor career over y/ns and fantasies and they'll actually prioritize personal life over career, but again it won't happen anytime soon.

Oops

Well you definitely told me 🤣🤣😂😂

Gonna ignore the fact that you think Jikook are straight n just thank u 4 the in4 u gave me about the other idols. I was obviously wrong but that comes as no surprise coz I know dick about Kpop.

That being said, I disagree with what you're saying about JK. I don't feel he needs to pull back at all. His actions speak way, way, waaaaaaay louder than his words. If you out here thinking JK is dating anyone else but Jimin then you slow as hell... I'm sorry.

#ask shaz #jikook #bts ask #bts

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darlington-v · 2 years

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re: my last reblog

im ngl i kinda agree but more in that like??? being a fan vs a stan of something is super different esp when its coming to celebrities and pseudo celebrities but definitely ccs?

because like... idk the culture of the mcyt fandom at one time was extremely competitive on how good of a fan you are. idk if it still is bc im not as active but like.

being a good fan looks more like being a very intense stan. following update accounts and keeping their notifs on, making every little note of what their cc is doing, and like... engaging or wanting to engage with their cc and like. its fun but also it's a onesided relationship that is going no where if that is the primary thing you prioritize and focus on.

so obviously like. idk terminology isnt entirely universal, maybe you consider stan another term for fan but the point is like. theres a difference between being a fan in a healthy way vs an unhealthy way

like. genuinely, ik its a meme but parasocial relationships can be dangerous. i think that whenever we're critical of that criticism, its because we're people who may have self control and couldnt fathom letting it go that far, but it can and that's a danger of it.

like theres a difference between like. enjoying content and a cc vs like. relying on them. obviously if you're just a big fan of something and it's not affecting your mental health, then it's not a problem.

but if you're a person whose mental health is affected by like... not being a good enough fan, getting like violently sad because you'll never be friends with them, feeling overly attached to that point -- then parasocial relationships can be super dangerous for you.

because like. the parasocial aspect just encourages those feelings, yk? like... being able to interact with them and having the not entirely impossible possibility of befriending them... emphasizes those feelings?

and at some point, if you're of this type of person, you may wanna ask yourself like. am i substituting this for actual relationships i could be building? am i living vicariously through what im watching?

like idk there are tons of pitfalls and its not to say content creation is bad but i think parasocial relationships have been meme'd on a lot to the point that like. there's a lack of seriousness being treated towards them.

this is being said as someone who had to pull back from cc content i was watching because i realized i wasn't managing shit. i was definitely prioritizing being a better fan than i was of like. just hanging out with my friends and trying to deepen bonds there.

and like yeah not everyone has that problem, but i know there are tons of lonely ass people on the internet who don't know how to make friends. i know that there are tons of people who can be vulnerable to this.

so like. heuehhe. yeah i just. have thought more about it and have became more concerned for like... fan culture in general? maybe thats bc i have a limitted view tho!

i dunno!

anyways thats my piece on it.

#prince.txt #throw back to when i got sad abt late night beeduo streamssss. <:I

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