#also this is mainly directed at cis men bc I think they need the most help lol (not in a mean way!)

[cheeseburgersinparadise]

I think fat boys really need help with finding clothes that are fashionable and fit them (not a criticism, it is hard to find quality plus size clothes).

HOWEVER I also think that men should consider wearing things that aren’t just oversized shirts to hide their belly. Just like with women’s clothes, they’re taught to try and hide their body. However, seeing a fat man in something that fits them and maybe hugs their form but FITS them, is much more attractive (in my opinion).

It’s difficult because y’all are subject to the same social constructs women are, and as a cis man, it can be hard to defy the norm because they’ve never had to before.

Just something to consider. Maybe I’ll try to find some good plus size male clothes and make a post, but I’ll also tag @giantffa because I wanna say she might’ve already made one.

#anyway just some thoughts for today #wear whatever you want tbh but just saying it’s hot to see a fat guy with confidence like that #also this is mainly directed at cis men bc I think they need the most help lol (not in a mean way!)

[solroja]

Why is it popular to say that? I mean TME, is it to say you are not trans? Which in the end is just saying you are cis? Is there explanation for exempt from transphobia due to being trans masc? (I mean, then wouldn't we say all the stuff we are except from?) Not saying is not valid, but I don't get the purpose

Saying that you are TME does not mean you aren't trans (I'm a trans masculine nb person myself), it's mostly a way to disclose what position you hold when discussing trans specific issues. Yes, TME can also account for cis men/women, but you'll mainly see it used by trans men and non-binary people — whether they're aligned masculine or not. (mostly bc the only cis people who are exposed to this language eventually are allies).

You'll probably notice that a lot of resources and groups online are put forth and lead by trans masculine folks. This limits the voice trans fems have, which is especially sad because we (trans people in general) DO face different flavors of transphobia depending on what we were assigned at birth. This comes into play when it comes to recognizing different types of directed transphobia.

Ex: one issue would be when trans feminine people constantly point out that certain caricatures on TV are not the epic non-binary representation some ppl think they are. "But surely since this non-binary (+tme) person thinks this is positive..!"

Ex2: Another issue would be the different ways cis people view trans masculine and trans feminine people, especially in real life. Ig: Trans men are often painted as confused women, lost and 'hurt' by misogyny so much they turn to being men (que eye roll). Trans women are portrayed as both confused and predatory, existing for ""trickery"". (Yes, trans mascs are sometimes viewed as predatory in the case of being viewed as invading mlm spaces/tricking mlm. But case by case it has not been reacted to as violently).

In order for us as a community to maintain solidarity and to support one another, we need to be extra vigilant, keeping each other aware of both community issues and our specific issues, which again means listening and uplifting those most affected.

I do think that when coming forth abt issues, or in any discussion really, it's vital to disclose from where you're coming in from. Your perspective changes both how personal an issue is and the way you know it's effects. A white person will not talk the same about racism as a nonwhite person will, abled bodied folk cannot talk about disabilities in the same way those with them can. You (well not you specifically anon, i don't know you) could be equipped with all the resources in the world, have read all the books and talked to anyone and everyone, but in the end you could walk away from a discussion and that would be that. You wouldn't be directly impacted. There is simply a level of understanding that you can't reach about somethings you haven't lived.

#im using directed language in case any trans fems want to jump in on this (please do) #by directed language i mean using 'you' statements #mostly bc when white ppl make responses like this and use 'we' it feels weird to jump in and closes the conversation #replies #tme #// #transmisogyny #also the 'aligned masculine or not' is me trying to cover all nb ppls experiences ksbsjs #bc some people are like: no gender! or: not fully man/women! or I'm both! etc etc #im speaking on the trans masc side so the trans gay issues is from personal experience as a mlm and friends anecdotes #ill make this my only post for today and rb it later so it doesn't get buried but if you have any more questions pls reach out! #long post