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antis-hell · 7 months

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Answering every question in an ask game because I'm bored and no one can stop me<3

(This game is from a deactivated blog, but you can still find the og post here!)

🦒 Do you have an inner world? If so how big is it?

Yep! It's fuckin massive tbh;-; several islands that we can't really access cus they're too far apart kind of big

🐈‍⬛ If you have an inner world did an alter consciously create it? And is anyone able to change it at will?

Nope;-; the majority of it was forcefully made by our abusers to distress us but some parts are slowly healing and changing from how it was originally, afaik the only alt that can change anything at will is Felix/Ion and that's only in selective parts.

🦝 Who is the most responsible person in your system?

Darky. All the fuckin way💀

🦋 Who fronts the most?

Me lol, I'm always at least in vague co con cus im the host

🦢 Do you mostly communicate externally or internally?

Bit of both tbh! We have chats in sp and discord that we use if amnesia walls are high, but mostly we can talk with people that are nearby when fronting

🦮 Do you have any animal alters?

Yep, we got a bunch, but our more frequent fronters are Mopha, a blue moth. Vulpix a kitsune looking cat thing and Fredbear a small yellow ish bear that kinda just chills with Darky

🦇 Do you have any parts/fragments that aren't fully alters/headmates?

Yep! Polyfrag goes brrrrrr, so we have a bunch of alts we consider parts rather than headmates

🦄 Do you have supernatural beings in your system?

Yep😭 again religious trauma is a bit silly, so we have most major Catholic demons, jesus, a few angels, God, celestial besings from the stars, and so much more;-;

🐖 If you were to be in a relationship would all of your headmates/alters date that person?

Nope! We have alts that are in strictly monogamous relationships in headspace so they wouldn't date the person the body is dating, same also goes for littles/middles and animal alters due to the fact they aren't mentally able to consent to a relationship (+ also any aroace alters that wouldn't want to date them)

🐭 Do most of your alters/headmates have the same or similar style/aesthetic?

Not in the slightest💀 we have fairly different styles which makes clothes shopping absolute hell

🪱 Do your alters/headmates have different sexualities? Do any contradict?

Yep! Most of us are gay men/masc aligned, but we do have a handful of lesbians and aroace ppl chilling up in this head

🐇 Do you know what your head count is?

700 at our last guess, but really, it could be anything😭

🦥 What is something that instantly makes someone switch in?

The taste of blood instantly makes Darky switch in. This is a but awkward when eating steak/meat, but he's pretty good at masking as me, so it's okay in the end

🐴 Do you have child alters/syskids?

Yep! We have a bunch:] Some are allowed on here, but we mostly keep them off social media due to safety concerns

🐆 If you have syskids/child alters do you have more adults/teens or children in your system?

Probably adults tbh😭 we have a LOT of littles, but if we're counting everyone that's not a little/middle as an adult, we dwarf them by a mile

🦔 Does anyone in your system age regress/dream?

Yep! I age regress in stressful episodes afaik only a few others do but I won't name them just for their privacy

🐶 Who has the best memory in your system?

Either Darky or Felix probably- they're the top gatekeepers, so they have access to everything pretty much

🦊 Do any of your alters have their own blogs just for them?

Darky does! He hasn't posted much on it yet but he's been mumbling about doing book reviews or some shit (like a fuchin old person would do/lh) I half told him to make one cus he needs more friends so go check it out if ya want! @upin-the-dark

Anyway, I had fun doing this:D If you want me to do any specific ask games/want me to do your ask game, send me the link, and I'll check it out!!/gen/nf

-anti💚🗡

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acespec-ed · 2 years

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Hey, I was contemplating sending this ask a while ago but couldn't really get the phrasing right but I think i have now. a while ago 2 of my fairly close lesbian allo irl friends who are part of my lgbt circle of friends made some biphobic remarks. it was sort of casual and off the cuff just being like ''oh i'm more likely to pass over bi ppl and not date them because they're attracted to 'dick' and i'm only attracted to non-men''. for context, i'm bi and greyaroace. but then they're like ''oh but not you, you're probably more loyal to your partners as you're not sexually attracted to them''. i mean, sure i can't dictate who they're attracted to because it is what it is, but like the assumption that just kinda irked me in 2 ways. like the 'preference' bit kinda felt like a judgement of all bi ppl; i'm not asking them to date bi ppl for the sake of it but also like if you're attracted to a bi person and you reject them based purely on a prejudice its not exactly not biphobia is it? also i can't tell if it's transphobic to some extent. like it's not necessarily my place to say, but they mentioned they wouldn't date trans women who haven't had bottom surgery even if they're attracted to them as they're not attracted to 'dick'. i can't tell if genitals and stuff matter to allos in terms of attraction or if they don't percieve trans women as trans women unless they've had all of the surgeries that i suppose physically reinforce that the trans woman would 'look like a stereotypical afab person'-which feels pretty transmedicalist. i'm honestly not sure abt this part as i'm not exactly in a place to say as i don't know abt attraction to genitals or exclusive attraction to non-men/vagina. Also, the second part where i was sort of passed over because i'm aroace didn't sit right with me like it's a weird sort of distinction that they've made in their mind considering that aroaces can choose whatever they choose to engage in in relationships and like it doesn't make me more loyal because i'm percieved as not having sex. like it's been sitting in my mind for a while as i haven't really spoken to them since then but it just doesn't sit right with me, and idk how to deal with these kinds of remarks.

Yeah, they're definitely being biphobic. And the comment they made about you being okay is just a slap in the face imo. Like, they're talking all this shit about bi people, and then remembered you're bi, and have to save face by making it out like you're "one of the good ones" since you're less likely to cheat, because you're aroace. That's flat-out shitty of them. (Not to mention, aroaces are perfectly capable of cheating on partners too. That's a terrible person thing, not an orientation thing.)

The transphobia part is a bit iffy. Like, it's okay to not want to have sex with someone based on their genitals. And it sounds like their whole thing is they don't want to have sex with someone with a dick. They mentioned they're fine with dating trans women who don't have dicks, which makes me think they're not necessarily transphobic. I'd call them transphobic if they were flat-out refusing to date trans people in general on basis of being trans. It's like, someone refusing to date aces vs someone refusing to date sex-averse aces. It's acephobic to refuse to date an ace person for being ace, since there are aces who will have sex and even experience sexual attraction. But there's nothing wrong with not wanting to date sex-averse aces if sex is an important part of a romantic relationship to someone. It sucks for sex-averse aces, but some people just can't be in a sexless relationship. Just like some people can't have sex with a dick involved. That's my logic on the take, anyway. They could still be transphobic in some other way, and given their biphobia, I wouldn't be surprised if they were. But I think having genital preferences alone isn't transphobic. But it also isn't really my place to say either. I could be missing something there.

I really don't know how to deal with those kinds of comments either. It sounds like you've done exactly what I would have done- not say anything and then just, distance myself from them. You did mention they're close friends, so you might still want to continue being friends despite the remarks. If this is the case, it's probably a good idea to (politely) call them out on their comments. Because they're probably going to keep making those comments around you. Then again, if you do express your dislike of those comments, they might still make them anyway. Just not around you. It's up to you whether you want to remain friends with them or not. But I do think their comments are classic biphobia. And maybe even some, strange form of aphobia? I don't know what to make of the aroace comment tbh. I just know I don't like it.

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