#elizabeths.babydaddy

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This is baby daddy. Stealing Lizzy's account to give you a play by play of what just happened.

Lizzy is both stunned into silence and crying.

Lizzy may be in shock.

Lizzy just found out she has a little over 2.5k followers. I, a frequent viewer of her follower count, thought she knew and just was not excited because she has been my little depresso espresso.

Lizzy made a joke about googling Imposter Syndrome.

Lizzy feels horrible for not updating more now.

Lizzy is going back to her laptop.

Lizzy says she is going to finish her poly week fics tonight and tomorrow so she can focus on other projects. (That means I get to read smut later. This is a win for me.)

Lizzy is maybe going to plan a 2.5k celebration for you all. She's doing her happy rambles, and that hasn't happened in a few months. (This is also a win for me. We don't need to discuss why.)

Thank you all for making my Lizzy feel like she isn't wasting her time and for letting her into your lives a little. She thought she would maybe have 3 of you who would enjoy her. Now there's 2.5k of you.

I'm sure she will make a poll asking about what you all want her to write later. It is Elizabeth tradition, after all.

Very proud of my mamacita.

#elizabeths.babydaddy #thats my girl

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Nothing can ruin my day.

My daughter just giggled for the first time.

Might actually have the motivation to fully finish a few wips now.

#baby giggles cure depression #it was so sweet. #baby daddy is going to be so sad he missed it. #do i lie and not tell him it happened so its a “first” he got to experience? #working has been hard on him. #elizabeths.updates #elizabeths.babydaddy #send asks #send anons #send advice 🥺

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this is for baby daddy.

what are some other Liz-isms?

Oh 👉👈 This might be embarrassing 🫠

Baby daddy's answer below the cut

These first three may give away Lizzy's upbringing in a rural community in the States.

Lizzy's on the first really hot day of the year, "It's hotter than a fresh fucked fox in a forest fire."

Lizzy on the first really cold day of the year, "It's colder than a witch's tit in a steel bra."

Lizzy when mosquitoes exist, "The mosquitoes are so big this year they could fuck a turkey flat footed."

Lizzy when Sophia burps, "Nice."

Lizzy when we get sushi, evidently quoting a movie, "I'm not very hungry. So, I can just get one Mahi instead of the mahi-mahi?"

Lizzy when she sees any animal, "Can we keep it?"

Lizzy when she sees an attractive girl (general description) "Did you see her? Big booty. To your left. Leggings. White tennis shoes. Yeeeeeeaaaaaaah. See? I'm a good wing woman."

Lizzy when we used to drink, "I'm only going to have like one long island." (Has 4 or 5 and needs me to carry her to car and into the house and to bed)

Lizzy when we used to enjoy weed, "Where's our cat?" (Proceeds to cuddle all of our animals because "they need her.")

Also, Lizzy, when we used to get enjoy nature's finest plant, "I have some tea for you," (proceeds to zone out) "I'm gonna go read a book."

Lizzy anytime we do the deed, "Now cuddles or never again." (Like we aren't going to cuddle?)

Lizzy whenever it's gloomy outside, "Can we watch Twilight?"

Lizzy whenever someone gets hurt in a funny way on tv while hiding her face in my shoulder to hide that she's laughing. "I'm going to hell."

Lizzy when she's trying to be super sneaky about sneaking a kiss, "How do you pronounce that word again?" (Proceeds to get closer as I'm trying to teach her)

Lizzy whenever I ask her if she wants a nap, (proceeds to make puppy eyes) "Really?" (As if I'm not serious about her needing a nap.)

Lizzy when she needs water, "(my name), will you fill my hydration stations? Please?" (She drinks so much water now I'm surprised she hasn't turned into a fish.)

Last but not least, her newest one, "My moot hasn't posted in a few days. Do you think they're okay? Should I message them? Or should I let them have the space they need?"

#elizabeths.babydaddy

[readychilledwine]

I am working on clearing out my ask box, and I just want to answer a question in my asks without giving more attention to it than needed:

Baby Daddy gets on my tumblr account to read fanfiction sometimes. He doesn't do it often enough he wants to create his own account, and he doesn't do social media, so he wouldn't anyways, but he likes supporting you all too.

There's 4 specific ones we read "together" right now, and he has his own fandoms he plays in, too. As a reminder, fanfiction is for everyone, and couples are allowed to share things. He never goes through my messages, he will never comment on your things, never harass you all, etc. He knows this is my safe place, and he is a guest here.

He is always stunned by the amount of talent on tumblr, and he is pretty excited to take part in my side blog sharing his favorites with you.

#elizabeths.updates #send asks #send anons #elizabeths.babydaddy #peep his recs on my side blog soon 💕

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✨️Liz MomLife Post✨️

Warnings - mom life, pumping, baby daddy

Gets done pumping after feeding our gordita, in my own little world, doing my own little Liz thing.

Random wild baby daddy appears, quickly grabbing something before heading back to work. Scares the shit out of me. Thus making me go into fight or flight, and I am a flightless bird *so I fawn before flailing* and end up spilling 9oz of milk.

Queue tears. Queue dead silent baby daddy. Queue me getting ice cream at 9:40am.

Anyways. Tamlin smut should be up in a couple of hours.

#elizabeths.updates #elizabeths.babydaddy #it is okay to cry over spilled milk. #i should make a mom blog.

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Me - *Walks into Sophia's nursery to her and baby daddy asleep on the floor*

Me - *picks up Sophia and takes her to the mini crib in our room before getting baby daddy up and getting him to our room.*

Baby daddy- "Take a nap with us?"

Matching Wounds will be a little delayed. 💕 I will get it posted tonight.

(And I'll finish anons and messages tonight. Promise.)

#elizabeths.updates #elizabeths.babydaddy #mom tip 101 - never say no to a nap and cuddles.

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which acotsr male do you think baby daddy is most like?

I've touched into this a little, but not as fully as I am about to.

Warnings - Liz loves her baby daddy.

He's Lucien. Hands down. Easily.

Baby daddy is intelligent, witty, well spoken, and loyal. He always puts my needs above his own. He has admitted he worships the ground I walk, and when things are hard for us, he stays. Despite my pushing, he stays. He knows what I need before I do sometimes. He knows things about me I haven't put thought into or no one else has.

We share a level of intimacy that I think Lucien desperately hopes he will get from Elain, but if he doesn't, as he's already said, he will ask Rhys how he almost lived with it.

I imagine Lucien as an unconditional lover, and that's very much what I've found in baby daddy. Even at my worst, he gives me his best.

It's part of why I don't post the Lucien things I write. I feel like writing Lucien is almost too personal for me, and it wouldn't click for all of you if that makes sense? Maybe I'm wrong in that, and tell me if I am, but it's part of why there's some Lucien stuff just sitting in my Google docs unposted.

Him being Lucien is also why I root so hard for Elucien. I see so much of myself in Elain and identify with her on a personal level. I'm not a brave warrior or a powerful leader, but I am a home maker, I am a caretaker, a gardener, and a lover. My trauma made me focus on reclaiming my soft side and protecting that piece of me the same way I think Elain is.

It is so rare to see a female character in fantasy who is unapologetically feminine and soft, and I want her and Lucien to have that happy ending. It'd be like getting to read my own story woven by the hands of someone else.

Maybe that's selfish of me, but I really do hope that's where their story goes.

#elizabeths.updates #send asks #send anons #elizabeths.babydaddy

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Baby daddy - "I ordered you brownies."

Me - "Like fun brownies? I can't have those yet.."

Baby daddy *stares at me* - "No, Lizzy, not those brownies. Baby brownies."

(You did this to @thehighladywrites and @illyrianbitch)

#elizabeths.updates #elizabeths.babydaddy

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baby daddy- which barbie is liz

Lizzy told me she is going to start a question of the week for baby daddy thing if you all keep asking questions meant for me.

Lizzy is the OG barbie. She is full of potential and fun.

Or Lizzy is librarian barbie. Don't know if she's a thing. Don't honestly care if she is. If she isn't, they need to make her look like my Lizzy.

#elizabeths.updates #elizabeths.babydaddy #get to know the person behind the blog #barbie #send asks #send anons

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Hi girl!! I don't know how to say this, but I love your writing and your sooo creative. I just wanted to say, im giving birth in a couple of weeks and it just hit me that I'm going to have a KID, LIKE WTH??? I did my research so there's nothing to worry about and I'm financially stable, its just, WEIRD??? I'm going to pop a baby out??please give some advice bc my hubby seems really cool about it and I'm just WHAT??😭

Trigger warnings- baby, mom life, and labor talk. Super long post 💕

✨️Congratulations to both of you and welcome to the hot moms club✨️

I went through an induction that turned into an emergency c section, so keep that in mind when reading my advice since I am not sure what form of labor you are opting for.

During Labor/Your hospital stay:

Bring a comfort idea to the hospital for before "active" labor and after. I brought my own pillow, and that made a world of difference. It was nice having something so familiar afterwards.

Don't eat anything you don't want to risk coming back up. Some hospitals will allow you to eat. Try to stick to the ice, juice, jello, or pudding. Italian shaved ice was also an option for me. And do bring snackies for after. You deserve it.

Don't panic if your birth plan does not turn out to be how birthing goes. I had planned on natural labor, no pain medication. I went in to be induced at 9pm December 13, by 2am I was in a lot of pain, by 7am I had an epidural.

Not to scare you, but the epidural can cause a few different reactions. Don't let that stop you from getting it. You HAVE to allow yourself to be as comfortable as possible, and your birth team will handle whatever curves are thrown their way.

If you are physically able to, do golden hour. In case it is called something different for you, golden hour is a full hour where the nursing staff leaves you and baby alone for skin to skin and nursing time. Tell your man I'm sorry, but he can wait. That hour is essential for building breastmilk supply if you're going to be EBF or EP. He can have baby after.

And let him have baby after. Daddy needs his own hour where baby is getting skin to skin with him.

It's going to be hard, but try not be mad if baby daddy sleeps after labor. He's going to have spent the last how ever long you were in labor in a heightened state of fight or flight because the woman he loves is in pain and there is nothing he can do for you. It's painful and all the exhausting for us. It's mentally and emotionally exhausting for them.

Do not (under any circumstances) let them force you into handling feedings one way or the other. Fed is best. Period.

Do not allow them to force you to have a nurse who makes you uncomfortable in any way. I know it's hard, but if a nurse is making you feel like you aren't doing enough, aren't listening to them, are making a wrong choice, ASK FOR A NEW NURSE. They should be supporting you.

If you're at a hospital where mom and baby sleep in one room, don't hesitate to say yes if a nurse asks if you want baby to go to nursery for a little bit. You both will need sleep. You deserve sleep. That nap will be precious. Trust me.

For home:

During bathing, try a swaddle method. It uses two towels, but it helps baby feel safe and secure. Here's a little link to an article about them

Take. Time. With. No. Visitors. You and baby daddy deserve time to adapt to your LO. It's a totally different ball game. We had 2 weeks alone. 2 weeks with just our parents. 2 weeks with our siblings. Then we opened the house to visitors who messaged us first.

Establish boundaries from jump. I made a post about on SM with a picture of our boundaries. Baby daddy enforced it.

Enjoy those 2am cuddles. They go away so fast 🥺

If you do not mentally feel okay, tell people you trust. Immediately. PPD/PPA can quickly become postpartum psychosis when left untreated.

Remember you're gorgeous. Even if you don't feel that way. You literally grew a human. It is the most selfless thing you could do for your family, and in my opinion, the closest thing to magic.

Remember to be kind to yourself and baby daddy. You're both learning. It's hard. So hard.

Never feel guilty for a few minutes of screen time. Sophia gets about 30 minutes a week spread out throughout the week. Ms. Rachel is a great help.

From my baby daddy to yours

Get her the food she's been craving that she "can't have" which also meant you couldn't have it for her first post labor meal. Lizzy wanted sushi. Baby momma got her sushi.

Take pictures of her with your kid. Constantly without her knowing. Those pictures will get you through the work day.

Get up with her at night. We helped make the baby. We help with the baby.

No yelling. No fighting. I said one thing to Lizzy I regret deeply, and I don't know if she's genuinely forgiven me for it. This is hard on your baby momma. If she needs to vent. Let her. Don't fight her. Just get her down for a nap, man. That's all you can do sometimes.

Never tell her to sleep when the munchkin sleeps. That statement is the most unhelpful thing anyone said to Lizzy. Tell her instead to lay down and try to get some sleep, and you will listen for crying. She needs the comfort of knowing someone else is there.

Don't allow anyone to shame her for anything. I learned I will throw hands over someone shaming Lizzy. Luckily, it was with my brother. We're good now.

Make sure she gets to shower every day.

Love her. Love her and look out for any signs of her not being okay. Lizzy's was staring off into nothing and crying way too much.

Make sure you schedule time for both of you to get away and let her enjoy said time.

Skin to skin. Daily.

Lastly, get her a pump if she's breastfeeding. Trust me. It will help build supply, and it allows you to feed the little one.

If you two need ANYTHING, message me. I don't have all the answers, but I might have advice. 💕

Here's a few products we love for Sophia, too. Some of them are pricy. We apologize.

Dreamland weighted Swaddle

Diaper cream spatula

Calmoseptine Ointment

Bums and Roses - softest pj's ever and you can get matching ones.

Momcozy nail file

Lizzy's favorite stationary pump*

Lizzys favorite on the go/work pump*

The bottles baby daddy uses to feed Sophia sometimes

*check to see if insurance will help*

Overall, just enjoy your time together and your sweet little baby.💕💕

Ps- thank you for the compliments! I was so excited to give advice I almost brushed over them 🥺

#ms rachel #elizabeths.updates #send asks #send anons #mom life #elizabeths.babydaddy

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Baby daddy and my mom- promising me they will watch Sophia and take care of her so I can shower and finish the book I was reading.

Baby daddy and my mom - pulling Sophia out of bed to watch Hot in Cleveland.

Get you a man who watched Hot in Cleveland with your mom and let's her have extra nighttime snuggles.

#elizabeths.babydaddy #he loves my mom so much #elizabeths.updates #by the way #book was decent.

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I have stupid questions for any followers I may have from Nordic Countries, and please excuse my ignorance.

Baby daddy read a few articles about how it is evidently pretty common to put babies outside to nap in Denmark, Finland, etc. He said that it helps babies fall asleep better and, therefore, better naps and healthy sleep.

When you do this, does someone stay with baby? Does baby come in once they're in deep sleep? We want to try it since fresh air is so good for Little lungs, but we want to do it safely 💕

Any advice or knowledge is appreciated

Love,

Liz and babydaddy

#elizabeths.updates #elizabeths.babydaddy #we want to be good parents 🥺 #she naps okay #we just want her to have better naps. #does anyone know more about this than him briefly reading an article?

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Not me about to write a dad fic based on what happened today after my first 14 hour shift at work with no break..

#acotar #elizabeths.updates #send asks #send anons #baby daddy was once again the goat #elizabeths.babydaddy

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Favorite liz moment?

I'm starting to think you all are asking him these things because he makes me look so... silly.

Lizzy once asked me if I thought mints were spicy. I was so confused I stared at her. Then she was all, "I mean, not like why is my mouth in fire spicy, but spicy like.. spicy?"

I know what Lizzy means. I don't care, though. This moment? Forever stuck in my head as the time my white girlfriend asked if mints were spicy.

#elizabeths.updates #elizabeths.babydaddy #send anons #send asks #lizzys.babydaddy question of the week

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do you and baby daddy plan on having more kids? jc

Maybe.

For me, another baby is a "no" right now, and possibly for good. I've touched on it slightly, but labor was pretty traumatic for me, baby daddy, and my mom. Plus, the PPD/PPA/literally disassociating when people ask me about my labor experience is still winning some days, but that's not a post for the happy environment I want to create here.

Baby daddy went from never really wanted kids to wanting a big family with lots of kids. He would like us to have 3 more. It's not a "I want a boy" thing either. It's a "our daughter is so beautiful that I'd like to have 10 of her," thing. We've met in the middle. We are going to talk about when Sophia is starting school. He understands that I need to process a lot still, and there's a chance I will say no. We've discussed opening our home to adoption based on whatever decision I make.

#elizabeths.updates #elizabeths.babydaddy #send anons #send asks

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i ship you and baby daddy so much, i know you had a baby and everything but i shippppp you, if that makes sense. I’m rooting for you guys and when he defended you at the bar, it felt like a scene from a fic or something. Sorry if this was cheesy but in my head you and baby daddy are in a fic

🥺🥺 this is so sweet.

We started as just friends, then began casually hooking up, and then, after a while, things just fell into place. It's not the wild fairy tale romance everyone is looking for, but he is my Lucien.

Thank you for the support 💜

#send asks #send anons #elizabeths.updates #elizabeths.babydaddy #hes excited to have his own tag.