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selfimprovefy · 2 years
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Leave a “YES” below if you agree👇 Whatever you do on daily basis, that becomes your habit. 💯 Follow: @selfimprovefy . . . . . . #selfimprovement #selfimprovementdaily #selfimprovementjourney #personaldevelopmentquotes #selfgrowthquotes #successprinciples #selfimprovefy #habit #makehabitshappen #habitcreation #dailytasks #motivationalquotes #positivevibes #successmindset #quotesaboutlife https://www.instagram.com/p/CjPgblPqU2A/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=
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Sometimes you need somebody to keep you accountable when replacing a bad habit with a good habit. . . . . #IINhealthcoach #healthcoachmiami #browardhealthcoach #accountabilibuddy #goodhabits #replacingbadhabits #habitcreation #goals2019 #gethealthywithme #stopmakingexcuses #only4monthsleft (at Pembroke Pines, Florida) https://www.instagram.com/p/B2DVhzMg8Ph/?igshid=1ause45qj0uby
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stag28 · 7 years
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"told me it took only 28 days to form a new habit. That’s just 4 weeks, I thought. Any chump can stick with a thing for 4 weeks, even a guy with my lagging levels of self-discipline. I started setting monthly resolutions instead of annual ones, and for the first time, started keeping them. Some simple math: 30 days are a lot more manageable than 365. If you’re stubborn like me, you can convince yourself of anything for a month. Grit your teeth and watch the finish line come bouncing up the road ahead of you." "Setting monthly resolutions also lets you try on new habits for size. Don’t like them? Toss ‘em. Try something new. Create a new habit for next month. But you have to make it to 30 days. And if you’re liking the results, you have a reason to stick with ‘em." [..] "A month is a perfect amount of time for trying on new habits, like clothing in a department store dressing room. The 28-day rule (or 21-day rule, depending on who you ask) was established by a plastic surgeon named Maxwell Maltz, who observed that patients who had an arm or a leg amputated would sense a phantom limb for about 21 days afterward. " [..] "on average, it takes 66 days to solidify and automate a new behavior. If you want to set up your expectations accurately, it could take anywhere from two months to eight to fully formulate new norms. But so what? The solution is not to steel your resolve. The solution is to promise yourself less, try on more, and build up your resolve with practice."
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juliedeardorff · 4 years
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“Get your bloody act together! I want the best in you to emerge.” -Jordan Peterson lecture
I’ve been reading a lot about mindset lately, specifically as it relates to behavior change and goal achievement.
I discovered Jordan Peterson, clinical psychologist and rising speaker, through multiple sources, and wanted to share some things that resonated with me. He uses his book "12 Rules of Life: An Antidote to Chaos" to organize and explain his thought process on certain subjects. I've written at length about Rule #2, but here are all 12:
1. Stand up straight with your shoulders back.
2. Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping.
3. Make friends with people who want the best for you.
4. Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.
5. Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them.
6. Set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world.
7. Pursue what is meaningful, not what is expedient.
8. Tell the truth — or, at least don’t lie.
9. Assume that the person you are listening to might know something you don’t.
10. Be precise in your speech.
11. Do not bother children while they are skateboarding.
12. Pet a cat when you encounter one on the street.
Here are a few quotes from Dr. Peterson, and a lecture he gave on the 12 Rules. It’s worth the watch, and in my opinion a good introduction if you’ve never heard about him before. https://youtu.be/-5RCmu-HuTg
I hope you enjoy his insight and passion as much as I did. Never give up on self discovery, self mastery, or the pursuit of your goals, -Julie
Favorite Jordan Peterson Quotes:
“I don’t tell people, “‘You’re okay the way you are.’ That’s not the right story. The right story is, “You’re way less than you could be.”
“People think of freedom as the ability to implement whim, but sustainable freedom isn’t what it’s about at all. It’s primarily about responsibility. It’s about determining which load you’re going to pick up and carry. That is the appropriate definition of freedom.”
“When you start to realize how much of what you’ve constructed of yourself is based on deception and lies, it’s a horrifying realization.”
“There isn’t a better outcome than the one that truth produces. Even if it’s a harsh and terrible in the short-term. And sometimes it’s like, there isn’t a better way of doing it — the Being you produce as a consequence of telling the truth is good.”
“People who are not aiming up will become jealous when you succeed. They will override your accomplishment with a past action of their own. Maybe they are trying to test you, mostly they are dragging you down because your new improvements cast their faults in an even dimmer light.”
“Assuming there is such a thing as reality, if you have a false relationship with it, how can you do anything but fail?”
“Too much protection devastates the developing soul.”
“Just because you think something doesn’t make it right.”
“If you’re not going to be rewarded for your virtues, and instead you’re going to be punished for them, what’s your motivation to continue?”
“I have a hard time figuring out what kind of box to put me in…but I need to stay outside of boxes because then I can look at what’s inside them without being a part of them.”
“The connection between psychology, mythology, and literature is as important as the connection between psychology, biology, and other hard sciences.”
“There’s terrible evil and there’s terrible suffering, but the human spirit is capable of voluntarily taking that on as a challenge. Well, it’s worth a try.”
“You’re basically blind to everything that isn’t serving the purpose that you’re aiming at.”
“The most daring possible approach to life and I would say the most meaningful approach, is to tell the truth.”
“I’ve never seen anyone get away with anything. Ever. The chickens always come home to roost…let’s say you get away with something. It’s like yeah, you think so man. You wait — 5 years from now, 7 years from now — it’ll come back. You don’t have the power to manipulate reality.”
“Stop saying things that make you weak.”
“The thing you most need is always to be found where you least want to look.”
“You are not obligated to associate with people who make your life worse.”
“The well developed individual is the antidote to tyranny of society and biology.”
“I don’t think that you have any insight whatsoever in your capacity for good until you have some well-developed insight into your capacity for evil.”
“Speak the truth about unpleasant things.”
“Act so that you can tell the truth about how you act.”
“People think “I wanna get along perfect with my partner.” It’s like, “No you’d just get bored and go out looking for trouble.” And, so, you want a little bit of trouble in the relationship and a little bit of mystery, and combativeness and the ability to exchange opinions.”
“There’s almost nothing better than character development.”
“To make the world a better place, start by making yourself a better person.”
#goalrecon #goals #hardtokill #mindset #jordanpeterson #12rulesoflife #consistency #habitcreation #behaviorchange #accountability #nevergiveup #barrierbreaker #fearless #lifestyle #perspective #satoriseeking #humanspirit #attiude #gratitude #worlddomination #impact #achievement #tandemllc
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lifeofrachelsthings · 6 years
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#habitcreator #believeinyourself #productiveday
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rachelspa · 7 years
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Black bean & protein brownies 🍫🍓 Perfect for treating yourself the right way 😉 Recipe below: - 400g black beans - 2 tbsp cocoa powder 🍫 - 2 scoops chocolate protein powder - ½ cup maple syrup 🍯 - 1 tbsp coconut sugar - ¼ cup coconut oil 🌰 - 2 tbsp vanilla extract - 1 tbsp baking powder
METHOD 1. Preheat oven 180 degrees 2. Line baking tray 3. Combine all ingredients in food processor 4. Spoon mixture into a baking tin 5. Bake for 20min
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juliedeardorff · 6 years
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“We do what we truly want to do. If you truly want to change certain areas of your life, you will make the necessary changes in your lifestyle.” -Sharon Ramsey
People often have the same goals for years: get in shape, weed out, get organized, have more time, save money, get out of debt, lose weight, fit into old clothes, have less stress, follow their passions, etc.
For years I reached out to anyone I interacted with to help achieve their goals; I naturally assumed their commitment level matched mine, invested my belief in their potential, and ultimately tried to change their habits and behavior based on my own experiences.
In doing so, I discovered this: Goal achievement doesn’t work that way.
You can’t make someone be motivated; you can’t make anyone do anything long-term they aren’t ready for. You can’t travel anyone else’s journey for them.
In all my efforts to help people with their goals, I made a fundamental mistake: I was trying to help those who weren’t truly ready for the help. I had initiated every conversation about their goals. I had supplied external motivation to kick them in gear and then expected them to succeed using my methods.
All the belief in the world won’t get someone to believe in themselves and inspire change. It has to start from within, and it has to be on their terms and in their own time frame.
It took me a long time to find the courage to turn my passion into a business. I asked myself, “How can I expect to help people with their goals if I myself struggle in certain areas? Don’t I have to conquer the world first to rate guiding others on their path to success?”
What has changed since I asked myself these questions?
1) My mindset on perfection.
2) My desire to empower others was bursting at the seams. You can only hold back something inside yourself for so long before the dam breaks.
I challenge you to question the reasons holding you back from succeeding in your goals. If you’ve had the same goal year after year, ask yourself why.
My favorite rationality was from someone I had given a personal training package to at Fitness Together: “I’m waiting to get in shape before I use it; it would be wasted on me right now.” The kicker was that I understood what she meant; ego barriers get in the way of success a lot.
Fear is another barrier. Fear of what others will think; fear of failure; fear of success.
I’m not going to delve into other types of barriers; I’ve hit them all and could write a book on the mistakes I’ve made; I’ll likely make a better mistake tomorrow. What I will do is end with a list of things I wish I had internalized sooner in hopes it will help someone struggling with their goals right now.
Feel free to add to this list in comments; it might be something someone else needs to hear.
1. Practice unconditional self-love, self-respect, and self-kindness. Take care of yourself and make your well-being a priority. Don’t put your needs and happiness on the back burner.
2. Simplify your life. Eliminate anything that does not help you succeed. This includes things like debt, negative relationships, clutter, and self-doubt.
3. See yourself the way you wish others would see you. If you don’t see yourself succeeding, you probably won’t. Have enough self-confidence and conviction in your vision to stay the course. What you think about you bring about.
4. Stop punishing yourself for your perceived shortcomings. Stop putting yourself down. No one is inspired by self-depreciating comments and excessive apologizing; it’s exhausting to be around. Pay attention to your inner monologue and what you tell yourself every day.
5. You are responsible for all of your life choices and circumstances. Stop blaming anything else; stop making yourself a victim to feel better about mediocrity and failure.
6. Life’s not fair. It’s going to suck, some things will always be easier for others than it will be for you, you’re going to hit rock bottom, you’re going to have some very dark days. We are all experts at suffering on the inside for our own reasons. Our biggest mistake is assuming we are alone in that skill.
7. Hitting rock bottom is often the catalyst for change. When everything is falling apart, it may actually be coming together for the better.
8. Quit whining about toxic relationships that are bringing you down. Either choose not to participate in the drama, or remove yourself from the environment. Unfollow. You don’t need that nonsense in your life. Don’t become the things you hate.
9. Know the difference between helping and enabling. You can’t save people from themselves; most want your sympathy, but they don’t want to change. It’s not up to you to fix their problems, so stop trying to.
10. Follow your passions. They’ll never lead you astray.
11. When climbing a mountain, don’t lose yourself on the way to the top. Remember who you are, remember your values, and most importantly, remember who believed in you before you succeeded. Stay classy when success hits.
12. What other people think of you is none of your business.
13. You will always be misunderstood until you succeed. Don’t let it get to you. Let success be the vindication you need.
14. Don’t get distracted by petty things that keep you from your goals. Ask yourself if the things you’re worring about now will matter in a year.
15. Nothing worth it ever comes easy. The more challenging the goal, the more focus and diligence it takes to achieve, and the more fullfillment it brings. What you become and who you impact in the process is more valuable than the goal itself.
16. Never give up. Never give up ‎ Never give up ‎You got this.
- Julie
P.S.
“We are only confined by the barriers we create for ourselves.”
“Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. Let go of negative people, for they are the greatest destroyers of self confidence and self esteem. Surround yourself with people who bring out the best in you.” -Marc & Angel
#liferecon #tandemllc #goalz #hardtokill #nevergiveup #barrierbreaker #uncensored #behaviorchange #lifestyle #habitcreation #goalcoaching #accountability #achievement #worlddominationstrategies #seeit #wantit #workforit #achieveit #satoriseeker #humanspirit #tellmeicant #r8 #justbecause
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rachelspa · 7 years
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sunday morning done right 🍌🍯 #habitcreations
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juliedeardorff · 5 years
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“Unless you change how you are, you’ll always have what you’ve got.” -Jim Rohn
A friend from my last job texted me the other day — which led to a 30 minute phone call/venting session. He was complaining about the same circumstances he was the last time I talked to him over a year ago — the same people, the same issues, the same negative environment. It reminded me why I left, because I had turned into him.
We all know someone who seems more interested in talking about problems than actually solving them. Questions to insure you aren’t one:
How long now have you been complaining about a job you hate or a relationship that’s bringing you down? How long now have you been saying you need to get in shape or lose weight? How long have you been saying you need to weed out, get organized, have more time, or “get it together”? How long have you been trying to “stay on a budget” or get your finances in order?
If the answer is over a decade now, it’s time to consider a new way of thinking. We rationalize that as long as we’re aware of our problems, we can handle them eventually. 1) We assume we have time. 2) We assume things will look differently in the future with a different set of variables and circumstances.
Potential is not reality. Long-term goals aren’t reached when circumstances are perfect; they are reached in spite of whatever current conditions are. Mindset is often the last variable people think needs to change, when it’s actually the first thing that should be considered. It’s the same with the premise of an argument. If your premise is off, your whole line of reasoning from that point forward is flawed, no matter how right you think you are. Check the premise of your mindset often.
I get exasperated to see so much of myself in someone who seems determined, yet keeps putting off doing the work. As my angel of a Mother told me after her 30 years as an Occupational Therapist: “You help the ones who want to be helped. You can’t save them all.”
I do my best not to force understanding or give unsolicited advice (I hate it when people do that). Instead I just ask the obvious question: Is what you’re doing working? If not, the right mindset is a coachable mindset, and willingness to change usually happens in degrees, or cycles.
Jim Rohn says we generally change ourselves for one of two reasons: inspiration and desperation. When you can, aim for inspiration. The more you act in ways you want to become, the more your future conditions will reflect those changes.
Final questions:
1. What can you do today that will make the most impact tomorrow? 2. What’s stopping you from doing it? 3. If not now, when?
The common denominator is you, not external circumstances. What you do each day is how you end up living your life. As author Ayn Rand says, live a life as a monument to your soul. -Julie, gotgoals.org
#life #recon #goals #hardtokill #change #attitude #mindset#focus#purpose #growth #intention #potential #consistency#habitcreation#humanspirit #inspiration #motivation #accountability#seeit #wantit#workforit #achieveit #tandemllc #nevergiveup
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juliedeardorff · 6 years
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“Innovation beats the status quo every time.” - Mark Hurd, CEO of Oracle
My newsfeed is being filled with attention seekers lately.
Not a complaint. Just an observation.
I asked my Saving Grace friend why certain people regularly make a circus of themselves on social media. “Validation.” She told me.
Validation- compliance in a social activity to fit in and be part of the majority; conforming to the actions of others within a group.
Sounds awful to me.
It begs the question: if there wasn’t a ‘Like’ option on Facebook, would these people still post the same content for the same reasons? 🤔
Someone told me recently that they were abstaining from all social media to “avoid negativity and drama”. I told them to go for it; it’s good to unplug every now and then. But here’s what I told them I didn’t get about their decision:
You choose what content you want to see; you choose who’s status updates are worth knowing; you decide whose opinions you want in your life, and whose pictures and life’s highlights bring you joy and positive energy.
If you see negative content, you probably have negative friends.
Unfollow.
If you immerse yourself in drama, you’re going to manifest a dramatic life.
If you fill your head with inconsequential propaganda, you’re likely going to exhibit inconsequential behavior. Harsh reality, or common sense truth?
Why fill your mind with things and people that distract you and take your focus away from your goals?
If you see someone’s post and feel anything other than uplifted, informed, or encouraged, ask yourself why you’re still choosing to see it.
It’s been implied that you have to play the game of this culture if you want to win in it; that you have to follow the hype. I call shenanigans. You shouldn’t have to follow the hype; make it so the hype follows you or they’ll be out of the game. Define your own standards of winning and stop being concerned about what other people are doing. Water your own grass.
I’m not saying burn bridges; I’m saying you shouldn’t need to use anyone else’s bridge in the first place. Who you know is important, but not as important as who you are. Be an influence, not influenced.
The result of your life reflects the standards you set; periodically check those standards in every area—including social media.
If you’re scrolling more than you’re posting, you’re doing it wrong. If you’re posting more than you’re living, you’re missing the point completely.
- Julie
#tandemll #goalrecon #liferecon #innovate #goalcoaching #accountability #behaviorchange #habitcreation #consistency #goals #hardtokill #seeit #wantit #workforit #achieveit #barrierbreaker #episode37 #satoriseeker #slayin #worlddominationstrategies #uncensored #humanspirit #R8 #justbecause
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