#i can't imagine dating a physically active person esp

[aro-culture-is]

Disabled aro culture is being so glad you don’t have to go on dates. Imagine having to make yourself get up, go outside to inaccessible venues, stay out for hours, be emotionally available the whole time or even GO ON WALKS or HIKES on a low-spoon day for the sake of romance. Hard pass.

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#aro culture is #aro #aromantic #actually aro #actually aromantic #ask #mod kee #disabled aro culture #oh so fucking valid #i'm uncertain if i can claim the label disabled but i am chronically ill #i can't imagine dating a physically active person esp #i have atypical asthma that is highly resistant to emergency treatment via albuterol #and if my asthma has a chance to get even a LITTLE bad i may as well prepare for three ish weeks of hell #cause of the whole.... 'oh you have to have an episode for 10 days straight before we'll give you the one med that handles it' #thanks medical industry super cool. it's not like we've done this so much that we're well aware it won't go away otherwise #we know v well that my heart is getting FUCKED during that time too cause my resting heart rate through that period is 120+ and uhhh ouch #once was forced in high school to run the pacer test while wearing a heart rate monitor #shot up to almost 200bpm almost immediately when forced to run #and after 'cooling down' i ended up being allowed to just take it off #despite the rule of how you had to reach consistently ~120bpm on a down trend to do so #because every cough brought me straight back to 200. #and yes. that did lead to the whole 3 weeks of hell and being on hospital grade meds the whole time #if someone wants me to do a lot of physical exercise or go to a smoke filled area they can go fuck themselves #'oh you haven't had recent episodes so you're well controlled' no fuck off doctor that's cause i'm careful as shit about what i do #chatty kee