#i feel like ppl either undervalue intimate/sexual relationships big time or make some sort of holy grail out of it

[sgkjd]

it bothers me that I cant just say "im gay" or something short and my preferences are clear. no, i have to be like "i do love sex in a recreational way and also rather than romantically, i still do tend to get platonically attached. moreover, i also like to perform behaviors usually associated with romantic attraction but extremely casually, without giving them any special meaning. i look at each relationship in individual light, seek out where mine and another person's needs meet, then seek to fulfill those needs for each other." do u see my problem here. what's the short version of this. or maybe the question i should be asking is how do i introduce relationship anarchy to ppl in a quick and casual-friendly way without getting too philosophical or political.....

#but like no i also wouldn't have sex w anyone just bc it's fun for me bc as with any other recreational activity it's important who you're #spending time with and wether we vibe #like going to some art gallery together with someone that i know won't appreciate delving into what associations each artwork gives rise to #u know ...... #i feel like ppl either undervalue intimate/sexual relationships big time or make some sort of holy grail out of it #where's the middle tho #; words generated by me #asexual #aromantic #relationship anarchy