#if we're totally real 90+% of gender/orientation types of hcs are self projection

[aro-culture-is]

Fandom aro culture is wanting to be obnoxious about your arospec headcanons but the idea of anyone coming after you for them makes you want to scream

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#citnamora #aro culture is #aro #aromantic #actually aro #actually aromantic #ask #mod alexander #honestly i just don't understand getting mad at ppl for hcs #it's literally just. having fun with ur blorbos??? #and it's so easy to just. follow the old YKINMKATO (kink tomato) type of policy with anything (not just kink) #(for those who may not know: Your Kink Is Not My Kink And That's Okay) #(meaning: you like your thing - and it's not for me! - and that's fine.) #(this is not a moral failing. this is not a personality flaw. this is just called 'we are not the exact same person.') #also especially with queer headcannons like???? bruh. #if we're totally real 90+% of gender/orientation types of hcs are self projection #and mayyyyybe 10% have more textual evidence if i'm super generous #and even then!!! look. people are COMPLICATED. we are not some sort of monolithic group. we have interconnected identities #what reads to one person as 'oh that's a Bi person behavior' is entirely informed by their specific interactions with bi-ness #and - for example - white american culture around bi-ness is almost certainly not the same as han chinese culture around bi-ness