#it might seem petty and childish but after the Dec 2022 fights with my mom

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#negativity cw #my parents’ anniversary is next week and they are not getting anything other than a 1 line ‘congrats’ in the whatsapp group chat #no gift no party no surprise trip no nothing #I’m the eldest child and now earning so I’m half certain they’ll side-eye me for not doing anything #idfc #it might seem petty and childish but after the Dec 2022 fights with my mom #where for two days in a row she screamed at me for hours #about how I was responsible for their marriage being on the rocks and verge of divorce #as well as a host of other fucked up things #on top of similar such threats/emotional blackmail every year since I was 13 #I am never doing anything again to celebrate their Union #I still get them bday gifts and Father’s Day/Mother’s Day stuff #we still have a good relationship (ik it seems odd but despite everything we do) #but you don’t get to spend a decade blaming me for your adult inability to maintain your adult relationship #and expect me to celebrate it once I’m an adult #also my mom has repeatedly and very candidly refused to apologize for any of the above so this isn’t a case of #silently fuming and childishly refusing to communicate