#just . kiss women and have crushes on fictional men and eventually itll work its way into a label you’re comfortable with

[sapphic-luthor]

i am really on the verge of identifying as a lesbian because i feel like that label really does fit me but what’s confusing me is that there is one fictional tv show character who’s a man who is probably the only man i’ll ever Like but it does really confuse me as to why i feel like i may find him attractive but never any man irl

would just like to generally casually direct you to the lesbian masterdoc just in case you were looking for a bit of a read this lovely friday eve

#i will say i am like attracted to many a man who does not exist #this was part of the reason i was able to affirm the fact that im a lesbian and ignore some of that comphet #is bc i realised i only liked men in theory and not in practice at all #in my early days i’d match men on tinder and flirt w them and run for my life if they tried to meet #i’d make eyes at boys at parties and as soon as they approached me be hugely unwelcoming #like i only liked men who didnt exist or whose traits i could invent myself in my mind #and before i knew i was a lesbian i thought that was me ‘being picky’ #but actually it was me purposely (but not consciously) creating unattainable standards that no man alive could fill #because; reader; as you may have guessed; i did not and do not like men #but it took a while to work that out confidently! a long while #take your time in the meantime like #i always was annoyed by people who were like ‘labels don’t matter!’ bc i fucking wanted one i felt good about #and i got there eventually but all i can offer for advice in the meantime is like #nobody cares tbh. just lie. tell somebody you’re a lesbian then tell the next you’re bi and just fuckin wing it #nobody’s gonna bust your door down for using different labels whenever u feel like it #just . kiss women and have crushes on fictional men and eventually itll work its way into a label you’re comfortable with #answered #anonymous